Montisorri for high energy, extroverted, 3 year olds who love singing

[Anonymous]

@ 9:30, PP here. It’s not good to assume, but perhaps your Montessori doesn’t teach that. Two DC thru K in Montessori until I wised up. Run as fast as you can from this antiquated philosophy that has become nothing more than a bastardized version of the original to lure in parents who don’t know any better.

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Anonymous wrote:We didn’t pick Montessori partially for this reason. Our kid does great with following directions, but sings all the time and her favorite thing to do is pretend play. We were worried Montessori would turn her into a little “working” robot.

Well, you were wrong, but then, now you'll never know, which is fine.

We toured a bunch of them and really disliked them.

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[Anonymous]

My son’s creativity has absolutely flourished during his Montessori years. Correlation v causation, I don’t know, but I think Montessori has given him so much confidence and ownership of his abilities that he feels free-er to be silly and creative.

[Anonymous]

The dynamic in a Montessori classroom is as diverse as children and teachers are. One classroom will be wiggly allowing for activity of the children who need it while another will be structured yet warm since some children thrive in that time of environment. It really varies, even from year to year.

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Anonymous wrote:The dynamic in a Montessori classroom is as diverse as children and teachers are. One classroom will be wiggly allowing for activity of the children who need it while another will be structured yet warm since some children thrive in that time of environment. It really varies, even from year to year.

It's these types of posts that really turn me off to Montessori. They always make it out like it's some glowingly perfect place, and the parents have this aura of haughty condescension when they talk about it. Ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

I had two kids kn two different montessori schools and ai thimk this is really tough. During the work cycle, they are expected to work. My extrovert was bouncing around looking at others’ work and asking them about it and it was viewed as disruptive—quiet cooperative work is often encouraged but not the social butterfly. Also, official Montessori teaching discourages pretend play. So if they take the little cylinders and pretend they are a little family, they will be told they are misusing the materials.

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Anonymous wrote:I had two kids kn two different montessori schools and ai thimk this is really tough. During the work cycle, they are expected to work. My extrovert was bouncing around looking at others’ work and asking them about it and it was viewed as disruptive—quiet cooperative work is often encouraged but not the social butterfly. Also, official Montessori teaching discourages pretend play. So if they take the little cylinders and pretend they are a little family, they will be told they are misusing the materials.

Exactly why I can’t stand Montessori for preschool and K. Get the cork out and let kids be kids. No one cares about your antiquated materials, pink towers or using them perfectly each time.

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Anonymous wrote:I had two kids kn two different montessori schools and ai thimk this is really tough. During the work cycle, they are expected to work. My extrovert was bouncing around looking at others’ work and asking them about it and it was viewed as disruptive—quiet cooperative work is often encouraged but not the social butterfly. Also, official Montessori teaching discourages pretend play. So if they take the little cylinders and pretend they are a little family, they will be told they are misusing the materials.

Exactly why I can’t stand Montessori for preschool and K. Get the cork out and let kids be kids. No one cares about your antiquated materials, pink towers or using them perfectly each time.

And exactly why we Montessori families self-select. My kids like the opportunity to concentrate, work independently or in small groups, using simple physical manipulatives and not so much jumping around shouting the lyrics from Disney movies and flitting from one activity to another every ten seconds with glitter and costumes all over the place.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I had two kids kn two different montessori schools and ai thimk this is really tough. During the work cycle, they are expected to work. My extrovert was bouncing around looking at others’ work and asking them about it and it was viewed as disruptive—quiet cooperative work is often encouraged but not the social butterfly. Also, official Montessori teaching discourages pretend play. So if they take the little cylinders and pretend they are a little family, they will be told they are misusing the materials.

Exactly why I can’t stand Montessori for preschool and K. Get the cork out and let kids be kids. No one cares about your antiquated materials, pink towers or using them perfectly each time.

And exactly why we Montessori families self-select. My kids like the opportunity to concentrate, work independently or in small groups, using simple physical manipulatives and not so much jumping around shouting the lyrics from Disney movies and flitting from one activity to another every ten seconds with glitter and costumes all over the place.

Wow, you sound insufferable

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Children need a good balance more lively, and ‘less lively’ activities, OP. How do you implement this at home?

[Anonymous]

Nope don’t do it, especially if it’s traditional Montessori. It will crush him. I found that Montessori doesn’t work for high spirited kids with a lot of energy. They make it seem like something is wrong with your kid. If you are seeking a play based center that utilizes some aspects of Montessori education you might be okay. Speaking from experience of a daughter who fit the mold at one and a son who I pulled out. It was the first preschool where I ever witnessed a three year old get kicked out for crying too much and another four year old who left because of stress (he was having stomach pains and headaches) It was much too demanding and academic for toddlers.

