Any stories of healthy pregnancy with donor eggs at 45 or older?

[Anonymous]

I had my second OE surprise kid at 46 after 5 rounds of IVF to get my first kid a few years earlier. The second kid is great, completely healthy and a wonderful addition to our family. I may work for a few more years, but it has been awesome! I have more energy and do more kid stuff than I would ever be doing at this age! I would say that there should be less risks with DE than they were concerned about with my OE at 46.

[Anonymous]

First was at 40 and second just shy of 45. Both healthy and uneventful. Both were pretty easy. Recovery was also pretty easy. If you’re healthy 45 isn’t necessarily a huge deal. I think being active and reasonably fit helps, too. Certainly can’t hurt talking to an MFM. Better to have more info than not enough.

[Anonymous]

I did DE fir 2nd pregnancy for the same reasons as you. Had baby at 47 3/4s. Had GD and a genetic complication unrelated to age but baby was fine. I LOVE that my older one has a sibling and they will have each other as adults.

[Anonymous]

I had my DE twins days shy of my 45th birthday.

Healthy pregnancy, planned c-section at term, healthy babies (now kids), easy recovery from c-section.

I did develop high blood pressure in my last trimester, and started building protein in the urine at 37 weeks so we just moved the scheduled date for the c-section up a week and everything was fine. Otherwise I exercised and worked up until the day I delivered. I didn't love pregnancy, but I was very healthy - as were the babies - throughout.

Good luck OP!

[Anonymous]

I didn’t have any luck with donor eggs at 44/44. I had 4 different donors and only one blast that was a miscarriage. Apparently, dh has some infertility issues too. From browsing other boards, I find our situation really rare and I think you could be successful. We used frozen eggs and I’ve heard fresh is better. We could try another cycle but we are both defeated and I was going crazy with all the damn hormones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:45 is old to start another child in our society with so little support for mothers and ever increasing age for social security and minimal retirement plans. You will be 65 (and not eligible for SS) when your child is still in college. If by some chance your child has SN you will be old yourself and dealing with your older parents among other things.

There’s a big social security bump if you have a minor child while receiving payouts. Something like $18000 a year.

45 + 17 = 62. So that would be permanent minimal SS payment and only for 1 year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t have any luck with donor eggs at 44/44. I had 4 different donors and only one blast that was a miscarriage. Apparently, dh has some infertility issues too. From browsing other boards, I find our situation really rare and I think you could be successful. We used frozen eggs and I’ve heard fresh is better. We could try another cycle but we are both defeated and I was going crazy with all the damn hormones.

Sorry op, I forgot to mention I’m browsing the boards it seemed if the pregnancy stuck at 45 it was pretty much non eventful.

[Anonymous]

I don't think there is a one size fits all response to this. I just turned 45 and am pregnant with an embryo frozen from when I was 42 (PGS normal). I too was wary-- I would have a short runway with this little one.

I have always been very healthy and look younger than I am but because I was going to embark on having a kid at a later age, I did go a health kick beforehand and it worked -- at 44, my AFC was 22 and my FSH was 7.
We all age at different points and we have some control over it with what we eat, how we move and how much we sleep (and the latter is hard to control with a 2.5 year old so I fell off the wagon a lot).

Get yourself into the best possible shape you can and go for it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think there is a one size fits all response to this. I just turned 45 and am pregnant with an embryo frozen from when I was 42 (PGS normal). I too was wary-- I would have a short runway with this little one.

I have always been very healthy and look younger than I am but because I was going to embark on having a kid at a later age, I did go a health kick beforehand and it worked -- at 44, my AFC was 22 and my FSH was 7.
We all age at different points and we have some control over it with what we eat, how we move and how much we sleep (and the latter is hard to control with a 2.5 year old so I fell off the wagon a lot).

Get yourself into the best possible shape you can and go for it!

Congratulations PP!

[Anonymous]

I had two uneventful pregnancies in my mid to late 40s. No issues.

[Anonymous]

Uneventful DE pregnancy and birth at 43/44.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like insanity.

[Anonymous]

I did it at 44 and all worked out great. Donor eggs were from someone in their 20s and the uterus doesn't age, really, so you should be good to go. Ignore people who go on about "how old you will be when..." Who cares? if you are healthy and do you best to take care of yourself you could live way longer than someone 30 who has a kid and smokes and drinks etc. I have challenges like old parents I am helping take care of, that is true but so what. If you want to do it, do it, just go in ready for it!

[Anonymous]

I had my first DE child at 45 and my second at 48. Healthy, beautiful kids. Minor high blood pressure during pregnancy and I had placenta issues with both, but that was more luck of the draw. It was never attributed strictly to my age or the IVF/DE factor. I may be an older mom, but I wouldn't be a mom at all without DE. We are very happy.

[Anonymous]

My friend had her first at 50 and her 2nd just before 53. I was shocked when I found out she was that much older than me - she’s very youthful. Her children have the same donor.