Anybody else feeling exhausted by quarantine?

[Anonymous]

I’m right there too. This week has been especially bad. I think the end of school and the realization that this is going to continue FOREVER. We have a nanny part time but I’m just exhausted. And unmotivated.

[Anonymous]

I usually feel this way in the beginning of the summer. Making it through the school year is hard, and when summer arrives it's sort of a deflation period.

I feel just about like I do every year, except I'm a bit sad my kids won't get the summer activities they love, like swim team. But I'm sure we'll get adjusted.

[Anonymous]

I feel exactly the same Guys! It’s been so so hard but I’m trying to take it day by day. Just to throw out some positivity, here is what I’m doing to fight feelings of gloom:

Exercising every day for at least 30 minutes
Drinking half my body weight in ounces of water every day
Trying to eat some thing healthy within an hour of waking up otherwise my mood gets dark
Making myself a cup of tea and eating dark chocolate every afternoon
Cleaning out one closet or set of drawers per week
Making kids donate at least one toy per week
Having a daily hourly schedule for the kids that they get to have the satisfaction of checking off
Limiting their screen time to when I need a break only, for me it’s morning and dinner hour
Making screen time disappear if their behavior goes downhill
Not worrying about cleaning the house or laundry until the weekend when my husband can help with the kids

This has been working for me and keeping the feelings of depression at bay so far. I realize summer will be more challenging, but every day is a fresh start so just keep trying to implement something healthy. My kids seeing me get down in the dumps creates for an overall negative mood in our house. My goal every day is to fake it till you make it.

[Anonymous]

Sleeping a lot sounds like depression.

I’m sitting in a chair on the beach and I highly recommend it.

[Anonymous]

You need a new job Op. you have no purpose and sounds like SAHM-ing is not for you.

[Anonymous]

I'm so frustrated by all of this. I haven't liked my job for awhile, but I was able to kind of ignore that for a long time because I had so much else going on. Social life, kid activities, yoga classes, etc. I had all these communities so work was a rather small part of that. Now all the activities are canceled, I miss the people and the time spent and am feeling the loss of that. Social life was effectively canceled for months and is still weird, so another loss. Kid is around and doesn't have much to do without camps or siblings or playdates or activities. So now basically all I have is work and it sucks. (But I hesitate to find another job because it's got to be so weird starting a job without ever actually meeting the people or seeing the workplace - what if you hate them and it when you go back to in-person stuff? And it would be hard to on-board completely virtually.)

Ugh. At the same time, I know I'm lucky in that I am employed and my family is healthy.

[Anonymous]

My mental health is suffering, endless hampster wheel of cooking, cleaning up, caring for 10 mo old and doing work calls is horrible. DH pitches in when pressed, but overall is somehow under impression that his work is more important and he is the bread winner. He is not, it's a dual income household, we can afford house and everything only on two salaries. But he sees me with baby or cooking and thinks I have nothing else to do at work. I went on antidepressants, the whole situation just made me rage so badly...

[Anonymous]

I’m considering a teleheath appt to get anxiety meds. Really don’t want that. Wish thc/cbd was medically available. Not to get high, therapeutic dosage.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I’m either working, doing child care, or cooking, from 6 am-9 pm every single weekday with an energetic 4yo who doesn’t nap and a husband whose work seems to think it’s business as usual since they were already teleworking.

Of course it’s exhausting.

DH & I take turns getting me time on the weekends, but I’m burnt out.

Don’t discount mental health—I’ve tweaked my anxiety meds and have a lot more energy these past couple weeks.

[Anonymous]

You need a new job Op. you have no purpose and sounds like SAHM-ing is not for you.

Now? Are you kidding? Doing full-time work and full-time kid care is brutal as is. Add getting a new job and "leaning in"--while doing everything else--that would be suicidal. Now's the time to be SAHM!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

You need a new job Op. you have no purpose and sounds like SAHM-ing is not for you.

Now? Are you kidding? Doing full-time work and full-time kid care is brutal as is. Add getting a new job and "leaning in"--while doing everything else--that would be suicidal. Now's the time to be SAHM!

Except OP doesn't like any of the aspects of being a SAHM.

[Anonymous]

Yes it's so hard!!

I find alternating the days of total vegging (just like hours of iPad) and days with lots of movement helps a bit.

But preschoolers are tough and hands on.

You are not alone, you are not a bad parent.

[Anonymous]

Every couple weeks or so I'll have a day when I feel pretty depressed, and I'll try to do something to make it better, like order something good for lunch or dinner.

I try to get out of the house to the park with 3yo every day that it isn't raining buckets. I try to do calls with people (either for the kid or for me).

I cannot keep up with keeping my house clean. Even if I worked on it from morning to night and ignored the kid, I don't see how it would all get done (and I'm not willing to ignore the kid).

I'm not even working at a job, and it's still super overwhelming sometimes.

[Anonymous]

I was ok making it through last school year and planning summer. Seeing the county’s plans for hybrid school next year really depressed me. It makes it seem like there is no end in sight. And, our office wants us back in person. Just can’t visualize how this is all going to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every couple weeks or so I'll have a day when I feel pretty depressed, and I'll try to do something to make it better, like order something good for lunch or dinner.

I try to get out of the house to the park with 3yo every day that it isn't raining buckets. I try to do calls with people (either for the kid or for me).

I cannot keep up with keeping my house clean. Even if I worked on it from morning to night and ignored the kid, I don't see how it would all get done (and I'm not willing to ignore the kid).

I'm not even working at a job, and it's still super overwhelming sometimes.

I’m currently laid off. I’d like to be doing online classes, but everything you just said is why I can’t. My husband has been working from home and has had a light schedule but won’t offer assistance during the day and has been pretending to be working during his lunch break. I found him taking a nap the other day. I don’t begrudge him not helping but it would be awesome if that hour he has off he could spell me for a few minutes. We have a very high needs child and I’m disintegrating as a adult human. He doesn’t help much more in the weekends either. He wants to do his workout and gets irritated with our child lately, so when/if I go for a run it’s utter chaos when I get home. It’s been rough.