Is it ridiculous to bring our nanny to my work picnic?

[Anonymous]

I think you should only have the Nanny there when you need to work. Otherwise, I would judge hard. I would assume that you have boatloads of money. Not a good look if you work in certain industries.

[Anonymous]

My nanny loves to go the zoo!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should have written the post differently bc now everyone is going to just read the title and judge you. You're not actually bringing your nanny to your work picnic. You're bringing her to the zoo to watch your children while you WORK to set up the event. Once the event starts she won't be there, so she's not "at" the work picnic.

I think it's fine. She's watching your kids while you work, which is what nannies do.

+1 OP if you have an hour's worth of work to do 10-11 then of course, set up childcare.

Unless your children are extremely laid back, I would suggest that you don't go as early as 9am. Two hours at the zoo and *then* starting a large, noisy event - however family-friendly it is - sounds like a recipe for meltdowns later on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should have written the post differently bc now everyone is going to just read the title and judge you. You're not actually bringing your nanny to your work picnic. You're bringing her to the zoo to watch your children while you WORK to set up the event. Once the event starts she won't be there, so she's not "at" the work picnic.

I think it's fine. She's watching your kids while you work, which is what nannies do.

+1 OP if you have an hour's worth of work to do 10-11 then of course, set up childcare.

Unless your children are extremely laid back, I would suggest that you don't go as early as 9am. Two hours at the zoo and *then* starting a large, noisy event - however family-friendly it is - sounds like a recipe for meltdowns later on.

+1. People aren't reading carefully

[Anonymous]

If most people at your work also have lots of hired help and are pretty well off, then bring your nanny. No one will notice that you have the help there to look after your kids during the picnic.

If your work colleagues are not as wealthy or not likely to have a lot of household employees, then it will come across as very elitist and weird for you to bring your personal household employees to the work event to look after your children. Especially if you are manager or someone where it will look like you are rubbing your wealth in their face.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If most people at your work also have lots of hired help and are pretty well off, then bring your nanny. No one will notice that you have the help there to look after your kids during the picnic.

If your work colleagues are not as wealthy or not likely to have a lot of household employees, then it will come across as very elitist and weird for you to bring your personal household employees to the work event to look after your children. Especially if you are manager or someone where it will look like you are rubbing your wealth in their face.

READ the post. Nothing you wrote is even remotely relevant.

[Anonymous]

I have never had a nanny for my kids and hardly ever use childcare- and i think the scenario you described is totally appropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If most people at your work also have lots of hired help and are pretty well off, then bring your nanny. No one will notice that you have the help there to look after your kids during the picnic.

If your work colleagues are not as wealthy or not likely to have a lot of household employees, then it will come across as very elitist and weird for you to bring your personal household employees to the work event to look after your children. Especially if you are manager or someone where it will look like you are rubbing your wealth in their face.

READ the post. Nothing you wrote is even remotely relevant.

I did read the post. If everyone else organizing the event has their kids with them while they get it ready, and OP has her nanny - it will feel weird. If they all have nannies to watch the kids while they do the last minute stuff, then no big deal.

We often are at events where adults are getting things together with kids around. I have never seen any one bring hired help to watch their kids. Usually an older kid plays with the younger kids. It would be odd in my circle if one of my colleagues brought household employees but it might be fine in a circle where everyone has that.

[Anonymous]

Is everyone bringing their kids? If not, I would leave the kids home with the nanny or another sitter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If most people at your work also have lots of hired help and are pretty well off, then bring your nanny. No one will notice that you have the help there to look after your kids during the picnic.

If your work colleagues are not as wealthy or not likely to have a lot of household employees, then it will come across as very elitist and weird for you to bring your personal household employees to the work event to look after your children. Especially if you are manager or someone where it will look like you are rubbing your wealth in their face.

READ the post. Nothing you wrote is even remotely relevant.

I did read the post. If everyone else organizing the event has their kids with them while they get it ready, and OP has her nanny - it will feel weird. If they all have nannies to watch the kids while they do the last minute stuff, then no big deal.

We often are at events where adults are getting things together with kids around. I have never seen any one bring hired help to watch their kids. Usually an older kid plays with the younger kids. It would be odd in my circle if one of my colleagues brought household employees but it might be fine in a circle where everyone has that.

The nanny would be walking around the zoo with the kids. It would not make sense for the nanny to be shadowing OP while she’s setting up the work event.

Again, per the OP:
9-10am nanny and kids and OP go to the zoo and see animals together
10-11am OP goes to event area to set up for the picnic (nanny continues walking around the zoo seeing animals with kids)
11:00 am Nanny drops off the kids with OP at the picnic.
Nanny leaves

There’s nothing strange about OPs kids being dropped of at the picnic by the nanny. I imagine anyone else who is setting up will have made a similar arrangement with their spouse/family member/babysitter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is everyone bringing their kids? If not, I would leave the kids home with the nanny or another sitter.

Age matters a lot here.

With an 8 and 10 year old you could easily talk to them and have them stay out of the way for an hour while you set up. But with a 2 and 4 year old? Come on, there’s just no way you’re going to get anything done.

There’s a reason why you (and everyone else) pay for childcare during work hours. This is no different.

[Anonymous]

Ridiculous, especially because the nanny is traveling that day. Unless you're like paying her an extra $300 and you are doing some formal speech or somehting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should have written the post differently bc now everyone is going to just read the title and judge you. You're not actually bringing your nanny to your work picnic. You're bringing her to the zoo to watch your children while you WORK to set up the event. Once the event starts she won't be there, so she's not "at" the work picnic.

I think it's fine. She's watching your kids while you work, which is what nannies do.

+1 OP if you have an hour's worth of work to do 10-11 then of course, set up childcare.

Unless your children are extremely laid back, I would suggest that you don't go as early as 9am. Two hours at the zoo and *then* starting a large, noisy event - however family-friendly it is - sounds like a recipe for meltdowns later on.

+1. Have the nanny bring the kids to you at 11 from home. Both kids will be toast by noon anyway.

[Anonymous]

I think you should have the nanny stay at home with the kids and then bring the kids to you at 11am.

[Anonymous]

Where is your partner?