Daughter freaking out about having to wear mask while playing soccer -moco

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you forcing her? Let her sit it out. You are being unreasonable.

I’m not forcing her. She says she just wants to play in games outside the county where she won’t have to wear it. I told her I think she owes it to her team to practice with them and not take the easy way out. If she wants to quit the team, we will let her. But she doesn’t want to quit.

So her plan is to miss all practices and home games? Just show up at away games and keep her position? That sounds really fair to the other players. Has she talked to the coach yet or her teammates? She need to get some perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It won’t be as bad as she is imagining it. Maker her try it for one practice before letting her decide.

OP here - I totally agree with this. It all seems to be anxiety related (she says she is scared she will pass out and embarrass herself. I don’t want her to give into the anxiety. And in moco if they actually get a to have a high school season I can imagine they might make them wear masks. She would die if she could play for her high school. She lives for soccer.

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What exactly is her issue with wearing a mask? Hard to help unless we understand the problem.

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We have been scrimmage with mask a couple of times. I would say most of kids are smart enough not cover their nose and pull it down frequently for fresh air.

Also be sure to bring multiple masks. The mask become soaking wet after 30 minutes of practice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It won’t be as bad as she is imagining it. Maker her try it for one practice before letting her decide.

OP here - I totally agree with this. It all seems to be anxiety related (she says she is scared she will pass out and embarrass herself. I don’t want her to give into the anxiety. And in moco if they actually get a to have a high school season I can imagine they might make them wear masks. She would die if she could play for her high school. She lives for soccer.

Then don't give in to her anxiety. If she really wants to play, she will have to follow the rules. Tell her not to let her imagination prevent her from doing something she loves. Hand her a mask and a soccer ball and and sent her outside.

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Anonymous wrote:What exactly is her issue with wearing a mask? Hard to help unless we understand the problem.

She says she is nervous she will pass out and embarrass herself. And that she won’t be able to play as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you forcing her? Let her sit it out. You are being unreasonable.

I’m not forcing her. She says she just wants to play in games outside the county where she won’t have to wear it. I told her I think she owes it to her team to practice with them and not take the easy way out. If she wants to quit the team, we will let her. But she doesn’t want to quit.

So her plan is to miss all practices and home games? Just show up at away games and keep her position? That sounds really fair to the other players. Has she talked to the coach yet or her teammates? She need to get some perspective.

I totally agree with you and we told her that is not an option.

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And I want to add she is a really good, hardworking kid who usually would do anything her coaches ask of her. She immediately agreed that
it wouldn’t be fair to her team to just play in away games.

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Anonymous wrote:And I want to add she is a really good, hardworking kid who usually would do anything her coaches ask of her. She immediately agreed that
it wouldn’t be fair to her team to just play in away games.

I think training is something you need to worry about.

But for games, it is unlikely to have travel games in Moco. No visiting team want to play with mask on.

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Anonymous wrote:And I want to add she is a really good, hardworking kid who usually would do anything her coaches ask of her. She immediately agreed that
it wouldn’t be fair to her team to just play in away games.

My kid’s team has been practicing in masks in MoCo. Experiment until you find one she’s comfortable in. Kids do pull them down under their noses and no one calls them on it in my experience. Remind her that everyone else will be in the same position.

It’s all a bit silly. I think almost all the kids on my son’s team have done small group training outdoors all summer with no masks or distancing, but the clubs have no choice but to comply with the county rules.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And I want to add she is a really good, hardworking kid who usually would do anything her coaches ask of her. She immediately agreed that
it wouldn’t be fair to her team to just play in away games.

My kid’s team has been practicing in masks in MoCo. Experiment until you find one she’s comfortable in. Kids do pull them down under their noses and no one calls them on it in my experience. Remind her that everyone else will be in the same position.

It’s all a bit silly. I think almost all the kids on my son’s team have done small group training outdoors all summer with no masks or distancing, but the clubs have no choice but to comply with the county rules.

As a hypothetical question, suppose the county made a rule telling everyone to jump off a cliff? How absurd does a rule have to get before you're allowed, or even have a duty not to follow it?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And I want to add she is a really good, hardworking kid who usually would do anything her coaches ask of her. She immediately agreed that
it wouldn’t be fair to her team to just play in away games.

I think training is something you need to worry about.

But for games, it is unlikely to have travel games in Moco. No visiting team want to play with mask on.

I briefly watched a boys game today. All the players were wearing masks but were not covering their noses. It’s really up to the referee to strictly enforce it but they didn’t.

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Suggest she try it once in a paper mask with it pulled down over her nose. if she is miserable and uncomfortable, and wants to sit out practices and home games, then let her. Its her choice. Personally I cannot exercise with a mask on.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, she needs to build up the ability to do this. So she either gets to enjoy her sport by herself or she builds the skill of mask wearing to play on a team.

You making an ultimatum won’t help her do either.

+1. It's because shes not use to it. My elementary kids have been in camp and preschool for 2 months so its 2nd nature to them now. My son has no problem scrimmaging in it..he has not done a game yet but he said he doesn't care about it..

It will take practice.

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Google face mask desensitization. There are some protocols out there that you may find helpful. Good luck.