Making Friends?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but maybe because as a grown woman you use expressions like "sucks ass"?

Totally fair assessment because that phrase is out of character for me. Just mad and sad so I used it in my rant. Generally do not speak that way.

Fair enough. Sounds like you definitely need to move on and seek out new friends. People who consistently leave you out and hurt your feelings are obviously not worthy of your friendship.

Thank you, I agree. It is just the weirdest situation. They made plans without me and ignored me, but continue to text me. It’s odd and frustrating. Making friends as an adult is just uncomfortable!

Surely as an adult, you don’t get invited to everything?

No, of course not! It’s just they asked what Dh and I were doing that weekend and I said “no plans.” They responded “okay, let’s keep calendars clear and plan something” followed up and never got a response. Found out they just went without us.

It doesn’t bother me they didn’t invite me. It bothers me they invited me, then apparently decided to just ignore me.

[Anonymous]

Do you have kids?

I’m the planner in my group. I pick people where everyone gets along - both parents and kids.

Some friends are closer than others.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but maybe because as a grown woman you use expressions like "sucks ass"?

Totally fair assessment because that phrase is out of character for me. Just mad and sad so I used it in my rant. Generally do not speak that way.

Fair enough. Sounds like you definitely need to move on and seek out new friends. People who consistently leave you out and hurt your feelings are obviously not worthy of your friendship.

Thank you, I agree. It is just the weirdest situation. They made plans without me and ignored me, but continue to text me. It’s odd and frustrating. Making friends as an adult is just uncomfortable!

Surely as an adult, you don’t get invited to everything?

No, of course not! It’s just they asked what Dh and I were doing that weekend and I said “no plans.” They responded “okay, let’s keep calendars clear and plan something” followed up and never got a response. Found out they just went without us.

It doesn’t bother me they didn’t invite me. It bothers me they invited me, then apparently decided to just ignore me.

the ignoring you is definitely sheisty

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids?

I’m the planner in my group. I pick people where everyone gets along - both parents and kids.

Some friends are closer than others.

Yes.

Again, it’s not that I wasn’t invited. It’s that we discussed doing something together, then they changed their minds, and when I reached out to follow up and confirm plans, they ignored me. I found out they all went on a couples trip without us. The ignoring me really bothers me. I sent a text a week before asking if we still planned to do something Saturday. No response. we Had dinner with one of the friends and her dh Friday night and they said “oh we’re just doing a day trip tomorrow!” Find out from social media they all just went on vacation without us. So no, if it were just acquaintances not including me, that would be fine, but these three women were my best friends who ignored me. After making plans with me. And then lied.

It’s bizarre because until recently we were a group who did everything together. Not anymore because I feel really disrespected/hurt

[Anonymous]

Ok that was rude. I don’t know if it has to be friendship ending but I would also feel hurt.

Could it have been a space thing? For my birthday this year, I wanted to do a spa getaway. I meant to include others but the spa couldn’t accommodate more people. A few people reached out but I couldn’t invite others. I think a few friends may have felt bad.

[Anonymous]

There’s something no one wants to tell you.

[Anonymous]

They don't like your husband.