How do I convince my elderly parents in the deep south to come to DC?

[Anonymous]

Is this their home? Why would they want to move to the DC area?

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Anonymous wrote:With the exception of Texas and maybe Arkansas, every other southern State has seen decreasing cases for the last 10 days to two weeks. What's the point now? The time to leave would have been mid-June. I would call any single state there now "skyrocketing."

Unless they're in a county along the Texas/Mexico border, they're not skyrocketing in Texas, either.

This is incorrect. Two weeks ago, Georgia set a record for new cases:
https://mobile.reuters.com/article/amp/idUSKBN24B2QI

Mississippi and Alabama positivity rates on the rise:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/mobile.reuters.com/article/amp/idUSKCN24S2KI

Op, you don’t need a justification of wanting your parents near you. I want my elderly parents with me too. I miss them and want to protect them.

PP is not "incorrect", nothing that you posted indicates the drama of "skyrocketing".


How do you think you're going to protect them from Covid exactly?

[Anonymous]

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Nope. The travel is risky. Everyone stays where they are. They have their groceries delivered, and only go out for fresh air and essential appointments, with masks. No socializing in person.

You can guide them through everything and even order masks and gloves and hand sanitizer for them.

"Guide them through...?" You millennials need to have a little more faith in your parents. They're in their 70s, not 2-year-olds. You are not their parents, teachers, or superiors.

Do millennials have parents in their 70s?

Yes we do, especially those of us that are older millenials.

[Anonymous]

OP just let them be. I live the deep south and it's funny to read posts where people seem to think it's some kind of war zone where Covid bombs magically drop from the sky and we have to frantically dodge them for our lives. If they are being careful (and yes I mean truly careful not "we have socially distanced gatherings with the neighbors") they are as protected as they can be. If they are not being cautious, they're going out to eat, whatever.....they're not going to be any safer doing those things in your city either.

[Anonymous]

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Nope. The travel is risky. Everyone stays where they are. They have their groceries delivered, and only go out for fresh air and essential appointments, with masks. No socializing in person.

You can guide them through everything and even order masks and gloves and hand sanitizer for them.

"Guide them through...?" You millennials need to have a little more faith in your parents. They're in their 70s, not 2-year-olds. You are not their parents, teachers, or superiors.

Everyone needs guidance at this time. I'm glad my parents in their 70s are willing to listen to guidance even when it comes from their kids. If OP's parents are living in a state with skyrocketing cases, ti's highly likely the officials in the state aren't advising people correctly in how to slow the spread.

OP I think you have to talk with your parents. A move like this requires thoughtful planning and can't be done based on emotion, even though I understand your fears. If they are taking strict precautions they should be fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP just let them be. I live the deep south and it's funny to read posts where people seem to think it's some kind of war zone where Covid bombs magically drop from the sky and we have to frantically dodge them for our lives. If they are being careful (and yes I mean truly careful not "we have socially distanced gatherings with the neighbors") they are as protected as they can be. If they are not being cautious, they're going out to eat, whatever.....they're not going to be any safer doing those things in your city either.

+1. DH's family is in the deep south. Some are being legit careful (like his parents, FIL is a retired doctor), others (like his brother and family) are not. The people they know who got it have no idea where they picked it up because they are doing so much outside the house. But it's pretty easy to avoid people if you have the will to do it. Help your parents arrange grocery delivery, etc. so they don't have to go out.

[Anonymous]

I know this is due to covid, but it all sounds like, they are doing fine, and I am trying to make a mess out of my marriage, make my parents and my spouse miserable.

[Anonymous]

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Nope. The travel is risky. Everyone stays where they are. They have their groceries delivered, and only go out for fresh air and essential appointments, with masks. No socializing in person.

You can guide them through everything and even order masks and gloves and hand sanitizer for them.

"Guide them through...?" You millennials need to have a little more faith in your parents. They're in their 70s, not 2-year-olds. You are not their parents, teachers, or superiors.

Do millennials have parents in their 70s?

The older ones do. A millennial who was born in 1982 would be 37-38 today. If their parents were in their 30s when they were born, they're around 70.

[Anonymous]

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Nope. The travel is risky. Everyone stays where they are. They have their groceries delivered, and only go out for fresh air and essential appointments, with masks. No socializing in person.

You can guide them through everything and even order masks and gloves and hand sanitizer for them.

"Guide them through...?" You millennials need to have a little more faith in your parents. They're in their 70s, not 2-year-olds. You are not their parents, teachers, or superiors.

Do millennials have parents in their 70s?

YES. Millenials are in their 30s. I am the first "edge" of the millenial generation, and I turn 40 this year. People born in 1980/81 are the very start of it.

[Anonymous]

Are they mentally competent? Don't try to convince them.
Can you imagine how annoying it would be for your parents to spend their time trying to convince you to lead your life in a completely different way than you are choosing? Back off.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't try to convince them. They are in their own home, with all the stuff they need and want. They don't need extra care, and might be pretty unhappy stuck in your house for possibly months.