A good spot for a adoptive family to meet with bios

[Anonymous]

My wife is a transplant patient. Her immuno-suppression medication made it impossible for her to carry, so we used a surrogate to carry our twins. We are the opposite, we live in MD and our surrogate lives in PA. Anytime we are passing through her area, I contact her and we try to visit her, it works out about every 2-3 years (we're also FB friends so she sees photos of the kids on FB).

We usually take her out for lunch somewhere. Lunch works out because the kids were/are used to eating in restaurants and between paper and crayons, travel activity bag and the occasional use of phones, we can keep them occupied and it seems normal. Also, we make sure to take photos of the kids with our surrogate and her husband.

I would recommend looking for a restaurant that has outdoor patio seating and is serving meals now.

[Anonymous]

Baker park would be perfect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A populated place. Not too remote.

One of the reasons I adopted from abroad as I did not want to deal with this situation.

What will you do if your children search for, and eventually meet, their birth families?

OP, it’s great that you’re keeping the options open for your son. When he’s older, it will be up to him and his birth family to decide how much of a relationship they want, but it will be totally their choice and not hindered by anything you as his parent did or didn’t do. That is a wonderful gift to him. I was adopted internationally and I too am in reunion with my birth family. My parents have flown there to meet them as well. It’s been amazing.

[Anonymous]

Ball's Bluff in Leesburg. It's easy to park and has a big green grassy area which is nice for a picnic or art project. It's part of the Civil War trails so there are also trails for walking. Not very busy but busy enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A populated place. Not too remote.

One of the reasons I adopted from abroad as I did not want to deal with this situation.

What will you do if your children search for, and eventually meet, their birth families?

OP, it’s great that you’re keeping the options open for your son. When he’s older, it will be up to him and his birth family to decide how much of a relationship they want, but it will be totally their choice and not hindered by anything you as his parent did or didn’t do. That is a wonderful gift to him. I was adopted internationally and I too am in reunion with my birth family. My parents have flown there to meet them as well. It’s been amazing.

My child's relatives have stayed in our home on multiple occasions, a few times for several weeks. It was fantastic. I wish they'd do it more often. I don't ever have to worry about my child's birth family as they are my family as well and would never do anything I would ever need to worry about and fully support us as parents and it makes for a much healthier child.