Home daycare provider is MIA.

[Anonymous]

Op, have you tried to contact her? Phone call,text, email, FB.

Lots of options.

[Anonymous]

I would be really uncomfortable with this situation. I would speak to all assistants and anyone else who may know where the provider is (other parents? Anyone else living in the house?) If they flat out don’t know, I would contact the provider and express concern that no one seems to know where she is, and that if I don’t hear from her by x time I’m contacting authorities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be really uncomfortable with this situation. I would speak to all assistants and anyone else who may know where the provider is (other parents? Anyone else living in the house?) If they flat out don’t know, I would contact the provider and express concern that no one seems to know where she is, and that if I don’t hear from her by x time I’m contacting authorities.

If she really has been missing, you have tried contacting her on phone and text, you talked to the assistants and they don’t know where she is and the next step would be to call licensing because it is not OK for her to be missing in action.

[Anonymous]

You are kidding right? You are leaving your DC in a place you have no idea where the provider is?? Find another spot that’s safer.

[Anonymous]

Assistants who provide care while the licensed care provider is away often need to have particular training and background checks, different from what is required if the provider is present. Do these assistants have what is required?

Often there is a cap, like the assistants can only be providing care a maximum of 30 days a year without the licensed care provider present.

[Anonymous]

Op has not been back and I’m starting to wonder if they are just pot stirrer troll.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP back...not a troll, just busy and maybe engaging in some cognitive dissonance because of my conflicted feelings about uprooting my child earlier than planned and confronting daycare provider.

Until yesterday I had seen no evidence of violations. Her assistants all meet training and certification requirements. But yesterday when I arrived the assistant present was definitely out of ratio and clearly having a difficult child, even yelling at the kids in front of two parents (myself and another mom who is a teacher, so I can’t imagine she was OK with the scene either). That assistant wasn’t there today and yes I was hesitant to even take my child back. I don’t think DC is unsafe but I am very unhappy with this whole situation especially after pickup yesterday.

Planning to text provider today and ask if everything is OK and if she’s able to let us know when she plans to return. I like the assistant from yesterday and don’t want to throw her under the bus but ultimately my top concern is my child so I need to voice those concerns and determine if it’s time to pull DC.

[Anonymous]

*difficult time not difficult child. Sorry for typos, on my phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP back...not a troll, just busy and maybe engaging in some cognitive dissonance because of my conflicted feelings about uprooting my child earlier than planned and confronting daycare provider.

Until yesterday I had seen no evidence of violations. Her assistants all meet training and certification requirements. But yesterday when I arrived the assistant present was definitely out of ratio and clearly having a difficult child, even yelling at the kids in front of two parents (myself and another mom who is a teacher, so I can’t imagine she was OK with the scene either). That assistant wasn’t there today and yes I was hesitant to even take my child back. I don’t think DC is unsafe but I am very unhappy with this whole situation especially after pickup yesterday.

Planning to text provider today and ask if everything is OK and if she’s able to let us know when she plans to return. I like the assistant from yesterday and don’t want to throw her under the bus but ultimately my top concern is my child so I need to voice those concerns and determine if it’s time to pull DC.

How many assistants does this home daycare have? And they are sometimes there and sometimes not there? Almost all home daycares I know of usually just have one owner and one assistant (and maybe a sub).

I can tell you that at our home daycare, the provider and her assistant have both been there EVERY SINGLE DAY that my child was there. There was one day that the assistant had to leave early and her husband was there at pickup.

[Anonymous]

PP here. And the husband is background checked and named on the contract as a backup caregiver.

[Anonymous]

FYI if you are in Virginia:

"C. The provider shall give parents prior notice when a substitute provider will be caring for the children. "

is part of the guidelines for in-homes.

[Anonymous]

I would call state licensing - assuming you can find another home daycare in short notice if she gets shut down. You can called and also told the assistants and she has not got back to you.

Someone in my neighborhood was reportedly running 2 home daycares out of 2 houses a block apart. It might be something shady like this

[Anonymous]

This happened to my friend and it turned out one lady was the main provider for several houses of home daycare, all the assistants were from her native country and their english was poor

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP back...not a troll, just busy and maybe engaging in some cognitive dissonance because of my conflicted feelings about uprooting my child earlier than planned and confronting daycare provider.

Until yesterday I had seen no evidence of violations. Her assistants all meet training and certification requirements. But yesterday when I arrived the assistant present was definitely out of ratio and clearly having a difficult child, even yelling at the kids in front of two parents (myself and another mom who is a teacher, so I can’t imagine she was OK with the scene either). That assistant wasn’t there today and yes I was hesitant to even take my child back. I don’t think DC is unsafe but I am very unhappy with this whole situation especially after pickup yesterday.

Planning to text provider today and ask if everything is OK and if she’s able to let us know when she plans to return. I like the assistant from yesterday and don’t want to throw her under the bus but ultimately my top concern is my child so I need to voice those concerns and determine if it’s time to pull DC.

You really should find out what’s going on. Not sure why you’re waiting. It doesn’t have to be a confrontation,
But it could simply be an inquiry as to what is going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP back...not a troll, just busy and maybe engaging in some cognitive dissonance because of my conflicted feelings about uprooting my child earlier than planned and confronting daycare provider.

Until yesterday I had seen no evidence of violations. Her assistants all meet training and certification requirements. But yesterday when I arrived the assistant present was definitely out of ratio and clearly having a difficult child, even yelling at the kids in front of two parents (myself and another mom who is a teacher, so I can’t imagine she was OK with the scene either). That assistant wasn’t there today and yes I was hesitant to even take my child back. I don’t think DC is unsafe but I am very unhappy with this whole situation especially after pickup yesterday.

Planning to text provider today and ask if everything is OK and if she’s able to let us know when she plans to return. I like the assistant from yesterday and don’t want to throw her under the bus but ultimately my top concern is my child so I need to voice those concerns and determine if it’s time to pull DC.

You really should find out what’s going on. Not sure why you’re waiting. It doesn’t have to be a confrontation,
But it could simply be an inquiry as to what is going on.

+1. OP, this really isn't okay.