SIL getting divorced

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe they are better off with the ex and a nanny.

Have you told her you are worried about her and the kids? Asked her if she needs anything or needs any support?

Have you reached out to her ex-husband to see if the kids need any support (emotional, financial) from your side of the family. Or if he is worried about her behavior toward the kids?

Thanks
She doesn’t care what anyone else thinks.
DH is not close to her and I try to stay out of it.
I’m just sad for her kids.
Her DH has a lot of anger issues so it’s not going to be easy to be involved with him

We do try to get our kids together so the cousins can have a relationship but then we get pulled into different arguments which is stressful

This is aad. Those poor kids with 2 unstable parents. Any chance they'd let you have custody of the kids?

OP
Yes it’s very sad and confusing
I don’t understand why they moved so quickly and now have let their marriage fall apart
SIL is a narcissist but it’s really surprising to see her put a relationship with a guy ahead of her young kids
I think MIL will take custody if it comes to that, there’s NO way my DH would get involved at that level because his sister creates so much drama and we don’t want to bring that into our own family

LOL that's not actually possible. Grandparents have no rights.

I know right?

I love how people ignore the fact that these children have a father. Plus he’s hired a nanny so he’s got childcare covered and he likely has no interest in give up custody to his ex wife’s crazy family.

Dad apparently has anger issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe they are better off with the ex and a nanny.

Have you told her you are worried about her and the kids? Asked her if she needs anything or needs any support?

Have you reached out to her ex-husband to see if the kids need any support (emotional, financial) from your side of the family. Or if he is worried about her behavior toward the kids?

Thanks
She doesn’t care what anyone else thinks.
DH is not close to her and I try to stay out of it.
I’m just sad for her kids.
Her DH has a lot of anger issues so it’s not going to be easy to be involved with him

We do try to get our kids together so the cousins can have a relationship but then we get pulled into different arguments which is stressful

This is aad. Those poor kids with 2 unstable parents. Any chance they'd let you have custody of the kids?

OP
Yes it’s very sad and confusing
I don’t understand why they moved so quickly and now have let their marriage fall apart
SIL is a narcissist but it’s really surprising to see her put a relationship with a guy ahead of her young kids
I think MIL will take custody if it comes to that, there’s NO way my DH would get involved at that level because his sister creates so much drama and we don’t want to bring that into our own family

LOL that's not actually possible. Grandparents have no rights.

I know right?

I love how people ignore the fact that these children have a father. Plus he’s hired a nanny so he’s got childcare covered and he likely has no interest in give up custody to his ex wife’s crazy family.

Dad apparently has anger issues.

I mean, his wife did abandon him with two kids under three for an older guy in the same neighborhood. Wouldn’t you?

[Anonymous]

This seems fairly mild for family drama, and it's none of your business, OP. The children are being adequately cared for by one of their parents. The mother is old enough to make her own decisions.
The best thing to offer to have the kids over for playdates, but otherwise to stay out of the drama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe they are better off with the ex and a nanny.

Have you told her you are worried about her and the kids? Asked her if she needs anything or needs any support?

Have you reached out to her ex-husband to see if the kids need any support (emotional, financial) from your side of the family. Or if he is worried about her behavior toward the kids?

Thanks
She doesn’t care what anyone else thinks.
DH is not close to her and I try to stay out of it.
I’m just sad for her kids.
Her DH has a lot of anger issues so it’s not going to be easy to be involved with him

We do try to get our kids together so the cousins can have a relationship but then we get pulled into different arguments which is stressful

This is aad. Those poor kids with 2 unstable parents. Any chance they'd let you have custody of the kids?

OP
Yes it’s very sad and confusing
I don’t understand why they moved so quickly and now have let their marriage fall apart
SIL is a narcissist but it’s really surprising to see her put a relationship with a guy ahead of her young kids
I think MIL will take custody if it comes to that, there’s NO way my DH would get involved at that level because his sister creates so much drama and we don’t want to bring that into our own family

LOL that's not actually possible. Grandparents have no rights.

I know right?

I love how people ignore the fact that these children have a father. Plus he’s hired a nanny so he’s got childcare covered and he likely has no interest in give up custody to his ex wife’s crazy family.

Dad apparently has anger issues.

I mean, his wife did abandon him with two kids under three for an older guy in the same neighborhood. Wouldn’t you?

No. I might be angry at the situation and hurt. Anger issues implies lack of ability to control temper. Tirades and lashing out, things tht aren't appropriate with children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This seems fairly mild for family drama, and it's none of your business, OP. The children are being adequately cared for by one of their parents. The mother is old enough to make her own decisions.
The best thing to offer to have the kids over for playdates, but otherwise to stay out of the drama.

Pretty much this. Just be there for the kids as much as possible. Always have their well being in mind, and be willing to advocate for them if needed.

[Anonymous]

Maybe her ex-husband is an asshole

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe her ex-husband is an asshole

Nah then OP might have to place some blame on someone other than the evil SIL, and that clearly isn't happening.