How do you find out if your fertility doctor is your donor?

[Anonymous]

Go to a female doctor. Guarantee she isn’t stimming her own eggs to swap out and sprinkle around the patients.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go to a female doctor. Guarantee she isn’t stimming her own eggs to swap out and sprinkle around the patients.

Love this advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A DNA test is one way.

And it used to be a bit more accepted practice. One woman who this happened to (her father was not her dad, the doctor was) wrote a memoir about it:

https://danishapiro.com/books/inheritance/

Doc wasn't her dad. It was a donor.

She was raised with a father she was not related to. Her bio dad was the fertility doctor (or grad student?). This was done with her parents consent though. It was a mixing of the sperm samples and used to be done regularly.

pp point is that fatherhood is a social role. The man who raised her is her father. The man who contributed her sperm was her donor. I haven't read the book, so it's possible she met her donor later in life and also came to see him as her father, but until this happens he is the donor. This is an important distinction for anyone participating in this board.

[Anonymous]

I'd hope the lab would pick up on these things. One would be a fresh vs a frozen sample. If anything weird were to happen like this these days, I think it'd have to be done by a lab employee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A DNA test is one way.

And it used to be a bit more accepted practice. One woman who this happened to (her father was not her dad, the doctor was) wrote a memoir about it:

https://danishapiro.com/books/inheritance/

Doc wasn't her dad. It was a donor.

She was raised with a father she was not related to. Her bio dad was the fertility doctor (or grad student?). This was done with her parents consent though. It was a mixing of the sperm samples and used to be done regularly.

NP. Dani's bio dad was a medical student sperm donor, not the fertility doctor treating her mother. I think that's an important distinction.

I don't think Dani's parents really consented, it was more of a "you go to this doctor and he'll make sure you get pregnant." Just because mixing was a somewhat common practice, the book makes it pretty clear that the parents didn't necessarily grasp this was how the "treatment" was being done.

[Anonymous]

this is really creepy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go to a female doctor. Guarantee she isn’t stimming her own eggs to swap out and sprinkle around the patients.

+1, these articles make me grateful that my RE is a woman.

[Anonymous]

OMG. Did anyone else see the Science Section of today’s NYT? “

“Beyond Reprehensible” says scores of people born through artificial insemination have learned from DNA tests that their biological fathers aren’t who they thought they were.”

Eve Wiley found out that her donor was her doctor.
No one knows how many women were duped by their doctors. This is big business.

[Anonymous]

well...I'm black & so is my spouse so I'd know pretty quickly

[Anonymous]

Sue for child support. This will mean that the scores of babies that were born from the physician's genetic material will have dibs on his wealth.

Another thing to do is to sign a contract that stipulates that the sperm used will not be from the medical practice, law practice or any vendor that the practice uses.

[Anonymous]

The places where this has occurred were mostly small practices - the places we talk about here have doctors with no motive to do something like this.

There are other reasons to be angered by the fertility practices we discuss here. This is not one of them.

[Anonymous]

In some cases it's pretty simple. Take a look at the child and see who s/he resembles. We did, and there was no doubt that DC was the donor's biological offspring and not the doctor's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In some cases it's pretty simple. Take a look at the child and see who s/he resembles. We did, and there was no doubt that DC was the donor's biological offspring and not the doctor's.

How often do you get the donor’s photo? I never heard of that.

[Anonymous]

This all sounds like a Law amd Order episode...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The places where this has occurred were mostly small practices - the places we talk about here have doctors with no motive to do something like this.

There are other reasons to be angered by the fertility practices we discuss here. This is not one of them.

You obviously didn’t see the New York Times article on Tuesday. Please go do your homework.