What does it mean when you say you’re proud of your children?

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Anonymous wrote:I roll my eyes almost every time someone says they are proud of their kid because it's usually not something worth being proud of. You're proud your kid got married? Really? Pretty much anyone can do that. You're proud that your kid had a baby? Again, even the most basic lifeforms can reproduce. I have used the word to my own kids, never in a social media post, when they have worked really hard at something, regardless of the outcome. I was proud of one of my daughters for doing her best at an athletic competition even though she didn't win - I wasn't proud because of how she placed, I was proud because she did her best. In general though I think the word is way overused.

+1 I am proud of my children for specific accomplishments and they don’t necessarily have to be ones the world will ooo and aah about. I express my pride in them only to the people who matter—not to acquaintances on the internet.

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Anonymous wrote:I saw someone post a photo on National daughters day about how proud they are of their 300 lb daughter. Beautiful inside and out. That’s ridiculous.

Love is never ridiculous. I feel sorry for you but particularly sorry for your children. You are a mean, hateful person.

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Anonymous wrote:I roll my eyes almost every time someone says they are proud of their kid because it's usually not something worth being proud of. You're proud your kid got married? Really? Pretty much anyone can do that. You're proud that your kid had a baby? Again, even the most basic lifeforms can reproduce. I have used the word to my own kids, never in a social media post, when they have worked really hard at something, regardless of the outcome. I was proud of one of my daughters for doing her best at an athletic competition even though she didn't win - I wasn't proud because of how she placed, I was proud because she did her best. In general though I think the word is way overused.

But, anyone can lose an athletic competition, in fact, most people lose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I roll my eyes almost every time someone says they are proud of their kid because it's usually not something worth being proud of. You're proud your kid got married? Really? Pretty much anyone can do that. You're proud that your kid had a baby? Again, even the most basic lifeforms can reproduce. I have used the word to my own kids, never in a social media post, when they have worked really hard at something, regardless of the outcome. I was proud of one of my daughters for doing her best at an athletic competition even though she didn't win - I wasn't proud because of how she placed, I was proud because she did her best. In general though I think the word is way overused.

I am someone that people would describe as having a strong work ethic and have advanced degrees, yet my pregnancy and birth was the hardest thing I've done. Now, I had a lot of medical complications, but in general I don't think parenthood is for the faint of heart. Also, I am proud of the fact that I was able to pick a loving, supportive partner and break the cycle of abuse I experienced by my father. I'm saying this to say how I can see how pride is in the eye of the beholder and most of us don't see the full picture. It's not for me to judge.

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Anonymous wrote:I saw someone post a photo on National daughters day about how proud they are of their 300 lb daughter. Beautiful inside and out. That’s ridiculous.

Your post is disgusting. I’m glad that girl has loving parents. Your kids have to deal with your nastiness.

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Anonymous wrote:I roll my eyes almost every time someone says they are proud of their kid because it's usually not something worth being proud of. You're proud your kid got married? Really? Pretty much anyone can do that. You're proud that your kid had a baby? Again, even the most basic lifeforms can reproduce. I have used the word to my own kids, never in a social media post, when they have worked really hard at something, regardless of the outcome. I was proud of one of my daughters for doing her best at an athletic competition even though she didn't win - I wasn't proud because of how she placed, I was proud because she did her best. In general though I think the word is way overused.

I don't view having a kid as some unique accomplishment, but I often think it would be nice if either of my parents ever expressed pride that I am a good mom or even that I persevere at it through all the challenges. Everyone needs encouragement.

I tell my kids I'm proud of them for working hard. But I also tell them that I'm proud of them for things that aren't necessarily hard for them but are still worthwhile. I tell them I'm proud of them for being kind to their friends, for treating each other well, for finding humor in life every day. And I mean it. And if they get married or have kids, I'll be proud of that too. Not because I think of it as an accomplishment, but because it brings me a lot of joy to see them making choices that make them happy, and taking on responsibilities with a sense of purpose and joy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I saw someone post a photo on National daughters day about how proud they are of their 300 lb daughter. Beautiful inside and out. That’s ridiculous.

You have no idea of what struggles she might be enduring. You are a horrible person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I saw someone post a photo on National daughters day about how proud they are of their 300 lb daughter. Beautiful inside and out. That’s ridiculous.

I feel sorry for your kids. The post your saw is about unconditional love. Get a life!