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Anonymous wrote:I had two kids kn two different montessori schools and ai thimk this is really tough. During the work cycle, they are expected to work. My extrovert was bouncing around looking at others’ work and asking them about it and it was viewed as disruptive—quiet cooperative work is often encouraged but not the social butterfly. Also, official Montessori teaching discourages pretend play. So if they take the little cylinders and pretend they are a little family, they will be told they are misusing the materials.

Exactly why I can’t stand Montessori for preschool and K. Get the cork out and let kids be kids. No one cares about your antiquated materials, pink towers or using them perfectly each time.

And exactly why we Montessori families self-select. My kids like the opportunity to concentrate, work independently or in small groups, using simple physical manipulatives and not so much jumping around shouting the lyrics from Disney movies and flitting from one activity to another every ten seconds with glitter and costumes all over the place.

Wow, you sound insufferable

Seriously. I'm so glad my kid has nothing to do with your family.

My kid can work independently or in small groups, use "physical manipulatives" (what's with the overly formal terms among these Montessori families?) and use--shocker!--glitter and costumes. Sometimes she EVEN dances to songs! I know -- it's terrible.

I imagine PP has never visited a play-based preschool or seen how they structure their day. Instead, she just disparages while throwing around terms like "physical manipulatives" as though using those terms makes Montessori superior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope don’t do it, especially if it’s traditional Montessori. It will crush him. I found that Montessori doesn’t work for high spirited kids with a lot of energy. They make it seem like something is wrong with your kid. If you are seeking a play based center that utilizes some aspects of Montessori education you might be okay. Speaking from experience of a daughter who fit the mold at one and a son who I pulled out. It was the first preschool where I ever witnessed a three year old get kicked out for crying too much and another four year old who left because of stress (he was having stomach pains and headaches) It was much too demanding and academic for toddlers.

I also love how these Montessori families act as though their kids do ALL sorts of things other kids don't do.

Guess what? My 3 year old kid's class bakes things. They get their food out of their cubbies/the fridge at lunch and are expected to put their plates/cups/silverware away at the end. In other words, they are expected to show age-appropriate independence. They're also allowed to play pretend and I frankly can't imagine NOT allowing little kids to do that.

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Anonymous wrote:I had two kids kn two different montessori schools and ai thimk this is really tough. During the work cycle, they are expected to work. My extrovert was bouncing around looking at others’ work and asking them about it and it was viewed as disruptive—quiet cooperative work is often encouraged but not the social butterfly. Also, official Montessori teaching discourages pretend play. So if they take the little cylinders and pretend they are a little family, they will be told they are misusing the materials.

Exactly why I can’t stand Montessori for preschool and K. Get the cork out and let kids be kids. No one cares about your antiquated materials, pink towers or using them perfectly each time.

And exactly why we Montessori families self-select. My kids like the opportunity to concentrate, work independently or in small groups, using simple physical manipulatives and not so much jumping around shouting the lyrics from Disney movies and flitting from one activity to another every ten seconds with glitter and costumes all over the place.

Wow, you sound insufferable

Seriously. I'm so glad my kid has nothing to do with your family.

My kid can work independently or in small groups, use "physical manipulatives" (what's with the overly formal terms among these Montessori families?) and use--shocker!--glitter and costumes. Sometimes she EVEN dances to songs! I know -- it's terrible.

I imagine PP has never visited a play-based preschool or seen how they structure their day. Instead, she just disparages while throwing around terms like "physical manipulatives" as though using those terms makes Montessori superior.

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And, the horror, my 4 year old might even belt out a Disney tune! What ever shall we do with our happy singing kid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope don’t do it, especially if it’s traditional Montessori. It will crush him. I found that Montessori doesn’t work for high spirited kids with a lot of energy. They make it seem like something is wrong with your kid. If you are seeking a play based center that utilizes some aspects of Montessori education you might be okay. Speaking from experience of a daughter who fit the mold at one and a son who I pulled out. It was the first preschool where I ever witnessed a three year old get kicked out for crying too much and another four year old who left because of stress (he was having stomach pains and headaches) It was much too demanding and academic for toddlers.

Yes, my DS is in first year of Montessori and has suffered several anxiety based issues since at school: nightmares about school, teeth grinding and stomach issues. We left in January.