Framed sonogram picture

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Anonymous wrote:So strange. I have a family member who did that and then also got breastmilk jewelry and had looked into the umbilical cord jewelry but her husband was able to talk her out of that.

Oh. My. Goodness. I googled breastmilk jewerly and there IS such a thing

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think tacky is the right word. Why does this bother you? It's not remotely to my taste, but I'd assume your aunt is just super excited. Stop being such a b and be nice about it. Seriously, this is something you thought was worth getting annoyed about? I pity you.

I am unapologetically annoyed by this. I find it to be very emblematic of our current "look at us, we are expecting" culture. Aunt can be happy--but a large, framed pic is a bit over the top.

But thanks for thinking of me.

WTH does this even mean? I don't like kids. I love mine, but couldn't care less about other people's children. I have no interest in babies, I don't want to see them, hold them, or talk about them. I see pregnant women and shudder remembering how I didn't enjoy being pregnant. I have never had a desire to look at a sonogram picture or touch someone's belly or anything like that. However, having a kid is a life-altering experience, and I can understand why some people are super over the moon about it. This is a grandma, but maybe this is what she's wanted her whole life. (I can't empathize because while I'm sure I'll be excited when my girls have babies later in life, I don't plan to become only a grandma at that point just like I'm not only a mom now.) So while I don't share the emotions of people who are elated about babies, I understand that they are thrilled. So why do you let a picture of someone's pure joy bother you? It makes you sound grinchy.

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My first instinct is to shudder and feel like she's tempting fate. (And I say this as someone with no history of loss.)

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Anonymous wrote:I still have a (small) framed photo. It looks so much like the kid looked post delivery it was amazing. Why would you care?

small framed photo is one thing----but large, framed, hanging photo is another.

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Anonymous wrote:My first instinct is to shudder and feel like she's tempting fate. (And I say this as someone with no history of loss.)

There's some type of privilege in people who have never had to go through loss and can just tempt fate like this. As someone who lost twins at 6 months, I didn't even tell most of my friends I was expecting next time around. Just too much.

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I think OP is jealous that her parents weren't that excited about her baby. 16x20 is big (I kept mine in a small frame on my desk), but her house, her ultrasound images on the wall. MYOB

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Anonymous wrote:I think OP is jealous that her parents weren't that excited about her baby. 16x20 is big (I kept mine in a small frame on my desk), but her house, her ultrasound images on the wall. MYOB

My family loves my kids. You are correct--her house, her wall. Doesn't mean I can't have an opinion about it. I do think it's tacky.

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this is the grandparent version of gender reveal parties.

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As long as something doesn't hurt anyone, I just honestly don't much care what other people are doing. Is that a little weird? Sure. Is it coming from a good place of excitement? Yeah.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My first instinct is to shudder and feel like she's tempting fate. (And I say this as someone with no history of loss.)

There's some type of privilege in people who have never had to go through loss and can just tempt fate like this. As someone who lost twins at 6 months, I didn't even tell most of my friends I was expecting next time around. Just too much.

Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:I think OP is jealous that her parents weren't that excited about her baby. 16x20 is big (I kept mine in a small frame on my desk), but her house, her ultrasound images on the wall. MYOB

My family loves my kids. You are correct--her house, her wall. Doesn't mean I can't have an opinion about it. I do think it's tacky.

So tacky that you had to post about it...
I hope you weren't a huge phoney and actually told your aunt that you thought it was tacky.

Ugh, to be you.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think tacky is the right word. Why does this bother you? It's not remotely to my taste, but I'd assume your aunt is just super excited. Stop being such a b and be nice about it. Seriously, this is something you thought was worth getting annoyed about? I pity you.

Well said. All of it.

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Anonymous wrote:So strange. I have a family member who did that and then also got breastmilk jewelry and had looked into the umbilical cord jewelry but her husband was able to talk her out of that.

Oh. My. Goodness. I googled breastmilk jewerly and there IS such a thing

I had no idea. But I do have frozen breastmilk I pumped for a deceased child. I just can't throw it away. It is years old. I may make it into something. Or just let it sit there forever.

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I think it's sweet, she's excited to be a grandma.

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De gustibus non est disputandum, so stop disputanding it.