DSD does a few things that drive me up the wall!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DSD is 19 and in general a great person but does a few very entitled things that drive me nuts. Example:
- she throws trash out the window of cars. We had it out about this. She said it was someone’s job to pick it up. I told her it was a hazard and also I don’t want to get pulled over bc of this. I think we settled wherein she won’t do it while her father or I are driving.
- we travel internationally quite a bit and she packs fruit as a snack. She shrugs and says she has low blood sugar. She says “how are they going to catch me?” And “if the catch me all they do is make me throw it out”. I tried to explain that in the US she may have to pay a fine and overseas they might be stricter and she may have to pay fines or she might end up in secondary and asked to pay a bribe. She’s pretty and thinks she can flirt her way out of things and doesn’t really understand that outside of the US the rule of law can be a little hairy. She said “point taken but I won’t stop doing it”
Stuff like this drives me nuuuuuts. It’s just so entitled. But I’m tired of these little discussions with her and so is she probably. Is it better to drop it if things like this come up?

She is not a great person...not even close.

+1

[Anonymous]

She doesn’t sound like a great person.

Littering is pretty entitled behavior. She sounds like a spoiled rich girl. I’m sorry you have to deal with her forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does she understand the reason why you’re not allowed to bring fruit? It’s not about the money/fine.

Don’t drive her places until she stops throwing trash.
Don’t fly her places until she doesn’t pack fruit.

These are easy solutions.
She sounds obnoxious.

+1 if you HAVE to drive her somewhere, lock her window like you would for a three year old and definitely do not travel with her. It might cause an uproar but you'll make your point. Eventually she'll learn her lesson or she won't receive the perks of being part of a family. Is her dad actively involved?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She doesn’t sound like a great person.

Littering is pretty entitled behavior. She sounds like a spoiled rich girl. I’m sorry you have to deal with her forever.

She sounds ““cool””.

[Anonymous]

If she throws trash out of my car window she doesn’t ride anywhere with me anymore. If I catch her doing it on her own somehow, I don’t give her a dime toward anything driving-related.

If she brings unauthorized items on a plane we don’t travel together. She can buy her own tickets and get there herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she throws trash out of my car window she doesn’t ride anywhere with me anymore. If I catch her doing it on her own somehow, I don’t give her a dime toward anything driving-related.

If she brings unauthorized items on a plane we don’t travel together. She can buy her own tickets and get there herself.

How exactly do you enforce this?

This girl is OPs step daughter. How are you going to convince your husband to lay down the law now when he’s the one who raised her this way? He created this monster, he’s not going to stop now.

Stories like this make me glad I’m not divorced. You’re just trading one set of problems for another. A bratty, rotten to the core late teen would be a nightmare.

[Anonymous]

Oddly she wasn’t like this when she was younger. She was extremely rule-abiding. It’s been disappointing to spend ti
E with her this summer and see the behavior. Wondering if she picked it up in college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend was a passenger on a road trip. She threw a donut out the window and figured an animal would eat it. A passerby on the highway called in the license plate of the littering vehicle. The DH of the driver was the official owner of the vehicle. He received a call and fine from the State Police for littering.

This is awesome. I didn't know we could report litterers.

[Anonymous]

"Well sweetie, it's also someone's job to clean public bathrooms, but we still sh*t in the toilet don't we? Use a trash can next time."

Stop debating with her about WHY and point out her behavior is rude. Does she want to be rude? No? Then stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Well sweetie, it's also someone's job to clean public bathrooms, but we still sh*t in the toilet don't we? Use a trash can next time."

Stop debating with her about WHY and point out her behavior is rude. Does she want to be rude? No? Then stop.

Hahahahaha

Awesome!

[Anonymous]

Throwing trash out of the car and expecting someone else to pick it up sounds like an a***hole.

[Anonymous]

Some young adults simply can't learn by being told. They must experience the negative consequences of it first hand in order to change. She sounds like one of those people.

Once she gets pulled over and ticketed for littering, she'll learn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend was a passenger on a road trip. She threw a donut out the window and figured an animal would eat it. A passerby on the highway called in the license plate of the littering vehicle. The DH of the driver was the official owner of the vehicle. He received a call and fine from the State Police for littering.

That sounds a little off. They don’t hand out tickets without some proof (not just a phone call in)

This was the Ohio State Police about 8-10 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Your step-daughter sounds like a garbage person.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she's finally rebelling?