Dreaming of divorce

[Anonymous]

I was dreaming of divorce since basically the wedding. Stupid social messages of "make it work" kept me in it WAY too long. Wish I ended it immediately. Biggest mistake to get married.

Divorce is almost final. I can't wait. I do not see a downside. A little financial, but it is worth it to have my life back and be free.

[Anonymous]

I just lost my sh*t because I go into the kitchen and it seems my husband could not put away ANY of the products he used to make his lunch. Used coffee filter with grounds from this AM. Chips out. Peanut butter out. Grape bag with a few grapes out. All on the counter, then he complains about ants.

My kids are grown. My husband is apparently not.

I feel you PP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just lost my sh*t because I go into the kitchen and it seems my husband could not put away ANY of the products he used to make his lunch. Used coffee filter with grounds from this AM. Chips out. Peanut butter out. Grape bag with a few grapes out. All on the counter, then he complains about ants.

My kids are grown. My husband is apparently not.

I feel you PP

My wife does this all the time. She’ll make her lunch and not clean up until dinner. I look at the open jar of mayo and wonder why?

[Anonymous]

I am not making this up. Husband opened bag of muesli to feed 🐭 ( he’s an animal
Lover). He kept the bag open and today it was shredded all over the fridge. And I saw 2 mice. We can’t use traps in his presence.
We are been basically cohabiting since he lost his job a year back ( he’s on the lease). I was moving in May to be on my own but plans are in limbo. Working online has proven to be much more stressful than initially thought and now I have to deal with mice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hate to shatter your dreams but divorced Mom here with no break. Kids are all mine during the lockdown and normally 90%+ of the time.

+1. Same situation here. Nevertheless, I would take this over being married to my ex. At least now I don't feel resentful that there's a totally useless person staring at his phone on the couch while I do everything. And no more dealing with his angry, controlling issues.

Yes. This. +100000

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes my kids are with their disgusting fat drunk dad every other weekend. The break is great, and the sex with non Fat drunk gross people is amazing. So is not cleaning up another adults skid marked underwear.

Why did you pick a terrible person to procreate with?

We didn’t know about CTE 16 years ago. But sure, I’m stupid for falling for an athlete.

That sounds very sad to me. Maybe try to find sympathy for him so you can let go of the anger? I’m honestly not criticizing you but maybe that will help you let go. CTE is a terrible disease. I’m sorry you went through that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Millions of women watched their kids full-time for tens of thousands of years.

Stop whining.

Millions of women didn’t watch their kids full-time with no social contacts, playgrounds, or any community activities for tens of thousands of years.

Ummmm. Yea they did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hate to shatter your dreams but divorced Mom here with no break. Kids are all mine during the lockdown and normally 90%+ of the time.

Haven't seen mine since schools closed. His dad makes him call me but I told him text is enough. If I left my 2nd partner, he'd take his kid also. Not a big deal. Both are great dads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Millions of women watched their kids full-time for tens of thousands of years.

Stop whining.

Millions of women didn’t watch their kids full-time with no social contacts, playgrounds, or any community activities for tens of thousands of years.

Ummmm. Yea they did.

Um, no they didn't. The world was the kid's playground and nobody got locked up if kid went missing or got hurt.

[Anonymous]

I am separated and my child is with me and it’s great. Granted, he is a 10 yo bookworm so not much trouble.
I got so lucky we separated before lockdown.

[Anonymous]

OP, why don’t you go for a very long grocery shopping trip?
Let me guess, your H thinks it’s not safe lol
Just get the damn groceries and sit in the car or take a walk.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes my kids are with their disgusting fat drunk dad every other weekend. The break is great, and the sex with non Fat drunk gross people is amazing. So is not cleaning up another adults skid marked underwear.

Why did you pick a terrible person to procreate with?

We didn’t know about CTE 16 years ago. But sure, I’m stupid for falling for an athlete.

You sure are. CTE has been documented since 1928. Stupid is as stupid attracts.

[Anonymous]

Me too OP. I think often about whether shared custody in a divorce is the only way I can get my DH to be with the kids. But I guess if he wants little to do with taking care of them now he isn’t likely to want to see them much if we were divorced, which is one of the few things when combined with busted financials that has me here still.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will say, the only upside of divorce is that you can boink something new while the kids are with the other parent.

The rest of it sucks chunks of dead chicken through a straw.

In a sexless marriage and I need to read this for a reality check. But man, what I wouldn't give to boink anything again....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will say, the only upside of divorce is that you can boink something new while the kids are with the other parent.

The rest of it sucks chunks of dead chicken through a straw.

In a sexless marriage and I need to read this for a reality check. But man, what I wouldn't give to boink anything again....

this is just not true. Signed, divorced woman