Social Distancing Play dates — how to negotiate

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Without judgment, what is the point of adults distancing? I get at some point, being realistic, and kids will be kids, but if the kid gets it, are you hoping that the adult will somehow not catch is from the kid?

I too do not understand this. As an adult, I know say f it.

OP here. This gets to the root of my question. If the kids aren't SD, then why is anybody? The whole idea of "kids don't spread it" is pretty unproven just like everything else

Actually this is looking very true.

[Anonymous]

No way. But, rules apply to us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Without judgment, what is the point of adults distancing? I get at some point, being realistic, and kids will be kids, but if the kid gets it, are you hoping that the adult will somehow not catch is from the kid?

I too do not understand this. As an adult, I know say f it.

OP here. This gets to the root of my question. If the kids aren't SD, then why is anybody? The whole idea of "kids don't spread it" is pretty unproven just like everything else

Actually this is looking very true.

The way things have moved all over (airborne or not, finite or not) things are still pretty dicey to assess risk.

[Anonymous]

I mean, I don't really want to sit that much closer to other parents than 6 feet, if I'm being honest.

[Anonymous]

I'll go ahead and ask the dumb question - why bother having the adults 6 feet apart if the kids are basically on each other? Adults and kids in the same house are clearly sharing the same germs, so any kid interaction will just be brought home anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll go ahead and ask the dumb question - why bother having the adults 6 feet apart if the kids are basically on each other? Adults and kids in the same house are clearly sharing the same germs, so any kid interaction will just be brought home anyway.

Nevermind, someone already said it.

[Anonymous]

This is also a dumb question probably, but why wouldn't kids spread it? They seem to spread everything else!

[Anonymous]

Everyone stays apart. Kids get to talk to each other and do their own thing, draw on the floor/ sidewalk with chalk, bubbles, have snacks etc. My kid is also aware of coronavirus and knows that they can spread or get it. We are all equally careful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, I don't really want to sit that much closer to other parents than 6 feet, if I'm being honest.

It’s more sharing meals and drinks and a table not having a DIVIDE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is also a dumb question probably, but why wouldn't kids spread it? They seem to spread everything else!

The magic of the andromeda’s train of the coronavirus. It’s respiring. It’s vascular. It’s airborne. It’s surface transmission. I believe the theory is abundance of ACE receptors which decreases with age increases viral load of patient or vice versa.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll go ahead and ask the dumb question - why bother having the adults 6 feet apart if the kids are basically on each other? Adults and kids in the same house are clearly sharing the same germs, so any kid interaction will just be brought home anyway.

Nevermind, someone already said it.

They're wrong that it doesn't matter, though.

Viral load seems to matter, staggering may be helpful, and probably most importantly--

not everyone who is exposed to the virus contracts it *at all* (for a variety of reasons, most unknown). Remember that study of the people in the restaurant? Lots got it, but some did not, including people closer to the spreader than others.

So it's possible for Larla and her mom to be presymptomatic, but for your kid not to get it from Larla-- yet you get it from her mom. But had you kept a better distance, no one in your household would have gotten it. Maybe that's a 30% chance, but it's better than nothing.

Of course, I wouldn't let my kid be all over another kid right now, but that's the answer-- literally everything matters, or at least has the potential to.

Ugh, we have such inconsistent or nonexistent public health messaging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll go ahead and ask the dumb question - why bother having the adults 6 feet apart if the kids are basically on each other? Adults and kids in the same house are clearly sharing the same germs, so any kid interaction will just be brought home anyway.

Nevermind, someone already said it.

They're wrong that it doesn't matter, though.

Viral load seems to matter, staggering may be helpful, and probably most importantly--

not everyone who is exposed to the virus contracts it *at all* (for a variety of reasons, most unknown). Remember that study of the people in the restaurant? Lots got it, but some did not, including people closer to the spreader than others.

So it's possible for Larla and her mom to be presymptomatic, but for your kid not to get it from Larla-- yet you get it from her mom. But had you kept a better distance, no one in your household would have gotten it. Maybe that's a 30% chance, but it's better than nothing.

Of course, I wouldn't let my kid be all over another kid right now, but that's the answer-- literally everything matters, or at least has the potential to.

Ugh, we have such inconsistent or nonexistent public health messaging.

I'd like to also note that a lot of people are saying "playdates are okay because kids don't really spread it," and while I absolutely don't think we've remotely proved that... if you believe that kids are much less likely to spread it, you should understand why they can play together* and it still makes sense for you to keep away from the adults.



*I don't think this is true at all, but I'm talking about the logic of the position.

[Anonymous]

We don’t control how our kids play. This is all really stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, I don't really want to sit that much closer to other parents than 6 feet, if I'm being honest.

Yep. I haven’t smelled bad breath in months.