Best approach to stop 6th grader from bullying 1st grade children

[Anonymous]

It sounds like both your daughter and the school staff have handled the situation very well. Now you are alert and can watch for any further trouble, but I don't think you need to intervene at this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Best way to stop this bullying is to make a written report of the incident to the Principal, Counselor and the teacher in an email. Send the email as an "incident report" and request that future "bullying" be stopped.

Use the word "bullying" and mention that your DD is now "afraid" to go to school and is stressed. If you do not use the word "Bully" and "Bullying" the school may not do much.

Mention that you are willing to meet with the Bully's parents to resolve this and have some constructive way to stop this behavior.


Any further emails should be done on the same email chain so that you have created an evidence "trail".

This is the only way to resolve this. You can send the email up the command line (Area Superintendent, Superintendent) if there is no improvement. Its amazing how everyone jumps to accommodate you once you do this.

- Ask me how I know this

Where were you 2 years ago...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Best way to stop this bullying is to make a written report of the incident to the Principal, Counselor and the teacher in an email. Send the email as an "incident report" and request that future "bullying" be stopped.

Use the word "bullying" and mention that your DD is now "afraid" to go to school and is stressed. If you do not use the word "Bully" and "Bullying" the school may not do much.

Mention that you are willing to meet with the Bully's parents to resolve this and have some constructive way to stop this behavior.


Any further emails should be done on the same email chain so that you have created an evidence "trail".

This is the only way to resolve this. You can send the email up the command line (Area Superintendent, Superintendent) if there is no improvement. Its amazing how everyone jumps to accommodate you once you do this.

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But this is a lie

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Best way to stop this bullying is to make a written report of the incident to the Principal, Counselor and the teacher in an email. Send the email as an "incident report" and request that future "bullying" be stopped.

Use the word "bullying" and mention that your DD is now "afraid" to go to school and is stressed. If you do not use the word "Bully" and "Bullying" the school may not do much.

Mention that you are willing to meet with the Bully's parents to resolve this and have some constructive way to stop this behavior.


Any further emails should be done on the same email chain so that you have created an evidence "trail".

This is the only way to resolve this. You can send the email up the command line (Area Superintendent, Superintendent) if there is no improvement. Its amazing how everyone jumps to accommodate you once you do this.

- Ask me how I know this

But this is a lie

OP stated her daughter was afraid. The baby is 6/7 years old! Being bullied by a middle school kid. She isn’t exaggerating anything and she is making a good point. You have to call out the behavior for what it is. I wish I would have done that because it would have protected my child better than I was able to at the time. Protect your child. Send an email documenting the discussion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Best way to stop this bullying is to make a written report of the incident to the Principal, Counselor and the teacher in an email. Send the email as an "incident report" and request that future "bullying" be stopped.

Use the word "bullying" and mention that your DD is now "afraid" to go to school and is stressed. If you do not use the word "Bully" and "Bullying" the school may not do much.

Mention that you are willing to meet with the Bully's parents to resolve this and have some constructive way to stop this behavior.


Any further emails should be done on the same email chain so that you have created an evidence "trail".

This is the only way to resolve this. You can send the email up the command line (Area Superintendent, Superintendent) if there is no improvement. Its amazing how everyone jumps to accommodate you once you do this.

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This exactly this. I would also imply you were concerned 11-12 year olds are on the playground the same time a s 5-6 year olds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Best way to stop this bullying is to make a written report of the incident to the Principal, Counselor and the teacher in an email. Send the email as an "incident report" and request that future "bullying" be stopped.

Use the word "bullying" and mention that your DD is now "afraid" to go to school and is stressed. If you do not use the word "Bully" and "Bullying" the school may not do much.

Mention that you are willing to meet with the Bully's parents to resolve this and have some constructive way to stop this behavior.


Any further emails should be done on the same email chain so that you have created an evidence "trail".

This is the only way to resolve this. You can send the email up the command line (Area Superintendent, Superintendent) if there is no improvement. Its amazing how everyone jumps to accommodate you once you do this.

