What haven’t you told your husband from your pre-relationship days?

[Anonymous]

Numbers you all mean? I never really kept count. It would be in the double digits for sure. Up to 30 max.

Sort of glad I sowed all my oats b4 I committed. Going on 34 years now (happily married).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There is a certain sex act (trying to keep it clean here) that I told DH I’ve never done and have no interest in. I did it with the last bf I had before him.

Same with me as I’m pretty sure I know what you are talking about. It was one time and I hated it and I hated myself for letting it happen.

It's probably what you think it is. I didn't hate it, but vowed never to do it again. I was experimenting and ex-bf was good at pushing me to do new things. If DH knew I had done it with the ex and I won't do it with him he'd be so pissed and jealous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:During a wine infused lunch yesterday with three GF’s this subject came up. They all had pretty hilarious stories about a sexual adventure, though nothing bizarre, and I had nothing to offer other than how I lost my virginity which was darn boring and not until I was 22. My college years were misspent sexually compared to my friends.

No. I would say just the opposite. You should be proud of yourself.

No, she's right.

[Anonymous]

I don't know. I had other boyfriends. I was proposed to. I had some wild nights and one night stands.

All he has ever cared about is that I am and was comfortable with my sexuality and that I was disease free. Number, sex acts, none of the rest matters. I don't hide anything at all, but I don't go describing my sexual exploits because that's just tacky and mean. I'd answer any questions honestly, I dont feel ashamed of anything in my past.

[Anonymous]

Before we got married, I was anxious about my husband's sexual past, so I asked him how many women he had been with. He agreed to tell me, if I also would do this. So, we traded our histories. Neither of us have ever been together with another person since then.

[Anonymous]

So many things but mainly because I didn't get married until 34 and had worked very hard at sowing my oats while he had always played life cautiously--he had a 10 year marriage before me with someone straight out of college and was divorced by early 30s. I feel sorry that he didn't get to experience life as I did so I try not to talk much about my exploits and not sexual details certainly (and you are playing with fire if you discuss size--just don't--no good can come from that). He has never expressed regret about his past and I don't want to make him feel any. He is a stable guy and we have a great marriage but I do miss the variety I had before for sure. Been together a long time now and what's left of our sex life is boring. So happy that I lived life while I could and this applies to pretty much everything because other aspects of our life are also pretty hard WRT to family obligations/kids/etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There is a certain sex act (trying to keep it clean here) that I told DH I’ve never done and have no interest in. I did it with the last bf I had before him.

Same with me as I’m pretty sure I know what you are talking about. It was one time and I hated it and I hated myself for letting it happen.

Anal ?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a certain sex act (trying to keep it clean here) that I told DH I’ve never done and have no interest in. I did it with the last bf I had before him.

Same with me as I’m pretty sure I know what you are talking about. It was one time and I hated it and I hated myself for letting it happen.

It's probably what you think it is. I didn't hate it, but vowed never to do it again. I was experimenting and ex-bf was good at pushing me to do new things. If DH knew I had done it with the ex and I won't do it with him he'd be so pissed and jealous.

Man here, I am sure I know what it is, and my wife also did it with ex, not interested in doing it again. Logically, I get it. Emotionally, it is about the equivalent of me telling wife I have gone to all the romantic cities in Europe with my Ex Girlfriend and see no need to go back there with wife. Oh, and she's not allowed to go their with anyone else either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a certain sex act (trying to keep it clean here) that I told DH I’ve never done and have no interest in. I did it with the last bf I had before him.

Same with me as I’m pretty sure I know what you are talking about. It was one time and I hated it and I hated myself for letting it happen.

It's probably what you think it is. I didn't hate it, but vowed never to do it again. I was experimenting and ex-bf was good at pushing me to do new things. If DH knew I had done it with the ex and I won't do it with him he'd be so pissed and jealous.

Man here, I am sure I know what it is, and my wife also did it with ex, not interested in doing it again. Logically, I get it. Emotionally, it is about the equivalent of me telling wife I have gone to all the romantic cities in Europe with my Ex Girlfriend and see no need to go back there with wife. Oh, and she's not allowed to go their with anyone else either.

Um, no. It is nothing like that. That’s one of the worst analogies I’ve ever read. If you want your wife to be game, then you need to open yourself up to the same act from her. Would you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a certain sex act (trying to keep it clean here) that I told DH I’ve never done and have no interest in. I did it with the last bf I had before him.

Same with me as I’m pretty sure I know what you are talking about. It was one time and I hated it and I hated myself for letting it happen.

It's probably what you think it is. I didn't hate it, but vowed never to do it again. I was experimenting and ex-bf was good at pushing me to do new things. If DH knew I had done it with the ex and I won't do it with him he'd be so pissed and jealous.

Man here, I am sure I know what it is, and my wife also did it with ex, not interested in doing it again. Logically, I get it. Emotionally, it is about the equivalent of me telling wife I have gone to all the romantic cities in Europe with my Ex Girlfriend and see no need to go back there with wife. Oh, and she's not allowed to go their with anyone else either.

Um, no. It is nothing like that. That’s one of the worst analogies I’ve ever read. If you want your wife to be game, then you need to open yourself up to the same act from her. Would you?

