| A Concern I have if it is not a medical diagnosis then Health insurance wont' cover testing or treatments |
That's one big reason ADHD will stay in the DSM even if the name changes someday. |
Amen is a quack. |
This is my son exactly. It's heartbreaking. |
| The world is not set up for kids to go around choosing what to devote their attention to. To be successful in life, you need to devote your attention to things you may not necessarily want to most of the time. I don't want to devote my attention to laundry, cleaning, running most errands, walking the dog when it is freezing or raining outside, doing boring, pointless tasks at work, etc. The list is endless. If you didn't do those things, what would your life be like? It would be a mess, literally and figuratively. We can't always devote our attention to things that interest us. Well, not unless you are extremely wealthy and even those people remind us of grown-up children. My son has ADHD and he has some super creative ideas and he will find his place in life. But in the meantime, he has to learn how to devote his attention to the rest of his life. He needs to do his laundry every week, get up on time for school, do boring assignments, study for subjects he doesn't care about, read books he isn't interested in, etc. |
I have a couple of Hallowell's books and these ideas are not new for him - they are what he has always said and indeed they are widely accepted by experts. What is new here is the name. I don't see the point in a name change to be honest, unless the name is clearer and VAST definitely isn't. |
| My adhd son lacks attention. Plain and simple. Underestimated everything. Too little effort and attention to detail in all activities. He has been diagnosed with adhd and anxiety. So was his dad. So is he misdiagnosed? |
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Second for Amen being a quack!
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Depends. Are you gauging only by looking at the things you think he should be paying attention to or everything? What is he like when something that interests him comes along. I love having ADHD and find my DD with ADHD to be one of the most amazing, curious and interesting people in the world. I'd not trade my brain or hers for an ordinary/more common one. Can it be difficult? Sure. The world is made for the majority. But you can teach yourself to reframe goals and expectations to get through/over the most monotonous of things. But, to have the insatiable curiosity and drive to learn about and do everything about anything that seems interesting? It's like living with an endless source of wonder and the energy and will to chase down every possible version of life worth living. I'd love it if society was more aware of the way it really works because we can certainly be harnessed. My kid learned 5 years worth of an instrument in 2. She's not a prodigy. She has an aptitude but, most importantly, she loves it. And, so, she is extremely dedicated to its study. |
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I have add. Sorry for me it is a deficit in attention and executive functioning.
I have never been able to organize my possessions even when it stresses my life and ib desperately want to. I cannot stay focused without medication to fix my attention and that medication just makes me functional not able to do everything I want. |