- Ask me how I know this

But this is a lie

NP. It's not a lie OP's daughter said she was scared. OP's daughter did remarkably well for her age in the situation, but this is how you follow up. OP asked for advice, and this is how you do it. There should be follow up to this incident and OP should have details as to what the next steps are.
Froom the teacher's email I get the feeling this is a small private, that glosses over these kind of things.

And to the he's 11 ground it's what they do, kids that age have been known to cause serious injury to kids op's daughters age. His behavior was completely out of line and over the top aggressive, especially when you consider the age an likely size difference. Don't down play it as kis wiill be kids. OP is right to be concerned. and want more intervention from the school, and pp is pot on with her directive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Best way to stop this bullying is to make a written report of the incident to the Principal, Counselor and the teacher in an email. Send the email as an "incident report" and request that future "bullying" be stopped.

Use the word "bullying" and mention that your DD is now "afraid" to go to school and is stressed. If you do not use the word "Bully" and "Bullying" the school may not do much.

Mention that you are willing to meet with the Bully's parents to resolve this and have some constructive way to stop this behavior.


Any further emails should be done on the same email chain so that you have created an evidence "trail".

This is the only way to resolve this. You can send the email up the command line (Area Superintendent, Superintendent) if there is no improvement. Its amazing how everyone jumps to accommodate you once you do this.

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This is good advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't consider this 6th grader a bully, nor would I think this is a systemic issue. Your daughter handled it perfectly. Just tell her to repeat her actions if it ever happens again. And, don't demonize the other kid. Tell her that sometimes people aren't nice and say or do things that are wrong, and if it happens to her she should stand up for herself and tell an adult. End of story.

Do you have experience with boys this age? I have 5th and 7th grade boys and normal boys this age DO NOT physically threaten and say hateful things to six year old girls. And they are too old to dismiss the behavior as kids just playing around. This kid is messed up.

I’d email the principal to create a paper trail and I’d be complaining really loudly about 12 year olds and 6 year olds sharing recess time. Even if the sixth graders are angels, there are too many opportunities for them to accidentally hurt first graders if they are all running around together.

[Anonymous]

I would email the principal. I have a ds in 6th grade. It is crazy to me the kids are on the playground at the same time and I would be pissed about this. Your dd handled it well but she should not have been in this situation to begin with.

I would also want to know what the heck kind of social emotional curriculum they are using. This must be a private school and I would take it as a warning that they don't have a good social emotional curriculum. Be on gaurd because tj

[Anonymous]

these situations may become more frequent in the future as your dd gets older.

It is truly outlier behavior for this to happen, op. If the school thinks this is normal then that is a big problem.

[Anonymous]

The age difference makes this extremely serious.

[Anonymous]

Oh geez the crazys are really active on this thread. Your kid is fine OP! Of course she was scared, but she responded perfectly. I wouldn't worry about it unless it happens again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First, I totally get why this sort of freaks you out. But with somewhat older kids, I've seen all sorts of bad behavior on the playground--and particularly bad language. If this is just a one-time thing wth a 6th grader being a jerk--but not actually doing anything--I really wouldn't lose any sleep over it. Kids usually "bully" kids closer in age, or in the same activities etc. I really haven't heard of a 6th grader habitually picking on a random 1st grade girl. So yes, he was a jerk. But it seems unlikely that this is going to be a pattern.

One incident of bullying is one too many. The 6th grader needs a good talking to and told that he will be expelled permanently if it ever happens again. His parents also need to be involved. A bully is a lot worse than a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh geez the crazys are really active on this thread. Your kid is fine OP! Of course she was scared, but she responded perfectly. I wouldn't worry about it unless it happens again.

Are you still a bully?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh geez the crazys are really active on this thread. Your kid is fine OP! Of course she was scared, but she responded perfectly. I wouldn't worry about it unless it happens again.

Agree. The helicopters are always in full flight in DCUMworld.