I'm not talking day to day. |
I wanted a boy for my first and that's what I have. I truly had no preference for my second, but when I found out he was a boy, I cried tears of joy. I guess in my deepest heart, I just really wanted boys. I think it's because I am one of six girls and we just about killed our poor parents with our drama and fighting. My sons, who are teens, have always gotten along and there's been minimal (not none!) drama. |
In general men want boys and women want girls. It's not some alien idea. |
No. In general men and women want a healthy baby. I happened to get 2 boys, and that's great! 2 girls or one of each would also have been great but that's not the hand I was dealt. |
+1 This is why there are so many miserable people in life -- they think everything has to be exactly as they want it to be. We're talking about human beings, not just accessories like hand bags. I was shocked and disappointed when I learned I was having a boy when pregnant with my first. I could NOT wrap my head around it -- because having a baby was like having an extension of myself. I don't see it that way anymore. Now I have only boys and they are awesome. I think, from having been a girl growing up and seeing my boys growing up, that girls are way more complex creatures and I would have loved to have had a DD, but such is life. Boys are great. So are girls. |
I have enough resources that I can plan my own aging and death ahead of time. |
Why would I care about their gender?
They are individuals, with their own personalities. I wouldn’t teach toxic masculinity just like I wouldn’t teach a damsel in distress personality. You are your own best advocate, but that doesn’t diminish anyone else. |
I have older children. My two girls live in other cities. My son still loves at home. I absolutely love when his girlfriend is here because I love having a girl in the house. |
Maybe in your family but the boys in mine are WAY more helpful in this arena than the girls. For one thing, there's a doctor and an estate lawyer among the boys. ![]() |
OP, I wouldn't care but it's easy for me to say with a boy and a girl.
My aunt had 3 boys while trying for a girl twice after the first boy arrived. Those 3 boys (my cousins) now have 3, 2 and 2 kids, and only one of those kids (my aunt's grandchildren) is a girl. Guess whose photos I get on an almost daily basis? The girl grandchild. She loves them all dearly and is a great mother and grandma, but she finally got her wish and I don't begrudge her. However, I think it helps to remember to count your blessings if the kids you have are healthy and able to fend for themselves in the world. |
NP. I(first born girl) am the golden child who cut ties. My “cool” brother will be the one doing everything when the time comes. |
Yeah I think the poster who made the generalization that "boys are not that helpful" and girls are way more helpful is full of outdated thinking. I'm the one whose family is the situation where the boys are close by (and have useful skills like medical backgrounds) while the girls all moved away and are busier or more distant. |
I hope you never let your daughter have an inkling of this. Mothers that dislike their daughters and favor their sons are the literal worst. |
This is one of the reasons I'm glad I don't have a DD. I would hate to pass that along to a child. |
I love it! I also thought I would be a good mom to girls, as I grew up in a female household and most of my cousins are female. One male cousin. I adore DS, he is 21 now, and I loved being a mom to a baby boy and having an adult son. |