Things that make you go hmmmmm

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:When people idolize their parents' or especially their grandparents' long marriage. So dumb and naive. You have no idea whether Granny loved being stuck at home cooking and cleaning and raising babies all day when she had no choice, and you have no idea whether Gramps kept it in his pants. Zero. It seems far more likely to me that marriages were less happy back then, it's just they weren't allowed to divorce.

Lol. These are the same posters who claim that none of their close friends have had an affair.

People who did not have a happy childhood and were not raised in a loving marriage. They are cynical and don’t realize the trauma and jealousy and dysfunction that resulted from witnessing two unhappy people is now their own destiny as well. They are not nice people and can’t understand honesty or integrity. They end up selfish and bitter.

Project much? My parents have been married for 40 years. Happily.

However, I understand certain realities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When people idolize their parents' or especially their grandparents' long marriage. So dumb and naive. You have no idea whether Granny loved being stuck at home cooking and cleaning and raising babies all day when she had no choice, and you have no idea whether Gramps kept it in his pants. Zero. It seems far more likely to me that marriages were less happy back then, it's just they weren't allowed to divorce.

Lol. These are the same posters who claim that none of their close friends have had an affair.

People who did not have a happy childhood and were not raised in a loving marriage. They are cynical and don’t realize the trauma and jealousy and dysfunction that resulted from witnessing two unhappy people is now their own destiny as well. They are not nice people and can’t understand honesty or integrity. They end up selfish and bitter.

Project much? My parents have been married for 40 years. Happily.

However, I understand certain realities.

The post you are commenting on is in direct response to the two miserable, cynical pps above. And, yes, I am surrounded by people that brag that their parents never attended one of their sporting events and showed little affection and yet they turned out fine—as justification for their behavior with their own children and spouses. There is a lot of hurt and dysfunction in adults that stems from their childhood.

[Anonymous]

Shared email or social account = you have no life other than your relationship, and/or you suspect cheating and have major trust issues. Either way, you are deeply insecure and aren't living full lives individually or as a couple.

Over-praise on FB = deep insecurity. The most FB performative couples I know are all either divorced or in therapy for cheating.

[Anonymous]

People who change their relationship status on FB weekly based on whether or not they had a fight with their SO. Or those who argue in the comment section and air family dirty laundry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shared email or social account = you have no life other than your relationship, and/or you suspect cheating and have major trust issues. Either way, you are deeply insecure and aren't living full lives individually or as a couple.

Over-praise on FB = deep insecurity. The most FB performative couples I know are all either divorced or in therapy for cheating.

Yep, this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When people idolize their parents' or especially their grandparents' long marriage. So dumb and naive. You have no idea whether Granny loved being stuck at home cooking and cleaning and raising babies all day when she had no choice, and you have no idea whether Gramps kept it in his pants. Zero. It seems far more likely to me that marriages were less happy back then, it's just they weren't allowed to divorce.

Don’t be so cynical! I spent a lot of time with my grandparents before they died in their 90’s and I took many long walks with my grandmother. They were incredibly happy and watching my grandfather care for her when dementia set in was a sign of real love and devotion. My parents are in their late 60’s and live right near us so I see them all the time and I hope to be as happy in 30 years as they are today. My sense is that people who are cynical grew up in broken homes and assume that everyone is miserable but fake being happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When people idolize their parents' or especially their grandparents' long marriage. So dumb and naive. You have no idea whether Granny loved being stuck at home cooking and cleaning and raising babies all day when she had no choice, and you have no idea whether Gramps kept it in his pants. Zero. It seems far more likely to me that marriages were less happy back then, it's just they weren't allowed to divorce.

Don’t be so cynical! I spent a lot of time with my grandparents before they died in their 90’s and I took many long walks with my grandmother. They were incredibly happy and watching my grandfather care for her when dementia set in was a sign of real love and devotion. My parents are in their late 60’s and live right near us so I see them all the time and I hope to be as happy in 30 years as they are today. My sense is that people who are cynical grew up in broken homes and assume that everyone is miserable but fake being happy.

My grandfather was always pinching my grandma’s @ss and trying to kiss her and she would get a twinkle in her eye and pretend to shoo him away when we stayed with them as grandkids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When people idolize their parents' or especially their grandparents' long marriage. So dumb and naive. You have no idea whether Granny loved being stuck at home cooking and cleaning and raising babies all day when she had no choice, and you have no idea whether Gramps kept it in his pants. Zero. It seems far more likely to me that marriages were less happy back then, it's just they weren't allowed to divorce.

OMG this. I had a relative of my parents generation who was held up by everyone as a pillar of the community, until his secret second family showed up at his funeral.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This term originated from Arsenio Hall.

It then was turned into a dance song.

Sorry, just a fun fact.

Signed,
A Middle-Aged Woman Who Remembers.....

Yes! Another middle aged woman here, loved watching Arsenio!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XF2ayWcJfxo&ab_channel=CCMusicFactoryVEVO

90's were fun!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jzzGjCmABzw&t=6s&ab_channel=Hallywoodone

[Anonymous]

Neither my aunt nor mother in law have a personal email address. They use their husbands’ email and it’s incredibly annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When people idolize their parents' or especially their grandparents' long marriage. So dumb and naive. You have no idea whether Granny loved being stuck at home cooking and cleaning and raising babies all day when she had no choice, and you have no idea whether Gramps kept it in his pants. Zero. It seems far more likely to me that marriages were less happy back then, it's just they weren't allowed to divorce.

Don’t be so cynical! I spent a lot of time with my grandparents before they died in their 90’s and I took many long walks with my grandmother. They were incredibly happy and watching my grandfather care for her when dementia set in was a sign of real love and devotion. My parents are in their late 60’s and live right near us so I see them all the time and I hope to be as happy in 30 years as they are today. My sense is that people who are cynical grew up in broken homes and assume that everyone is miserable but fake being happy.

My parents have been married 40 years and they are still very much in love. Heck, my dad enjoys playing golf with my mom and if that isn’t love I don’t know what love is! They are both very good looking and fit and there is no doubt that the physical attraction is still there.

[Anonymous]

Very attractive DW with a schlubby DH, who isn't rich. Makes me wonder if he is packing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When people idolize their parents' or especially their grandparents' long marriage. So dumb and naive. You have no idea whether Granny loved being stuck at home cooking and cleaning and raising babies all day when she had no choice, and you have no idea whether Gramps kept it in his pants. Zero. It seems far more likely to me that marriages were less happy back then, it's just they weren't allowed to divorce.

Don’t be so cynical! I spent a lot of time with my grandparents before they died in their 90’s and I took many long walks with my grandmother. They were incredibly happy and watching my grandfather care for her when dementia set in was a sign of real love and devotion. My parents are in their late 60’s and live right near us so I see them all the time and I hope to be as happy in 30 years as they are today. My sense is that people who are cynical grew up in broken homes and assume that everyone is miserable but fake being happy.

My grandfather was always pinching my grandma’s @ss and trying to kiss her and she would get a twinkle in her eye and pretend to shoo him away when we stayed with them as grandkids.

LOL this was my parents.

[Anonymous]

^ I’m the pp you quoted. My dad was like this with my mom too. Their love was so obvious and as a kid, though embarrassed, made us feel safe and loved. They showed a long, loving equal partnership and deep, deep love and commitment to family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very attractive DW with a schlubby DH, who isn't rich. Makes me wonder if he is packing.

Or the guy who steals the bank accounts of multiple women. It's never a big stud. My theory in each of our examples is they're smooth talkers who tell women exactly what they want to hear.