Do you answer the door if someone knocks?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I live in a very safe community in Southern California (no “diversity” or nearby homeless etc, we generally feel very safe) and we don’t open the door either. Let alone at night.

Door to door salespeople, religious nuts etc are not welcome. Friends would call first.

DCUM. Come for the crazy. Stay for the casual racism.

[Anonymous]

I live in a super safe neighborhood and virtually never answer the door if we aren’t expecting anyone. Anyone I care to see knows to call first!

If people are offended - too bad. I had a neighbor ask once and I told her to just shoot me a text first next time. I hate drop ins.

[Anonymous]

Depends who it is, OP.

[Anonymous]

You people are nuts.

[Anonymous]

No, if I am not expecting you and I don't know you, I don't answer. I can't stand when people knock on my door to sell me stuff. I have a phone, if I want something from you I'll call.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Love the comedy routine. Have seen before and it always makes me laugh. Times have changed and what used to be friendly is not poor etiquette or even rude. You don't go knocking on doors to introduce yourself unless the person's door is already open and the screen is the only thing closed. You can leave a welcome gift and a note, but it is rude to expect someone to drop everything for you. We moved with an infant. The younger neighbors all were lovely introducing themselves when they saw up strolling around the neighborhood. Some elderly neighbors introduced themselves by ringing the doorbell multiple times or knocking furiously always either waking the baby, interrupting breastfeeding or getting me while I am in the bathroom. If I actually made it to the door eventually to stop the barrage of noise, I got the judgmental look for looking like something a cat drags in. Yeah, some welcome to the neighborhood. Even worse one asked "Why didn't you answer the door sooner, can't you hear?"

Sorry, in 2019 well-mannered people still knock on new neighbors doors with a small welcome gift to introduce themselves. You can choose not to answer. The old people probably rang repeatedly because they saw your car and knew you were home and old people always want to answer the door so it didn’t occur to them that you were trying to ignore. OTOH, OP, it is very weird for a new neighbor to knock around and introduce herself. That’s just odd and not-done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have cameras.

Us too and I always check before I open the door. I only open the door if I know whose there.

[Anonymous]

I have dogs whose job it is to respond to knocks at our doors. If someone continues to knock after meeting my dogs it’s geberallly someone we or our children know so yes we answer.

[Anonymous]

Growing up and visiting relatives in a similarly “bad” neighborhood, I would think this old guy at 11pm was casing your place possibly with someone else. If you didn’t answer, they’d be looking to get in. Assume they are looking for a time you’re not home. It’s a test if it’s that late. Nest / Ring doorbells be da*med. Hope for the best, plan for the worst.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Growing up and visiting relatives in a similarly “bad” neighborhood, I would think this old guy at 11pm was casing your place possibly with someone else. If you didn’t answer, they’d be looking to get in. Assume they are looking for a time you’re not home. It’s a test if it’s that late. Nest / Ring doorbells be da*med. Hope for the best, plan for the worst.

Forgot to say ... you did the right thing by answering ... though check who is there before answering.

[Anonymous]

I do not. Hubby does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I live in a very safe community in Southern California (no “diversity” or nearby homeless etc, we generally feel very safe) and we don’t open the door either. Let alone at night.

Door to door salespeople, religious nuts etc are not welcome. Friends would call first.

Hello, racist.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. And it’s not DC, it’s 2019. I wouldn’t do this in the small southern city we lived in either. And that’s the one place where I did have boys with empty backpacks knock on my door in hopes of robbing us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Love the comedy routine. Have seen before and it always makes me laugh. Times have changed and what used to be friendly is not poor etiquette or even rude. You don't go knocking on doors to introduce yourself unless the person's door is already open and the screen is the only thing closed. You can leave a welcome gift and a note, but it is rude to expect someone to drop everything for you. We moved with an infant. The younger neighbors all were lovely introducing themselves when they saw up strolling around the neighborhood. Some elderly neighbors introduced themselves by ringing the doorbell multiple times or knocking furiously always either waking the baby, interrupting breastfeeding or getting me while I am in the bathroom. If I actually made it to the door eventually to stop the barrage of noise, I got the judgmental look for looking like something a cat drags in. Yeah, some welcome to the neighborhood. Even worse one asked "Why didn't you answer the door sooner, can't you hear?"

Sorry, in 2019 well-mannered people still knock on new neighbors doors with a small welcome gift to introduce themselves. You can choose not to answer. The old people probably rang repeatedly because they saw your car and knew you were home and old people always want to answer the door so it didn’t occur to them that you were trying to ignore. OTOH, OP, it is very weird for a new neighbor to knock around and introduce herself. That’s just odd and not-done.

This varies immensely from region to region. I would laugh my ass off if someone tried this in my NYC apartment building.

[Anonymous]

I talk through the mail slot only.