Almost 5 Year Old Still Needs Pull-up at Night

[Anonymous]

This is normal. You don’t need to “do” anything.

[Anonymous]

Our youngest wet the bed in spurts until he was 7. It ALWAYS correlated to a growth spurt, he grew his bladder didn’t, then his bladder caught up and we’d go again until a period of bedwetting. Once we (really me, mom) identified it we dealt with as it came. He’s almost 13 and hasn’t had an accident since that time. And this is a kid who is on/ahead of track for everything else. But physically his body was out of sync.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m at a loss of what to do. She is such a deep sleeper, she has no idea she’s peeing. Some mornings she’s dry, some mornings there’s a good bit of pee in the pull up. Pediatrician has said to not push it, so we haven’t. But she’s about to be 5...

Check the pull up 30 minutes before she wakes up in the morning. If it’s consistently dry, she’s peeing during wake up twilight sleep because it’s easier. If she’s wet, she is peeing at night in her sleep and you just have to wait it out.

This. Another alternative is just to leave her w/o a pull-up for a week knowing that you may have to come in and do clean up. If, at the end of the week, she is still wetting the bed, you just have to wait it out. But my DH, who is a pediatrician, says that, IHE, about 50% of parents who try this at 4+ will discover that their kid is dry and actually was biologically ready to potty train, but just peed by habit.

Yep. Only a very small percentage of kids are true bed wettest. For the rest of them it’s a learned skill like everything else.

[Anonymous]

6.5 and still in pull ups.

[Anonymous]

My oldest was dry, night and day, with little prodding by us a week after he turned 3.

DS2 is about to turn 7, still in pull ups, and has only just recently started to have the occasional dry night. Mostly though, he wakes up with a pull up that feels like it weighs about 10lbs. At 5 though, he was (and still does, occasionally) peeing multiple times PER night.

I wouldn't worry, OP. Any decent doctor will tell you that's a non-issue, unless there's an underlying medical problem. It wont last forever, I promise.

[Anonymous]

I swear there needs to be a sticky about this. It's perfectly normal, especially for heavy sleepers. She WILL grow out of it. My older daughter is a very heavy sleeper and the pee didn't wake her up. We tried what PPs have suggested regarding letting her sleep in underwear for a week or two and she didn't wake up, even when she peed. Rather than keep her in wet pajamas and a wet bed for a few hours until she realized she was cold and wet, we let her sleep in a pull up until she was able to make it through the night without peeing. She grew out of it around 6 1/2 and now sleeps all the way through the night and pees when she wakes up.

Meanwhile, my now 4 year old wakes up to pee in the middle of the night every night and has been doing it for almost a year. I preferred having a 6 year old in pull ups who didn't wake me up in the middle of the night, personally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of my kids were pull up till six and then was dry every night. My second child was not right at six and one to try the potty alarm. It took three years for her to be completely dry at night even with the potty alarm. I went to bed till I was 10, my both my siblings with the bed until at least nine. One of my kids wore a pull up until six and then was dry. My second child was not dry at six and wanted to try the potty alarm. It took three years for her to be completely dry at night even with the potty alarm (we went through the regimen three different times.). I wet the bed until I was 10, both my siblings with the bed until at least nine. The pediatrician said that he doesn’t worry about this type of thing until around age 8. A five-year-old who is a deep sleeper and still using a pull up is not an anomaly. Just wait it out, she will outgrow it.

You subjected your child to a bed wetting alarm for THREE years? That's akin to torture.

[Anonymous]

This is why potty training should be all at once, day and night no diaper while the child is focusing on it. If you miss that opportunity by doing pull-ups at night, then you just have to wait until peer pressure kicks in, years later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my kids were pull up till six and then was dry every night. My second child was not right at six and one to try the potty alarm. It took three years for her to be completely dry at night even with the potty alarm. I went to bed till I was 10, my both my siblings with the bed until at least nine. One of my kids wore a pull up until six and then was dry. My second child was not dry at six and wanted to try the potty alarm. It took three years for her to be completely dry at night even with the potty alarm (we went through the regimen three different times.). I wet the bed until I was 10, both my siblings with the bed until at least nine. The pediatrician said that he doesn’t worry about this type of thing until around age 8. A five-year-old who is a deep sleeper and still using a pull up is not an anomaly. Just wait it out, she will outgrow it.

You subjected your child to a bed wetting alarm for THREE years? That's akin to torture.

This is the PP of the kid with the bedwetting alarm. No I did not subject her to the alarm for THREE years straight. We tried it for the first 12 week as the program said, and she was dry until we took a vacation which was only a couple of weeks after going through the entire regimen. Then when we got back she asked to do it again. We didn’t do it the whole 12 weeks. We did it for about a week and I couldn’t take it anymore. We let it go probably for another six months and she asked for the bedwetting alarm again. Again we did it for maybe a week and stopped because it was waking the entire house up. So it went on and off like this for the next few years. For this kid we should have just waited it out and never use the alarm past the first 12 weeks following the alarm instructions. It was my child who wanted badly to stop wetting the bed and asking to go back to the alarm.

[Anonymous]

Almost 6 year old is still in a pull-up. She likely does the morning pee, but the pull-up is wet in the middle of the night and she’s slept thru the times we’ve forgotten and pull-up and she wet the bed. She even slept through us changing the bed and her.

We’re debating just going without and taking her to the bathroom a few times a night, but right now she needs her sleep more than anything else and I don’t want to mess that up.

[Anonymous]

Good sleep is more important than wearing underwear/pull up at night.

My kid was in a pull up until 6 and even after 6 wet the bed once every 2 weeks or so. She is now almost 8 and I think has wet the bed once in the last 6 months.
Stop worrying about it. It will happen when her body is ready.

[Anonymous]

Normal. Stop worrying.

[Anonymous]

Normal. My 5.5 yr old started staying dry 4 months ago. I waited until he had dry pull-ups for a month and then transitioned him to boxers at night. Zero accidents since, he was just ready.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why potty training should be all at once, day and night no diaper while the child is focusing on it. If you miss that opportunity by doing pull-ups at night, then you just have to wait until peer pressure kicks in, years later.

That's silly advice. And not what my pediatrician, or any pediatrician I know, would agree with. Day training is about teaching the kid to recognize the signs that he needs to pee, stopping he's doing, and using the toilet. Night training has to do with neurological development. It's literally something that gets wired in the brain, and not at the same age for every kid. Kids can't help wetting the bed.

[Anonymous]

My almost 5 year old is the same. He probably has an accident 2 days a week or so? We try without a diaper every couple months. I felt bad the other night because I heard him get up in the middle of the night. He had had an accident, had changed his clothes and had curled up into a ball at the end of his bed with a tiny blanket so avoid the wet sheets