I dont understand my daughters hair

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's four. I doubt she has damaged hair! My DD has curly hair and at age 4 her hair was a mess. Flat on top, curly underneath and sometimes she'd wake up with a frizzy/ curly mess. Your DD will grow out of it. Don't put product on a 4 year old's hair!!! Nor take her for fancy Deva haircuts (maybe when she is 14). I also would NEVER do conditioner only for a 4 year old (my DD and I do that now but we are adults) because 4 year olds need to wash their hair with shampoo. Just use a mild shampoo and mild conditioner and make sure to brush the conditioner through her hair before rinsing. She will grow out of this mess and probably into curls.

I agree with the PP above -- curls are hard. My mother has pin straight hair and I was a mess until I got into HS.

Strongly disagree with this advice. We’ve been cowashing for years (except during pool season, which is a non issue currently) and little kids can of course use products too. Why let your kids hair be a disaster for years instead of using kid appropriate curly hair techniques? My 4 year old would have been totally embarrassed with hair like that, instead she learned to take pride in her curls and they’ve always looked healthy and not scraggly.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like my hair.

I keep the top later shorter which helps it curl, and exposes the curls underneath.

The only good thing about my hair is that it holds style really well.

[Anonymous]

Didn’t read the whole thread but if you haven’t had it cut yet then definitely find a stylist who knows what to do with curly hair. It requires a lot of shaping to look good.

[Anonymous]

I have similar hair. A hair stylist that understands curly hair can do wonders. I never brush my hair when dry, only when wet. Never use a blow dryer either (frizz city).

[Anonymous]

My 9 yo daughter had hair like this at age until around age 7/8 now she has defined curls/waves. It’s still a mix and ppl would probably say she has 2c hair.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like a layered haircut could really help.

[Anonymous]

My hair is sort of like that even now. Underneath is less curly than you describe, but noticeably wavy. Top is bone straight. As my hair thickened as I got older, the top got thick enough to obscure the bottom, so it looks less strange. Just looks like I have straight hair w/ a weirdly large amount of body. Not necessarily a bad thing though. One thing: to this day, it looks weird in a pony tail where you can really see the two sections and they kind of stick out from each other perpendicularly.

[Anonymous]

That’s exactly my hair! The under layer has beautiful curls but the top is flat. Hair stylists have told me that it’s easier to treat is as straight than try to curl the top, or get the top layer to curl.