Nanny + WFH Not Working

[Anonymous]

13:20 again. Also, explicitly tell you nanny that it's absolutely OK to say no to the kids, even if they cry. You WANT her to stand firm and not let them keep coming in, because that's what's most helpful in the long run -- even though the kids will be unhappy and noisy in the short term. She may be worried about disturbing you, and going for the easiest way to end the noise. Or worried that you will think she's "mean" if she doesn't let the kids see their mom and dad.

[Anonymous]

My kindergartener would absolutely do this if I worked from home so I just go into my empty office or work from a park bench with my mobile hotspot. If I’m home she prefers my company over anyone else’s (including DH).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I use to say goodbye, get in my car, drive around the block, come back and sneak into the basement.

This is a good idea. Have nanny take them for a walk then sneak back in while
They’re out and leave car parked on another street.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I use to say goodbye, get in my car, drive around the block, come back and sneak into the basement.

This is a good idea. Have nanny take them for a walk then sneak back in while
They’re out and leave car parked on another street.

This is ingenious and hilarious.

I hope someday you tell your kid and all have a laugh.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:All this “pack a lunch” thing. Don’t they have to come out to go to the bathroom??

We have an en suite, maybe they do too.

Oh, yeah, everybody has an en-suite bathroom in their HOME OFFICE.

Many homes have master bedrooms big enough that they can set up a temporary office. And with an en-suite, there’s no need to leave and distract the child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:All this “pack a lunch” thing. Don’t they have to come out to go to the bathroom??

We have an en suite, maybe they do too.

Oh, yeah, everybody has an en-suite bathroom in their HOME OFFICE.

Many homes have master bedrooms big enough that they can set up a temporary office. And with an en-suite, there’s no need to leave and distract the child.

Many?? Haha! You’re stretching yourself all out of shape to try to make your inane point!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:All this “pack a lunch” thing. Don’t they have to come out to go to the bathroom??

We have an en suite, maybe they do too.

Oh, yeah, everybody has an en-suite bathroom in their HOME OFFICE.

Many homes have master bedrooms big enough that they can set up a temporary office. And with an en-suite, there’s no need to leave and distract the child.

Many?? Haha! You’re stretching yourself all out of shape to try to make your inane point!

NP you can’t fit a small table and chair in your master?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All this “pack a lunch” thing. Don’t they have to come out to go to the bathroom??

We have an en suite, maybe they do too.

Oh, yeah, everybody has an en-suite bathroom in their HOME OFFICE.

Many homes have master bedrooms big enough that they can set up a temporary office. And with an en-suite, there’s no need to leave and distract the child.

Many?? Haha! You’re stretching yourself all out of shape to try to make your inane point!

Many homes for people who can actually afford a nanny have enough space. Offhand, I’d say half f my former employers had space for an office setup in their bedroom (easily, skmple conversion from mini sitting area to a desk, printer and mini fridge). Of the half that didn’t have room in their bedroom, all but one had their home office next door to their bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Is your Nanny fun??!

Honest question.
Because if she plays w/them often & is very engaged - they should look forward to her coming every day.

[Anonymous]

She sacrificed her privacy and time plus put her health and life in jeopardy and you have the nerve to complain!

[Anonymous]

I had the same issue- had to have a serious talk with the nanny- not fun- and wrote out a schedule that she had to follow to keep kids busy. I also put a sign on my door, and reminded the kids every morning not to knock, and the went over the schedule at breakfast every single day with both kids and the nanny. In detail. It took about a week/week and a half but then it became normal not to disturb us.

I’m still pissed at the nanny though because I just brought home a baby and she’s let the schedule go out the window.

[Anonymous]

Kids are smart.

When you are home you are in charge.
When you are at work your nanny is in charge.
Now that both of you are home there is a weird dynamic where neither of you are in charge. You need to sit down with your kids and your nanny and have a chat. You should empower your nanny to be able to lay down the law when she needs to (do this in front of 3 yo). Set firm rules and stick to them. It won’t be fun for the first few days but I may help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had the same issue- had to have a serious talk with the nanny- not fun- and wrote out a schedule that she had to follow to keep kids busy. I also put a sign on my door, and reminded the kids every morning not to knock, and the went over the schedule at breakfast every single day with both kids and the nanny. In detail. It took about a week/week and a half but then it became normal not to disturb us.

I’m still pissed at the nanny though because I just brought home a baby and she’s let the schedule go out the window.

Well yeah... it’s practically impossible to keep a newborn quiet and keep 2+ other children entertained and on a strict schedule. It’s completely possible when you don’t have to work dry about noise and can fudge the schedule a bit to accommodate children’s changing needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had the same issue- had to have a serious talk with the nanny- not fun- and wrote out a schedule that she had to follow to keep kids busy. I also put a sign on my door, and reminded the kids every morning not to knock, and the went over the schedule at breakfast every single day with both kids and the nanny. In detail. It took about a week/week and a half but then it became normal not to disturb us.

I’m still pissed at the nanny though because I just brought home a baby and she’s let the schedule go out the window.

Well yeah... it’s practically impossible to keep a newborn quiet and keep 2+ other children entertained and on a strict schedule. It’s completely possible when you don’t have to work dry about noise and can fudge the schedule a bit to accommodate children’s changing needs.

Your nanny is still working with no playgrounds open, no playdates, no libraries, no extracurricalr activities, you're home, there's a newborn and YOU"RE complaining??????????? Wow.

[Anonymous]

My kids have been extra clingy and my mom friends have all said the same thing. I'd try to give extra cuddles in the morning. Let your 3.5 year old crawl into bed with you in the mornings. Can you start work a tad later and sit down for breakfast together or read a book together in bed? Something that makes her feel like she got some special time with you? You can explain to her that you are making special time for her and that the deal is she then needs to let you have time to get work done. If you have a baby, your 3.5 year old just went through one big change and now this. I'd be gentle in how you approach the behavior issues. Good luck!