Intimacy Issues?

[Anonymous]

I am reading again and he says he doesn't want a relationship. If so, why are you wasting time on this. Plenty of guys to hook up with out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am reading again and he says he doesn't want a relationship. If so, why are you wasting time on this. Plenty of guys to hook up with out there.

I don’t want a relationship I am just genuinely curious what his deal is. I’ve never met someone who would prefer to go eight years without sex than to express interest in sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am reading again and he says he doesn't want a relationship. If so, why are you wasting time on this. Plenty of guys to hook up with out there.

I don’t want a relationship I am just genuinely curious what his deal is. I’ve never met someone who would prefer to go eight years without sex than to express interest in sex

Porn Addiction, which is a form of an intimacy disorder. I dated a guy like this. He was married for 18 years, but they almost never had sex. He hot heavily into porn and masturbation and it got to the point where he had trouble getting an erection in real life sex situations. When we met he finally was able to get an erection and maintain, but never could finish. We would have sex until I was satisfied and then he would take care of himself. This was fine at first, but as the relationship grew I developed a lot of resentment. What we had was not true intimacy.

If you dont want a relationship then I think it's fine that you continue as you are. The sex was always really good, mainly because he lasted forever and I was always completely satisfied on a physical level.

[Anonymous]

Same poster as above. Also the reason he did not seek out sex for 8 years is because he was getting his needs met with porn and masturbation and saving the embarrassment of ED issues with real women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am reading again and he says he doesn't want a relationship. If so, why are you wasting time on this. Plenty of guys to hook up with out there.

I don’t want a relationship I am just genuinely curious what his deal is. I’ve never met someone who would prefer to go eight years without sex than to express interest in sex

Porn Addiction, which is a form of an intimacy disorder. I dated a guy like this. He was married for 18 years, but they almost never had sex. He hot heavily into porn and masturbation and it got to the point where he had trouble getting an erection in real life sex situations. When we met he finally was able to get an erection and maintain, but never could finish. We would have sex until I was satisfied and then he would take care of himself. This was fine at first, but as the relationship grew I developed a lot of resentment. What we had was not true intimacy.

If you dont want a relationship then I think it's fine that you continue as you are. The sex was always really good, mainly because he lasted forever and I was always completely satisfied on a physical level.

Got it. Would men like this really prefer porn to a woman?? That is so weird to me that this guy is constantly talking about how beautiful, kind, funny I am but is like “No thanks, I don’t really need a girlfriend.” I really don’t care because he’s weird and anyway, I’m getting mine. But yikes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same poster as above. Also the reason he did not seek out sex for 8 years is because he was getting his needs met with porn and masturbation and saving the embarrassment of ED issues with real women.

He has a very strange fear, that he’s expressed multiple times, of women thinking he’s sleazy or only interested in sex. To the point that he says he would go on dates with a woman for six months and never have sex with her because she didn’t seem to want to and her didn’t want to ask for it. The whole thing is so confusing and my inner shrink is intrigued. Which is probably why I need to cut out because I’m getting too invested in solving the mystery.

[Anonymous]

OP, any plans for Thursday night?!?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, any plans for Thursday night?!?!

No?