How to support 13 yo bisexual son

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Outside of simply accepting what he has revealed and treating him as you always did, is there really anything else you have to do to "support"?

My daughter came out as bi and I think it was more important to her that I know and also that she hid it from me because she was confused by it herself than anything else.

I told her her orientation does not matter to me, I only care that she find herself a loving parter of whatever gender. She clearly wants to be married and have children. She can do that with a man or a woman.

One thing that was cute was we were able to watch some of the old shows she used to watch and she could finally reveal her crush characters to me.

She has an online group of friends on the LGBTQ spectrum and its a non issue. She is 14, has a boyfriend in Erie PA that she met via gaming. She has never been kissed. With Covid it looks like it will be a while.

The way I see it, I will just continue to tell her what I know about people and relationships, which is the best support I can give her.

Simply accepting what he says at face value so he could offload it and be secure in knowing you still love him is all the support he probably needs. Im not sure he needs a support group, why would he? You could let him decide when his orientation is a problem, if it ever is, and get support then. Just an option.

But she can’t have a child that’s both hers and her spouses if she marries a woman.

[Anonymous]

Make him tacos AND sausages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You probably know this already but most people do phase out of bisexuality into just gay.

I’m 43. Being gay or bi at 13 was not even in my radar. For what it’s worth I’m extremely happy. Married to my husband for 20 years. 3 kids. Thriving. And your sons has way less challenges today than existed 25 years ago.

Please stop trying to erase us.

OP, I’m bisexual. We exist; our identities are not experimentation or a waystation to something else. We are just as legitimate as everyone else.

+1

-54 yo bisexual male who was first with another man close to 30 years ago who still enjoys being with my female partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You probably know this already but most people do phase out of bisexuality into just gay.

I’m 43. Being gay or bi at 13 was not even in my radar. For what it’s worth I’m extremely happy. Married to my husband for 20 years. 3 kids. Thriving. And your sons has way less challenges today than existed 25 years ago.

Please stop trying to erase us.

OP, I’m bisexual. We exist; our identities are not experimentation or a waystation to something else. We are just as legitimate as everyone else.

+1

-54 yo bisexual male who was first with another man close to 30 years ago who still enjoys being with my female partner.

And did you come out as bisexual at 13?

There reason the statement was made was because, as so many gay men will tell you, claiming to be bisexual was the stepping stone on the way to fully acknowledging their homosexuality to the point that it's cliche. And even today there's far more gay men then genuine bisexual men, if we accept all those in the closet cheating on their wives on the dating apps as gay rather than bisexual.

I do think it's unlikely a 13 year old boy would announce he's bisexual if he was genuinely bisexual. That tends to come out later in life. They chase the girls first due to popular pressure. It's sensible for the OP to be aware of this likely inevitability.