Birthday party logistics

[Anonymous]

Yeah, don’t poll the parents.

You can talk to a friend and ask them their opinion. Just say you’re thinking through how to best arrange the party.

Personally, I think having all parents drop off at your house and pick up there is best.

[Anonymous]

Ask to drop off at first location and pick up from your house.

Or drop off and pick up at your house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Talk to the parents. I usually don't let mine ride with others as mine is still in a booster seat in most cars and few parents use them.

Mine is as well, and is the only one in the group that is in one. That's one of the reasons I limited the total number of girls. I can fit 6 comfortably in the back seats, and while a couple are bigger than I am physically, no one is allowed to ride in the front passenger seat.

Talk to the parents. It would really depend on how well I know you at that point if you will use a booster seat. I don't want my kid free roaming at a public venue and if you weren't one to supervise I'd probably say I'd drive to each location or offer to help. If I knew you well and you supervised I'd drop off/pick up where ever you needed me to.

Did you miss that this was a party for 10 year old girls?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Talk to the parents. I usually don't let mine ride with others as mine is still in a booster seat in most cars and few parents use them.

Mine is as well, and is the only one in the group that is in one. That's one of the reasons I limited the total number of girls. I can fit 6 comfortably in the back seats, and while a couple are bigger than I am physically, no one is allowed to ride in the front passenger seat.

Talk to the parents. It would really depend on how well I know you at that point if you will use a booster seat. I don't want my kid free roaming at a public venue and if you weren't one to supervise I'd probably say I'd drive to each location or offer to help. If I knew you well and you supervised I'd drop off/pick up where ever you needed me to.

The girls are 10! They'll run around together giggling the whole time. Have you never met girls that age? They'll be FINE "free roaming."

[Anonymous]

If by "free roaming at a public venue" you mean stumbling around on ice, you'd be right. I'm most definitely not going out on ice, so they are on their own to some extent. Let's just hope that they all know there is no free roaming allowed at lunch or dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Talk to the parents. I usually don't let mine ride with others as mine is still in a booster seat in most cars and few parents use them.

Mine is as well, and is the only one in the group that is in one. That's one of the reasons I limited the total number of girls. I can fit 6 comfortably in the back seats, and while a couple are bigger than I am physically, no one is allowed to ride in the front passenger seat.

Talk to the parents. It would really depend on how well I know you at that point if you will use a booster seat. I don't want my kid free roaming at a public venue and if you weren't one to supervise I'd probably say I'd drive to each location or offer to help. If I knew you well and you supervised I'd drop off/pick up where ever you needed me to.

The girls are 10! They'll run around together giggling the whole time. Have you never met girls that age? They'll be FINE "free roaming."

I would find it odd if you had to attend the party with your 10 year old daughter. By 10 you just decline invitations you are not comfortable with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Talk to the parents. I usually don't let mine ride with others as mine is still in a booster seat in most cars and few parents use them.

These are 10 yr old. Long gone are the days of booster seats.

OP- I took 6 10-yr olds to indoor mini golf and lunch afterwards. Totally doable.

We did the activity first - get their wiggles and chattiness out. Plus, I knew they would be hungry for lunch. Back to our house for cake, presents, and parents came by at pickup.
Done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Talk to the parents. I usually don't let mine ride with others as mine is still in a booster seat in most cars and few parents use them.

These are 10 yr old. Long gone are the days of booster seats.

OP- I took 6 10-yr olds to indoor mini golf and lunch afterwards. Totally doable.

We did the activity first - get their wiggles and chattiness out. Plus, I knew they would be hungry for lunch. Back to our house for cake, presents, and parents came by at pickup.
Done.

My tiny 9 yo is still in a booster seat and I just send her with it if she needs to ride with a friend's parent. She can get in it herself. We use the mifold, very portable. None of her friends or their parents have had an issue with it.
Can't you do something like that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Talk to the parents. I usually don't let mine ride with others as mine is still in a booster seat in most cars and few parents use them.

These are 10 yr old. Long gone are the days of booster seats.

OP- I took 6 10-yr olds to indoor mini golf and lunch afterwards. Totally doable.

