Kid still won’t respect YOU if Santa brings coal. Be the parent. |
This is from a Catholic point of view, but I think even if you are celebrating a more secular Christmas, there is food for thought here.
https://www.catholicherald.com/Opinions/Columnists/Cancel_Christmas_/ |
No. We are Christian and don't believe in withholding love because a child made a mistake. |
Barf. But you’ll do blanket training and hot sauce in the mouth? |
If this isn't the epitome of lazy parenting...
Parent your child yourself! Don't depend on a FICTIONAL STRANGER to do it for you. |
NP. This is a thread about Santa. It's not unreasonable for Christians to respond. You don't need to attack posters for it |
Just tell him he can’t play with his gifts. Let him open them. Then you take them and put them into a box. Give him the box when he is off of restriction. Yeah, it will suck, but so what, so does parenting sometimes. Keep the long view - wherever he did - he won’t do it again. My mom used to say the things we hated about our punishment made us hate all punishment enough to avoid the crime and follow rules. The idea of jail terrified me. My mom said if I get locked up, don’t call her because she won’t come get me. She told this to me and my brother. It worked. Well, at least for one of us. It won’t work if you do it all the time about every little stupid thing. So how bad is the crime? That determines the time. |
I’m Christian, and withholding discipline IS withholding love. But you know this already. The lord disciplines those he loves; he that spares the rod spoils his child. OP needs to be creative in showing discipline and love. No one is offering anything helpful here though. |
Give the coal with a note and a candy cane
Dear Larlo, you know damn well you didn’t make the nice list. I wanted to give you coal - but lucky for you, I ran out of it. Instead, I’m leaving you one gift: a book about kindness. And I want you to do one good act of love and kindness to a stranger to spread cheer and love. Otherwise - it won’t mayter what you do next year, you’ll get coal to make up for this year. In the spirit of Christmas - i believe In you! and so does your mom! Do the right thing and maybe Santa will surprise you in a different way. ![]() Peace, Love, and Reindeer Cheer Santa |
Agreed. On a parenting page I belong to there is a mom always posting this kind of stuff about her son who has serious learning disabilities and emotional issues. She is always crowd sourcing ways to humiliate/punish him. In the years of her posting, she has never once ever said a kind word about this child. She supposedly has a back ground in special ed. It always gets to me when parents of children with disabilities don't realize that the kids didn't choose to have those disabilities. |
Np Don't do it. My friend said her sister got coal from Santa and it ruined Christmas for everyone. Discipline your child but, please leave Santa out of it. I think you will regret it if you do. |
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Stop using santa to parent your kids and work with them and discipline as needed. |
No. My kids know I’m the disciplinarian. They also were zero motivated by stuff. |
Withholding love and withholding material items are two different things. |