Donor Eggs vs Adoption?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I vote for adoption. It's unethical to intentionally create a child who is half adopted.

Well this wins the crazy award of the day.

This person is always on here spouting the same thing.

[Anonymous]

We decided on donor egg because I wanted to have an infant and a genetic connection. After donor eggs failed several times we considered adoption but we got overwhelmed and felt we would be too old by the time we might be able to get a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We decided on donor egg because I wanted to have an infant and a genetic connection. After donor eggs failed several times we considered adoption but we got overwhelmed and felt we would be too old by the time we might be able to get a child.

Feel free not to answer but where were you trying to adopt? Did you try from out of the state?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It may be useful to move this to the infertility forum, OP. Many of us have walked this road.

My DH and I have a child with special needs. When we could not conceive again on our own, we considered adoption but ultimately felt that we were not equipped to deal with the unknowns of adopting a child after birth due to the potential for FAS and similar issues. We opted to use donor eggs to eliminate that issue.

(OP) Thank you, this is definitely one of the reasons I am considering DE. As my age increases I know the quality of my own eggs goes down. I will check out the other forum page.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We considered both options carefully. Also took an adoption course that helped as per previous poster. We ultimately settled on adoption and have 3 wonderful DC. I have never regretted it and only wish I had done it sooner and wasted less time on infertility treatments.

What agency did you use, if you don’t mind sharing or was it foster to adopt?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I vote for adoption. It's unethical to intentionally create a child who is half adopted.

What the heck does this even mean? Also donor sperm, in various forms, has been around forever. It’s no different, except sexism.

NP here. This is a great point. I have to admit my initial reaction was “why would you create a child that isn’t biologically yours instead of just adopting a non-bio child.” But you’re right PP. Donor sperm is widely accepted when one person in the couple cannot conceive. I actually feel like it’s sexist against men though. Like we can understand a woman using someone else’s sperm so she can have a biological child, but we don’t appreciate the fact the male in the couple may want a bio child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I vote for adoption. It's unethical to intentionally create a child who is half adopted.

The problem is there are more families than kids.

.....kids than families...

It’s only the other way around for infants and young children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I vote for adoption. It's unethical to intentionally create a child who is half adopted.

Lol, there's nothing unethical!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We decided on donor egg because I wanted to have an infant and a genetic connection. After donor eggs failed several times we considered adoption but we got overwhelmed and felt we would be too old by the time we might be able to get a child.

Feel free not to answer but where were you trying to adopt? Did you try from out of the state?

No, we actually didn’t even meet with an agency. I just started searching online. I think we were just burnt out from Ivf.

[Anonymous]

Adoption, we’re fostering for a year or two before hand. But open to domestic adoptions not in the DC area.