Eating out struggle
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Anonymous
| My family is like this except it’s me and DD who are great eaters and DH is picky AF and will only eat American food. Basically burgers and pizza and some Chinese food, because seafood is “smelly” and any meat that isn’t fried is “gross.” I try to accommodate DH sometimes, but I’m not going to deprive my DD of developing her palate because a 41 year old man can bring himself to eat some vegetables or fish. |
Anonymous
Sorry, I meant I won’t refuse my daughter just because a 41 year old man CAN’T bring himself to eat like a normal person. Because he’s not. He will just go out and eat plain rice or pasta and gorge himself on junk food later. |
Anonymous
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By "limited diet" you mean he's just super picky? Or that he has food allergies or sensitivities (or something else)?
If he's just super picky, let him eat a snack at home before you go out to eat and he can sit through the meal waiting for everyone to have their meals. |
Anonymous
| My oldest child had food aversions starting from when we introduced food. He eats a much wider variety than he did as a young child… He’s a teenager now, but he still does need a huge variety of food. he loves Mexican food but wont touch Chinese fish Japanese… Pretty much anything other than American and Mexican. although, he now eats chicken which is a huge deal. He finds something wherever we go out to eat though. My husband doesn’t like spicy food. My oldest child and I love spicy food. My oldest child and I both hate fish. My youngest child has several severe food allergies. Sometimes, it’s not inly about pickiness. |
Anonymous
He has a right to be pissed that a 6 year old dictates where they eat dinner. My son is the same way. Now when we go out, he either chooses something or starves until the next meal. |
Anonymous
NP. He's an adult. No one can tell him where to eat dinner. If he doesn't like the restaurant choice, he is free to say "I will be at ____ and I will see you after dinner." He chooses not to. |
Anonymous
| We fed ours before we went out to eat. For Asian, we could always get things like plain rice. |
Anonymous
| Go to a hibachi and sushi place. He can try chicken tempura and if not, he can be amused by the hibachi chef. |
Anonymous
| I would have a family meeting, discuss in a reasonable way, and ask him to come up with what he thinks would be a good compromise. Everyone talks about ideas and solves the problem together. I would not nag him as that creates a power struggle. Be a team. Keep it positive. Maybe he comes with you out once a month, agrees to make a choice, and if he's not liking it you agree on his behavioral response as well as yours (you won't make faces, we won't nag). He gets PB&J when he comes home or whatever. |
Anonymous
? Ikr? God forbid a lowly adult think they get a say in where they're paying to go out to eat when a child is present. |
Anonymous
Is he in good shape? Active, energetic, emotionally balanced? Asking because I can’t imagine a deep-fried diet without vegetables does not sound sustainable. He will eventually regret the consequences to his health. |
Anonymous
No but I’ve found you can’t really change people. He’s also aggressively defensive which I’m tired of so I live and let live. |
Anonymous
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There is plenty of bland food at Japanese and steak restaurants. Your son does not need to eat Sushi. He can have tempura or tonkatsu (chicken cutlet). Same thing at a steakhouse.
Stop running your lives around this. |
Anonymous
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Just don't eat in restaurants.
Eat at home. Restaurants are not nice places for kids |
Anonymous
Ok, make sure you get life insurance on him. |