Posted this 12 hours ago still no comments from my DAD
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I would be pissed if my kid cane out online before telling me. Mostly because it’s rude. It would be like your parents posting on Facebook that they’ve decided to move across the country (while you’re in HS) and that’s how you find out. Tell your family first!
That said, I would never broadcast my reaction online. That’s trashy. If you want to talk to your dad, talk to him. It’s insane to expect him to have this conversation publicly online. |
Anonymous
| Maybe like me, who is 42, he doesn’t get notifications and didn’t see it yet. Maybe he was reading a book. Maybe he has known for ages and your lesbianism is not news to him. |
Anonymous
Young and stupid. |
Anonymous
THAT would be your biggest reaction? I’d feel terrible that we had a relationship that was so distant my daughter didn’t feel comfortable sharing with me until now, and in this way. |
Anonymous
| If this is real, OP, does your dad actively participate on Facebook? I'm 45 and only look at it occasionally, haven't posted anything in almost a decade, and have never "liked" anything before. My kids are still too young for Facebook, but I would be pretty upset if they came out with something like this on social media instead of just telling me. And I say that as a parent who would be 100% supportive. |
Anonymous
| Posted where? Does he have access to this post? Posted, like a letter? On Facebook, does he check his facebook? I have no face books, of twitter, who does that to their own father? I would not answer if I was him too! |
Anonymous
| As a parent, I would feel bummed you didn't tell me first before telling all of your "friends," too. That being said, I agree with other posters that now that it's out there, you should reach out to him to ask/discuss. And seriously, don't you want more of a discussion with him than a mere "like" orchestrated by the borg? |
Anonymous
| Do you even know that he has seen it? Lots of adults aren't tethered constantly to insta, or whatever you used. |
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If you are expecting to be treated like a grownup, behave like one and call him/see him. Where is he that he isn’t already in the house?
Also, do not necessarily hold his first reaction against him. If this is a surprise to him, remember that you have had weeks/months/years to sort this out for yourself and he may have had five minutes. Maybe he’s homophobia, or maybe he just had an image of what your life would be and it was just turned it’s head so he needs time to process. A friend of mine recent posted an “introduction” to their trans child. I have known this person for many years, and know that in the past they were disparaging of trans people. But clearly they came around, but I doubt it was on the first day. So good luck to you, but pick up the phone or go to lunch or something. |
Anonymous
| Your dad should have been told in person. |
Anonymous
he wasn't online yesterday and he is okay with it. |
Anonymous
| Like most parents, he’s known for years and doesn’t see it as a big deal. It’s not some big revelation for him. |
Anonymous
| Kinda surprised that people think dad requires personal notice of being gay. Did ya’ll go personally tell your parents you were straight? |
Anonymous
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I think posting it before you tell your immediate family is pretty tacky if you ask me.
If it were my child (who happens to be gay), I would expect a conversation. I'd feel pretty betrayed if I had to find out online. |
Anonymous
This. What a prick. |