How far away can I be from the hospital the week before due date?

[Anonymous]

The parents want want want. YOU are the one having a baby!

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Anonymous wrote:If they are coming one week before your due date, how much do you really think you’ll be going? Just for a few hours a day, overnights? Hardly seems worth it.

Op here. They prefer that I go stay with them that week before and have a little family reunion. So maybe 4-5 overnights.

Will be delivering in a hospital in downtown Manhattan. What neighborhoods within 1 hour or so should I look at if they want an actual house (not an apartment)?

What do you prefer?

I'm not familiar with neighborhoods outside Manhattan to be honest so could use any suggestions. Haven't been here that long. Another poster suggested Jersey City which I am looking at now.

You said your parents prefer you to stay with them. I’m assuming then they will drive you to the hospital when labor starts? Is that also your preference? I would want to be home relaxing and making sure I had everything cleaned up and in order for coming home from the hospital. Not to mention confident that I would get to my hospital in time. I think before deciding where they should stay you need to decide what YOU want and what YOU are comfortable with.

[Anonymous]

Try searching on Airbnb for a large number of guests (like 6) - that might help you find actual houses.

Also, totally agree with PP - stop thinking so much about what your parents want. I would absolutely not want to go stay with my parents before going into labor. GTFOH.

[Anonymous]

I would look up in Westchester. More paths into Manhattan than Long Island, and less dense than a place like Jersey City.

[Anonymous]

Do you mean you'll be going back and forth from the rental frequently in the week before delivery? Like multiple 2+ hr drives at 39 weeks pregnant? I just want to say, that would have made me very uncomfortable (physically) at that stage of pregnancy, and it's really not good for your baby's position.

[Anonymous]

yeah, did you not see that video from the birthing center in FL (?) where the baby actually slipped out the lady's shorts in the damn parking lot?

NOPE, NOPE, NOPE

No way would I be willing to be more than 5 minutes from where I plan to deliver at that point.
https://www.nbcmiami.com/news/local/woman-delivers-baby-in-margate-birthing-center-parking-lot/2254164/

[Anonymous]

Make sure your parents quarantine before comig in contact with you. COVID is the last thing you want for yourself or your baby.

Really all family visiits should wait. It's not worth risking a sick baby.

Not sure if this is your first, but it kind of seems like it is, and now is the yime to be putting your needs, and baby's needs first. What your parents and other family members what goes way down the list.


In this climate I would be as close to a hospital as possible.

If I were you I would be telling the parents no. They are welcome to visit( fter wuarantining) my home that is 10 minutes from my hospital and birth team that I am comfortable while I try to relax before giving birth, and having life upended by a newborn.

[Anonymous]

My labor was very short and 2 hours would not have been enough time. Both my mother and grandmother had fast labors, so I was prepared. Check your family history.

[Anonymous]

OP, why are you creating this circus for yourself? A family reunion staycation a week before your due date is ridiculous. Stay home and relax. Your parents will have you deal. Can’t imagine having those kinds of logistics the week before my deliveries. Not to mention having to pee every thirty minutes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both of my kids were born at 38 weeks, 2 days, so I would say don't go any further than you are willing to ride in a car while in labor.

Same. I wouldn’t go out there at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make sure your parents quarantine before comig in contact with you. COVID is the last thing you want for yourself or your baby.

Really all family visiits should wait. It's not worth risking a sick baby.

Not sure if this is your first, but it kind of seems like it is, and now is the yime to be putting your needs, and baby's needs first. What your parents and other family members what goes way down the list.


In this climate I would be as close to a hospital as possible.

If I were you I would be telling the parents no. They are welcome to visit( fter wuarantining) my home that is 10 minutes from my hospital and birth team that I am comfortable while I try to relax before giving birth, and having life upended by a newborn.

100%. No COVID I would say this. With COVID? This is a seriously bad idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make sure your parents quarantine before comig in contact with you. COVID is the last thing you want for yourself or your baby.

Really all family visiits should wait. It's not worth risking a sick baby.

Not sure if this is your first, but it kind of seems like it is, and now is the yime to be putting your needs, and baby's needs first. What your parents and other family members what goes way down the list.


In this climate I would be as close to a hospital as possible.

If I were you I would be telling the parents no. They are welcome to visit( fter wuarantining) my home that is 10 minutes from my hospital and birth team that I am comfortable while I try to relax before giving birth, and having life upended by a newborn.

Quarantining is a whole other issue I am worried about. It would be very expensive for them to arrive 2 weeks early in NYC and rent a place for that period (on top of the next 2 weeks they intend to be here). I raised it with them and they said they would do it if I wanted them to, but were obviously reluctant. I should add that these are actually my in laws (my parents are deceased)- Just didn't want to start in law drama by mentioning in laws in the original post. DH does not want to keep them from seeing their grandchild and thinks I am worrying excessively.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, why are you creating this circus for yourself? A family reunion staycation a week before your due date is ridiculous. Stay home and relax. Your parents will have you deal. Can’t imagine having those kinds of logistics the week before my deliveries. Not to mention having to pee every thirty minutes.

The week before I am due is also Christmas week, which is why they are coming up. We usually would fly to them for Christmas but they are coming to us this time given my due date. Our apartment is too small for the whole family to spend Christmas at.

[Anonymous]

NYS is being hard-core on the quarantining. They’re supposed to fill out a form, and there’s a $2000 fine associated with not doing it. I can imagine it’s complicated since it’s your in-laws, but I’d send the info to your dh at least.

[Anonymous]

Regardless of Labor, I can’t think of anything more hellish than driving 2 hours at 39 weeks. I was miserable and peeing every 15 mins. Trying to find a comfortable position on a couch was difficult. Can’t imagine in a car.