Are separate bedrooms the death knell of a marriage

[Anonymous]

DH and I have slept in seperate rooms for around 13 years. Our sexlife has improved because of that. Whoever wakes up first visits the other person. And then things happen. We have sex few times a week. And we often "nap" together in the afternoon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He needs a sleep study. Snoring can be a sign on sleep apnea. My DH resisted, I moved to the guest room until he went to the doctor and went through with the sleep study. Took 6 months, but I was exhausted and felt i had no other choice. Literally, because his snoring was so disruptive it woke me up 5-8 times a night, but also from fighting about it. It was so clear that his snoring was a sign that something was very very wrong and I was sick of him ignoring it and risking his health, as well as mine.

Shocker, the sleep study showed he had severe sleep apnea and stopped breathing hundred of time a night.

My husband was also diagnosed with sleep apnea and is now trying to get used to a CPAP. His snoring was getting so bad and causing a serious strain on our marriage. I finally let go of the idea that I was doing something wrong by escaping to the couch or the guest bed— like my sleep was less important than potentially hurting his feelings. And wow do I love sleeping alone! After enduring years of kids who were not great sleepers and then husband’s snoring getting worse and worse... it’s just really glorious to fall into deep, uninterrupted sleep. The CPAP has made it so I can at least fall asleep next to my husband, but I still occasionally get up in the middle of night and move to the guest bed because I love it so much.

[Anonymous]

I have not slept in the same bed as my husband for over 10+ years due to me being a light sleeper. Our marriage has not been affected by this at all. We lay in bed and watch tv together, talk or have sex then when it's time to go to sleep he gives me a kiss takes his pillow and leaves.