Question about nanny

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I had a nanny for years and many neighbors also have nanny’s. If you can door dash a lunch every Friday it’s worth it’s weight in gold. It’s just a food karma thing to do. Along with grabbing coffee for her once a week or so if you yourself grab one. The little extras will yield you the good ones. It’s not always about a high hourly, I find these small deeds actually mean almost as much if not more.

This is a good compromise. I'm so glad I'm not crazy. DH thinks its rude not to order her lunch bc he gets himself lunch each day, and if he had a guest over he would include them. I've tried to explain to him that our house is her office... I've already asked her for a list of snacks/drinks/etc that she would like us to have in the house for us.

He orders lunch out every single day? How bizarre.

He probably did it in the office.

[Anonymous]

Yes this could be a whole other thread but i'm picking my battles. They ate out at work every day and he's ordering the exact same things- fast casual.

[Anonymous]

Nanny here.

Providing snacks is really nice and it's enough.

Your husband can get her something from time to time as a treat but no one should expect it at all

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Poster above- we did that already. This is a hospitality quirk of dh where he feels uncomfortable not offering anyone in the house food if he’s ordering...

Your OP sounded like you’d be ordering just for her...

If he’s ordering everyday, it would build goodwill to order for her twice per week, with the same $ limit he spends.

[Anonymous]

Our nanny can help herself to anything we have. She brings a lunch every day though. When she babysits on weekends, we order pizza for her and the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a nanny for years and many neighbors also have nanny’s. If you can door dash a lunch every Friday it’s worth it’s weight in gold. It’s just a food karma thing to do. Along with grabbing coffee for her once a week or so if you yourself grab one. The little extras will yield you the good ones. It’s not always about a high hourly, I find these small deeds actually mean almost as much if not more.

This is a good compromise. I'm so glad I'm not crazy. DH thinks its rude not to order her lunch bc he gets himself lunch each day, and if he had a guest over he would include them. I've tried to explain to him that our house is her office... I've already asked her for a list of snacks/drinks/etc that she would like us to have in the house for us.

He orders lunch out every single day? How bizarre.

He probably did it in the office.

Wow that's gotta get expensive!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a nanny for years and many neighbors also have nanny’s. If you can door dash a lunch every Friday it’s worth it’s weight in gold. It’s just a food karma thing to do. Along with grabbing coffee for her once a week or so if you yourself grab one. The little extras will yield you the good ones. It’s not always about a high hourly, I find these small deeds actually mean almost as much if not more.

This is a good compromise. I'm so glad I'm not crazy. DH thinks its rude not to order her lunch bc he gets himself lunch each day, and if he had a guest over he would include them. I've tried to explain to him that our house is her office... I've already asked her for a list of snacks/drinks/etc that she would like us to have in the house for us.

He orders lunch out every single day? How bizarre.

He probably did it in the office.

Wow that's gotta get expensive!

Men don’t think twice about it. They aren’t expected to pack a lunch.

[Anonymous]

I would just ask her to make a list of the things she wants for lunch so you can get them when you shop.

[Anonymous]

Yep to both of the above posts, I think men tend to buy lunch more than women (but I could be wrong). I make lunch at home every single day. DH is just doing what he did at work, and basically has cut out every other expense from our pre-pandemic life so i'm not picking this battle.

I solved the issue by getting a grocery list. Thanks for the helpful suggestions!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a nanny for years and many neighbors also have nanny’s. If you can door dash a lunch every Friday it’s worth it’s weight in gold. It’s just a food karma thing to do. Along with grabbing coffee for her once a week or so if you yourself grab one. The little extras will yield you the good ones. It’s not always about a high hourly, I find these small deeds actually mean almost as much if not more.

This is a good compromise. I'm so glad I'm not crazy. DH thinks its rude not to order her lunch bc he gets himself lunch each day, and if he had a guest over he would include them. I've tried to explain to him that our house is her office... I've already asked her for a list of snacks/drinks/etc that she would like us to have in the house for us.

He orders lunch out every single day? How bizarre.

He probably did it in the office.

Wow that's gotta get expensive!

Men don’t think twice about it. They aren’t expected to pack a lunch.

+1
DH was missing the variety at his office lunches so he orders out at least 3x each week. I prefer to fix my own lunch at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What? Like everyday?
That's a nice gesture, but completely unnecessary. If you are home and are ordering food, I'd get something for her as well, but otherwise, she can bring her own lunch or eat whatever you/child are eating.

b

This. Sometimes the people I work for bring me Starbucks if they get one for themselves but otherwise I bring my lunch. If they say help yourself, I will sometimes eat a snack of theirs with the kids.