Plus also, if she hated a city in Europe, don’t you think you wouldn’t care much about going anyway?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a certain sex act (trying to keep it clean here) that I told DH I’ve never done and have no interest in. I did it with the last bf I had before him.

Same with me as I’m pretty sure I know what you are talking about. It was one time and I hated it and I hated myself for letting it happen.

It's probably what you think it is. I didn't hate it, but vowed never to do it again. I was experimenting and ex-bf was good at pushing me to do new things. If DH knew I had done it with the ex and I won't do it with him he'd be so pissed and jealous.

Man here, I am sure I know what it is, and my wife also did it with ex, not interested in doing it again. Logically, I get it. Emotionally, it is about the equivalent of me telling wife I have gone to all the romantic cities in Europe with my Ex Girlfriend and see no need to go back there with wife. Oh, and she's not allowed to go their with anyone else either.

Um, no. It is nothing like that. That’s one of the worst analogies I’ve ever read. If you want your wife to be game, then you need to open yourself up to the same act from her. Would you?

Sure, I would be game for going first

Choose whatever analogy you want. It's simply an act that most men want, that you were willing to do with an ex and not for DH and he doesn't ever get to do it unless he cheats. It's totally logical and you are absolutely entitled to set those limits but it still sucks. Even you conceded he would be "pissed and jealous" just as my wife would be if I told her I used to take ex-gfs to 5 star hotels but only Hampton Inns for her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a certain sex act (trying to keep it clean here) that I told DH I’ve never done and have no interest in. I did it with the last bf I had before him.

Same with me as I’m pretty sure I know what you are talking about. It was one time and I hated it and I hated myself for letting it happen.

It's probably what you think it is. I didn't hate it, but vowed never to do it again. I was experimenting and ex-bf was good at pushing me to do new things. If DH knew I had done it with the ex and I won't do it with him he'd be so pissed and jealous.

Man here, I am sure I know what it is, and my wife also did it with ex, not interested in doing it again. Logically, I get it. Emotionally, it is about the equivalent of me telling wife I have gone to all the romantic cities in Europe with my Ex Girlfriend and see no need to go back there with wife. Oh, and she's not allowed to go their with anyone else either.

Um, no. It is nothing like that. That’s one of the worst analogies I’ve ever read. If you want your wife to be game, then you need to open yourself up to the same act from her. Would you?

Plus also, if she hated a city in Europe, don’t you think you wouldn’t care much about going anyway?

No, that makes no sense. I don't automatically stop wanting to do something just because my spouse isn't into it. We like different music, so I go to those concerts with friends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a certain sex act (trying to keep it clean here) that I told DH I’ve never done and have no interest in. I did it with the last bf I had before him.

Same with me as I’m pretty sure I know what you are talking about. It was one time and I hated it and I hated myself for letting it happen.

It's probably what you think it is. I didn't hate it, but vowed never to do it again. I was experimenting and ex-bf was good at pushing me to do new things. If DH knew I had done it with the ex and I won't do it with him he'd be so pissed and jealous.

Man here, I am sure I know what it is, and my wife also did it with ex, not interested in doing it again. Logically, I get it. Emotionally, it is about the equivalent of me telling wife I have gone to all the romantic cities in Europe with my Ex Girlfriend and see no need to go back there with wife. Oh, and she's not allowed to go their with anyone else either.

Um, no. It is nothing like that. That’s one of the worst analogies I’ve ever read. If you want your wife to be game, then you need to open yourself up to the same act from her. Would you?

Hehehe, "analogy."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a certain sex act (trying to keep it clean here) that I told DH I’ve never done and have no interest in. I did it with the last bf I had before him.

Same with me as I’m pretty sure I know what you are talking about. It was one time and I hated it and I hated myself for letting it happen.

It's probably what you think it is. I didn't hate it, but vowed never to do it again. I was experimenting and ex-bf was good at pushing me to do new things. If DH knew I had done it with the ex and I won't do it with him he'd be so pissed and jealous.

Man here, I am sure I know what it is, and my wife also did it with ex, not interested in doing it again. Logically, I get it. Emotionally, it is about the equivalent of me telling wife I have gone to all the romantic cities in Europe with my Ex Girlfriend and see no need to go back there with wife. Oh, and she's not allowed to go their with anyone else either.

If my DH took me to all the romantic cities in Europe, I'd be a hell of a lot more interested in doing that act again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a certain sex act (trying to keep it clean here) that I told DH I’ve never done and have no interest in. I did it with the last bf I had before him.

Same with me as I’m pretty sure I know what you are talking about. It was one time and I hated it and I hated myself for letting it happen.

It's probably what you think it is. I didn't hate it, but vowed never to do it again. I was experimenting and ex-bf was good at pushing me to do new things. If DH knew I had done it with the ex and I won't do it with him he'd be so pissed and jealous.

Man here, I am sure I know what it is, and my wife also did it with ex, not interested in doing it again. Logically, I get it. Emotionally, it is about the equivalent of me telling wife I have gone to all the romantic cities in Europe with my Ex Girlfriend and see no need to go back there with wife. Oh, and she's not allowed to go their with anyone else either.

If my DH took me to all the romantic cities in Europe, I'd be a hell of a lot more interested in doing that act again.

Well now we're just haggling over the price!