[Anonymous]

My kid is special TO ME. You may think he's a sullen teen (sometimes he is) but there are many things about him that I am proud of. I'm a single parent and he sometimes does nice things for me when he knows I am tired. A few Fridays ago, I was exhausted so he used his gift card to order dinner for us through Door Dash. He may not be a terrific athlete or an awesome student but he can recognize how people are feeling and show empathy. That makes me more proud than just about anything.

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Anonymous wrote:I roll my eyes almost every time someone says they are proud of their kid because it's usually not something worth being proud of. You're proud your kid got married? Really? Pretty much anyone can do that. You're proud that your kid had a baby? Again, even the most basic lifeforms can reproduce. I have used the word to my own kids, never in a social media post, when they have worked really hard at something, regardless of the outcome. I was proud of one of my daughters for doing her best at an athletic competition even though she didn't win - I wasn't proud because of how she placed, I was proud because she did her best. In general though I think the word is way overused.

I don't view having a kid as some unique accomplishment, but I often think it would be nice if either of my parents ever expressed pride that I am a good mom or even that I persevere at it through all the challenges. Everyone needs encouragement.

I tell my kids I'm proud of them for working hard. But I also tell them that I'm proud of them for things that aren't necessarily hard for them but are still worthwhile. I tell them I'm proud of them for being kind to their friends, for treating each other well, for finding humor in life every day. And I mean it. And if they get married or have kids, I'll be proud of that too. Not because I think of it as an accomplishment, but because it brings me a lot of joy to see them making choices that make them happy, and taking on responsibilities with a sense of purpose and joy.

Being a good mom is something you should be proud of (and your parents should be proud of you as well). That's different from merely having a child.

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Anonymous wrote:I roll my eyes almost every time someone says they are proud of their kid because it's usually not something worth being proud of. You're proud your kid got married? Really? Pretty much anyone can do that. You're proud that your kid had a baby? Again, even the most basic lifeforms can reproduce. I have used the word to my own kids, never in a social media post, when they have worked really hard at something, regardless of the outcome. I was proud of one of my daughters for doing her best at an athletic competition even though she didn't win - I wasn't proud because of how she placed, I was proud because she did her best. In general though I think the word is way overused.

But, anyone can lose an athletic competition, in fact, most people lose.

Well, I think my kid still deserved to be told that I was proud of her when she placed second instead of first. I guess you'd call her a loser though, so I'm glad you're not her parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I saw someone post a photo on National daughters day about how proud they are of their 300 lb daughter. Beautiful inside and out. That’s ridiculous.

Are you saying that 300lb people aren’t capable of doing things to be proud of?

I have a friend who probably weighs 300lb. I don’t know, because I’ve never asked. But she IS a beautiful woman. Always styled perfectly, great hair, glowing smile, somehow picks the right style and colour for the occasion. She’s smart as a whip, funny as hell, and is just an amazing person to boot. Because of people like you, she’s been to hell and back with her weight, mostly because of jerks like you who can’t believe that amazing things come if different packages. She really doesn’t GAF any more, and I’m glad. So as a friend, I’m proud that she shut out the noise. Maybe that mom feels the same way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is special TO ME. You may think he's a sullen teen (sometimes he is) but there are many things about him that I am proud of. I'm a single parent and he sometimes does nice things for me when he knows I am tired. A few Fridays ago, I was exhausted so he used his gift card to order dinner for us through Door Dash. He may not be a terrific athlete or an awesome student but he can recognize how people are feeling and show empathy. That makes me more proud than just about anything.

Sounds to me like you have done a great job, so be proud of your self and your son sounds like you've every reason to be proud. I would rather have a child who is kind and thoughtful than one who.makes straight A's and is thoughtless and inconsiderate.

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Anonymous wrote:I roll my eyes almost every time someone says they are proud of their kid because it's usually not something worth being proud of. You're proud your kid got married? Really? Pretty much anyone can do that. You're proud that your kid had a baby? Again, even the most basic lifeforms can reproduce. I have used the word to my own kids, never in a social media post, when they have worked really hard at something, regardless of the outcome. I was proud of one of my daughters for doing her best at an athletic competition even though she didn't win - I wasn't proud because of how she placed, I was proud because she did her best. In general though I think the word is way overused.

But, anyone can lose an athletic competition, in fact, most people lose.

Well, I think my kid still deserved to be told that I was proud of her when she placed second instead of first. I guess you'd call her a loser though, so I'm glad you're not her parent.

There is pride for simply trying. You may not win a trophy but in your heart, you know you gave it your best and this is all a ybof us can do.

"When the great scorer come to write against your name. He writes not if you won or lost but how you played the game."