We did the activity first - get their wiggles and chattiness out. Plus, I knew they would be hungry for lunch. Back to our house for cake, presents, and parents came by at pickup.
Done.

My tiny 9 yo is still in a booster seat and I just send her with it if she needs to ride with a friend's parent. She can get in it herself. We use the mifold, very portable. None of her friends or their parents have had an issue with it.
Can't you do something like that?

^^^ you are the exception, not the norm.
5th graders/10 yr olds aren't in booster seats.

[Anonymous]

We've done many parties where the drop off and pick up locations were different. Not an issue at all for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Talk to the parents. I usually don't let mine ride with others as mine is still in a booster seat in most cars and few parents use them.

Mine is as well, and is the only one in the group that is in one. That's one of the reasons I limited the total number of girls. I can fit 6 comfortably in the back seats, and while a couple are bigger than I am physically, no one is allowed to ride in the front passenger seat.

Talk to the parents. It would really depend on how well I know you at that point if you will use a booster seat. I don't want my kid free roaming at a public venue and if you weren't one to supervise I'd probably say I'd drive to each location or offer to help. If I knew you well and you supervised I'd drop off/pick up where ever you needed me to.

The girls are 10! They'll run around together giggling the whole time. Have you never met girls that age? They'll be FINE "free roaming."

I have a 10 year old. I wouldn't let them free roam with one parent who isn't watching.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Talk to the parents. I usually don't let mine ride with others as mine is still in a booster seat in most cars and few parents use them.

These are 10 yr old. Long gone are the days of booster seats.

OP- I took 6 10-yr olds to indoor mini golf and lunch afterwards. Totally doable.

We did the activity first - get their wiggles and chattiness out. Plus, I knew they would be hungry for lunch. Back to our house for cake, presents, and parents came by at pickup.
Done.

My tiny 9 yo is still in a booster seat and I just send her with it if she needs to ride with a friend's parent. She can get in it herself. We use the mifold, very portable. None of her friends or their parents have had an issue with it.
Can't you do something like that?

^^^ you are the exception, not the norm.
5th graders/10 yr olds aren't in booster seats.

A lot should be. You may be into poor parenting but we are not. Until our child can pass the 5 step rule in every car, they will use a booster in the cars that they don't have a good belt fit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Talk to the parents. I usually don't let mine ride with others as mine is still in a booster seat in most cars and few parents use them.

Mine is as well, and is the only one in the group that is in one. That's one of the reasons I limited the total number of girls. I can fit 6 comfortably in the back seats, and while a couple are bigger than I am physically, no one is allowed to ride in the front passenger seat.

Talk to the parents. It would really depend on how well I know you at that point if you will use a booster seat. I don't want my kid free roaming at a public venue and if you weren't one to supervise I'd probably say I'd drive to each location or offer to help. If I knew you well and you supervised I'd drop off/pick up where ever you needed me to.

The girls are 10! They'll run around together giggling the whole time. Have you never met girls that age? They'll be FINE "free roaming."

I would find it odd if you had to attend the party with your 10 year old daughter. By 10 you just decline invitations you are not comfortable with.

We just had a party for our 10 year old. Most of the parents stayed, as they did last year. But, we welcomed and fed everyone.

[Anonymous]

I'd prefer to do as much driving of my child as possible (suffering from that statistical phenomenon where more than 50% of people think they are better than average drivers) so I'd prefer to drop off and pick up wherever minimizes my child being driven by people whose driving skills I don't know anything about. That said, I'm happy to transport kids. I think you should give people options, then coordinate to maximize happiness according to individual preferences (which may also make your life easier, as you might get some volunteer drivers like me).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd prefer to do as much driving of my child as possible (suffering from that statistical phenomenon where more than 50% of people think they are better than average drivers) so I'd prefer to drop off and pick up wherever minimizes my child being driven by people whose driving skills I don't know anything about. That said, I'm happy to transport kids. I think you should give people options, then coordinate to maximize happiness according to individual preferences (which may also make your life easier, as you might get some volunteer drivers like me).

I love that you expect other people to trust you to drive their kids, but you won’t offer the same trust in return.