Stingy godfather

[Anonymous]

You chose your child’s godparent for his money?

[Anonymous]

Is he single? DH never bought presents before he had me buying them for him. He hates shopping and didn’t know what to buy. I think a lot of guys are like that. Regardless, I can’t imagine being upset over something so petty. If there’s something you want for your child, but it yourself!

[Anonymous]

Gifting is a part of the spiritual bond? You are a money grabber. My oldest has her only aunt and uncle as godparents. All of my kids get gifts from them by virtue of being the nieces. I'm grateful my younger children's godparents don't materially gift them for anything other than sacraments as that would create a very uneven situation.

[Anonymous]

Give it up- my Dh's good friend for our wedding party didn't bring anything- guess what, I at first was mildly miffed but then never thought about it again. He's still a great friend. Not everyone know what "to do." Our own godfather bought something really nice but my DS never wore it- so figure that- who cares.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, we picked one of my husband's best friends to be the godfather to our child.
He never gifted the child for the baptism. He also did not buy a single present for the child's first birthday.
He is very nice and warm guy but apparently very stingy.
It's not so much that I care about presents but mostly about the thought of doing it for one's godchild.
In our tradition, godparent has a really special place in a person's life. God parenting is considered a very spiritual bond and gifting is part of it.
Anyhow, I am really disappointed. Mostly for my child. I wish I could undo the whole thing and pick another godparent but it's too late.

I hope that you're a troll. Otherwise you are just a horrible and nasty person. "never gifted" "didn't buy a single present", "I don't care about presents" (Yeah, right), "gifting is a part of it".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never heard of godparents buying gifts. if he’s a wonderful person isn’t that enough?

Actually, in our tradition godparents gift gold; either a small chain, pendant, coin etc.
But even if he didn't want to do that he could have bought a board book for bday or some such small thing.
He is middle class and totally comfortable financially. He is just stingy.
Stingy with money, stingy in heart is the truth about stingy people. I wish I could go back and pick another godparent but it's too late...

You sound like a fantastic Christian

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, we picked one of my husband's best friends to be the godfather to our child.
He never gifted the child for the baptism. He also did not buy a single present for the child's first birthday.
He is very nice and warm guy but apparently very stingy.
It's not so much that I care about presents but mostly about the thought of doing it for one's godchild.
In our tradition, godparent has a really special place in a person's life. God parenting is considered a very spiritual bond and gifting is part of it.
Anyhow, I am really disappointed. Mostly for my child. I wish I could undo the whole thing and pick another godparent but it's too late.

I hope that you're a troll. Otherwise you are just a horrible and nasty person. "never gifted" "didn't buy a single present", "I don't care about presents" (Yeah, right), "gifting is a part of it".

You must be stingy as hell if this irks you so much.

[Anonymous]

Doesn’t expecting a gift from someone fall under the commandment, Thou shalt not covet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never heard of godparents buying gifts. if he’s a wonderful person isn’t that enough?

Actually, in our tradition godparents gift gold; either a small chain, pendant, coin etc.
But even if he didn't want to do that he could have bought a board book for bday or some such small thing.
He is middle class and totally comfortable financially. He is just stingy.
Stingy with money, stingy in heart is the truth about stingy people. I wish I could go back and pick another godparent but it's too late...

Ugh, you sound awful.

[Anonymous]

Gross... what a gold digger.
I hope your husband finds this thread OP, because you sound like you only had kids for the gifts (and child support and alimony in the future)

[Anonymous]

Can't be too stingy in heart if he's one of your DH's best friends. I wish you had been honest with your husband that you do care about the presents and wanted a financially generous person as a godparent, not a spiritual role model.

I have a beautiful godson. I only gave him gifts for his religious events but I pray for him all the time. I thought THAT was my role.

[Anonymous]

My brother and my husband’s brother are our sons’ godparents. They don’t do gifts and didn’t for their bdays, baptism or confirmations. My brother is a forever bachelor (50s now) and my BIL is a mess- divorce, baby daddy to another woman after first wife had an affair and left him. Left baby daddy girl.

My kids adore my brother though they don’t see him often because he lives in another state. He’s hilarious and played the same sport they play at a professional level so gives them tips in texts. He likes seeing videos.

My sister is Godmother to both and has always doted on them. She acknowledges bdays and their sacraments.

I never thought about my boys not “getting anything” from their godfathers. I did think later maybe BIL wasn’t such a great choice, but my husband felt like he had to appoint him.

[Anonymous]

Isn't the godparent thing a religious thing? Like is is a support to any religious needs the kid has? This has nothing to do with gifts. Plus, he's a guy. If he'd gotten the kid a bible would that be a good or bad thing to a person like you?

[Anonymous]

we're catholic, and have never heard of this gifting business...I seriously would never expect the god parents of my kids to buy gifts....I believe it is optional (not weird if it happens), but I would never expect such a thing.

OP, you should not worry too much about this. I don't think everyone shares your views and it's really possible that he means no disrespect.

[Anonymous]

The "so" tell is undefeated.