Is this irresponsible or a good solution for a date?
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Anonymous
This, OP. Do a Skype date or FaceTime or whatever. Even if he's not ever working with Covid patients, even if he's not in a hospital setting, his risk of exposure to potentially infected (even if asymptomatic) patients and coworkers is higher than the average person's, I'd think. I know two pharmacists who work in hospitals and therefore interact with doctors and others in the field but far less with patients; they both say they are still at high risk because they are around other health care professionals, period. Even if your guy is not in a hospital setting, if he is still working he's still seeing people outside the isolation bubble. If he's truly into you, and a good person, he would appreciate getting to know you. Since the date can't get physical anyway--or shouldn't--it's not necessary to violate the spirit of the various stay-home orders. And frankly once he's there at your house, if the talk is going great, it's going to be SO tempting to just let him use the bathroom quickly! |
Anonymous
| I think it's fine OP and sounds like a lot of fun. |
Anonymous
| I don't see a problem with single people picking ONE person whom they're going to date during this. |
Anonymous
| Do a Zoom date and you don't have to worry about the weather. |
Anonymous
| Why don't you just start quarantining together? |
Anonymous
| Did he come up with “ he comes to your house” idea? |
Anonymous
| why 10'? Isn't the guideline 6'? I wouldn't even be able to hear someone 10' away and the conversation would be terrible because you'd both be talking louder than normal the whole time. While I think in theory it's an OK idea, I think in reality it would kind of suck. Plus if things were going well, he'd have to leave when he needed to pee (unless you're ok with him peeing in your flower bed.) Also, if things were going well, it would be really hard to not want to get closer or to touch each other later in the date. I'd probably be tempted to keep it on zoom or FaceTime a while longer. |
Anonymous
| Honestly it feels so unnatural and awkward, I don't think I would enjoy it. |
Anonymous
Wait, you were his PATIENT 1-2 months ago and now you are dating him??? |
Anonymous
If you are still his patient, this is very unethical! If he’s seeing patients in any capacity at all, he’s at risk of being a COVID carrier. There’s no way I’d let him come over. And a few glasses of wine in, you all may decide to throw the social distancing rule out the window. Be responsible adults and FaceTime or Zoom. It sounds as though you’ve done a really good job at taking the staying at home, social distancing things seriously- why risk it now? |
Anonymous
| Nope. My husband and I are essential personnel, as are most of our friends. We aren’t even allowing anyone to stop by. Our circle is made up of people who are exposed to others way more than the average person right now. He falls in that category. Nope nope nope. |
Anonymous
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That date sounds very awkward. I met a guy at the beginning of February. We had our first date on Valentine’s day. After that, we had like 6-7 more dates before this COVID 19 got really crazy. We are not essential workers. So we both are working from home and isolation in our respective houses. Which means that we haven’t seen each other in a month now. We text every day and facetime like 2 times a week. If you really like each other you can wait until everything calms down. I’d rather wait a little bit than having that awkward date.
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Anonymous
Thank you. Can't believe this wasn't pointed out sooner. OP did he reach out to you via the contact info in your medical record? Please say no... - MD |
Anonymous
I think it sounds really cool! You'll never forget it, unlike any number of the usual banal coffee shop first dates. |
Anonymous
| What happens if it begins to rain? |