Am I taking too many risks?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was interesting:

https://www.latimes.com/sports/story/2020-08-12/column-bill-plaschke-covid-19-experience?utm_source=pocket-newtab

He got it from a socially distanced outdoors lunch, without masks. Honestly I am not comfortable doing outdoors/distanced get togethers without masks at this time. I agree with PP about not doing kid's sports. I know some kids who still have taste/smell damage (neurological) months later.

But you have to gauge your own comfort level. Everything is risk mitigation, so even taking less risks along the continuum even if you don't totally eliminate risk will help you not to be too exposed. The thing that keeps me in check is knowing how badly the situation here has been managed on a national scale. Background transmission is not under control, and there are real issues with testing. Many people are pretending there is no pandemic. If I were in another country, I might behave differently.

What a melodramatic and stupid story. There should be no sports because he got sick with coronavirus? Okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Back in March, we did not leave our house and immediate street.
In April, we got groceries delivered, went hiking and saw no one.
Around Memorial Day, we rented a beach house with a heated pool. Still got groceries delivered and avoided all people.
In June, kids started going to tennis clinic outdoors. My parents visited us from NY.
In July, we went to our friend’s beach house and hung out with them.
In August, we rented a beach house with one other family. My kids started having soccer practice. I hosted 2 backyard play dates and attended 1 outdoor play date.

We still get our groceries delivered and don’t eat out.

Is this normal? I feel like I am taking too much risk.

What risks have you taken?

Most people are taking a lot more risks. I think you are perfectly fine.

I mean, OP is not fine in that her activities come with risks. Now, if she has decided that the risks are worth it to her (and I'm not judging, I've done pretty much what OP has done as well), then that's one thing. But she's not "perfectly fine" because she could have contracted and/or spread the virus during these interactions at the beach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the point of grocery order if you saw another family and stayed in a same house?
Eating out, meaning indoors and even outdoors seems like the riskiest thing to do, imo. So all good on that.

Why would taking one risk mean you should also take others? I would rather see another family than go grocery shopping, so just because I see the other family doesn't mean I am also obligated to engage in other risky activities. I mean, that's completely counterintuitive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is the point of grocery order if you saw another family and stayed in a same house?
Eating out, meaning indoors and even outdoors seems like the riskiest thing to do, imo. So all good on that.

Why would taking one risk mean you should also take others? I would rather see another family than go grocery shopping, so just because I see the other family doesn't mean I am also obligated to engage in other risky activities. I mean, that's completely counterintuitive.

Imo grocery shopping with a mask on is less risky than seeing friends without masks on. And if you were in the same house, it is unlikely you all wore masks around each other. So, it is not comparable risk, one is a much higher risk than the other.

[Anonymous]

Not even sure why you're asking. You know you're taking too much risk. Especially by being with other families indoors. Like many, you've gotten lucky so you feel emboldened. Or maybe you're asymptomatic and have spread the virus unknowingly. We ALL miss our families and we ALL have bored kids.

[Anonymous]

Look into recent research that shows that Covid is spread mainly through super spreader events. Something like 70% of people who have it don’t give it to one single person.

With that in mind, I would value personal interactions like being with friends and play dates. And limit situations in crowds.

If we get Covid so be it. I’m unwilling to quarantine strictly anymore myself. I’ve done more than you have and haven’t gotten it yet. I also know people who haven’t left their house and got the virus....they believe there are 60% who are relatively immune. I find the whole thing interesting, I think a lot of ppl are making themselves very miserable for a “what if”. But some ppl are more risk adverse than others.

[Anonymous]

What do you need to do?
What do you want to do?

For us, the cutoff is need vs. want. We are avoiding almost all 'want' to do things, which would include playdates and beach house trips with another familiy. Those sound risky and probably more than what is just necessary.

[Anonymous]

Everything seems ok except for the overnight visits indoors. Surprised that you think grocery shopping with a mask on is more risky than those activities unless you know 100% that all those people were FULLY locked down.

[Anonymous]

We never stopped grocery shopping and haven’t traveled or been inside with other people, but my kids have been having outdoor play dates for weeks and the kids are going to soccer camp. I know it’s a risk. But we cannot keep these kids away from people for a year or two!

[Anonymous]

You are why we cannot open schools. Enjoy your life but don't complain about why schools aren't open.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are why we cannot open schools. Enjoy your life but don't complain about why schools aren't open.

Schools cannot open until our children and their educators safety and concerns are adequately addressed. It's not some PPs fault schools aren't open. It's because of the virus. Part of the reason this has gone on for so long is the politicizing of this issue. If you know your SIL's kids have been sick with novovirus or rotovirus or chicken pox or whatever, you ain't sending your kids over there for a weekend sleepover right?

[Anonymous]

Fewer risks than I am. I’ve flown to visit family (with my family) and my kids are in daycare. Otherwise, similar although I also get groceries myself.

[Anonymous]

I’m high risk so the only things I go out doors for is for a short run 3-4X a week. Socially distanced and mask in full effect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is the point of grocery order if you saw another family and stayed in a same house?
Eating out, meaning indoors and even outdoors seems like the riskiest thing to do, imo. So all good on that.

Why would taking one risk mean you should also take others? I would rather see another family than go grocery shopping, so just because I see the other family doesn't mean I am also obligated to engage in other risky activities. I mean, that's completely counterintuitive.

Imo grocery shopping with a mask on is less risky than seeing friends without masks on. And if you were in the same house, it is unlikely you all wore masks around each other. So, it is not comparable risk, one is a much higher risk than the other.

I hope you're right about the grocery store, I go every week but never feel comfortable.

[Anonymous]

DH or I have gone to a grocery store once every two weeks. One of us took one kid to the doctor for an emergency (not bad enough for hospital, but dr was necessary).

In late April, one of our DDs was losing her shit completely being home. Her teacher drove over and they sat on the driveway on opposite ends and ate snacks together, chatted and her teacher read her stories. The teacher stayed for a little over an hour. Her teacher has done this once a month since. She is singlehandedly saving DD's sanity. I love her and want to marry her. They both wear masks except snack time and none of us feel that's a risk.

Otherwise we stay home except for walking the dog.