Sorority Recruitment Coach/Consultant

[Anonymous]

In general I would say no with an exception for someone with absolutely no family or friends familiar with recruitment at a big southern school. I don't think I would pay the full $3000 package, but I think it would be worth spending up to $500 for someone to give advice, review the wardrobe, and make DD feel comfortable with interview process.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe actually talk to girls who live in her dorm rather than paying someone for help on this? It’s all about fit - supposed to be fun.

At some schools the process starts during orientation so you need to be prepared right away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe actually talk to girls who live in her dorm rather than paying someone for help on this? It’s all about fit - supposed to be fun.

At some schools the process starts during orientation so you need to be prepared right away.

+1 And you also don't know the girls in the dorm - who is a nice girl giving reliable information and who is a mean girl pretending to be nice but giving information that may not be in the hearer's best interest. Much better to go to a source who is dependable and with a track record.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What college?

There are campuses where rush is pretty straightforward and this would be massive overkill. And then there are the big southern schools where it may actually be useful.

+1. At a smaller school or a school that is less Greek, it’s not needed. You can find a lot of information on Pinterest/admitted student forums/etc. If the school does formal recruitment in the Spring semester (after they come back from winter break - less common but does happen at some schools), it’s probably not needed there either as your DD will have the whole Fall semester to get acquainted with the chapters on campus.

For a big Greek school though, it might be helpful. But I would still emphasize going into recruitment with a very open mind and not use the the consultant to try to get into one of the three or so top houses. She’ll have an overall better experience if she goes with the best fit house as opposed to gunning for the “top” chapter(s).

[Anonymous]

OP, take a grain of salt with the advice you get if you use one of these. I spoke to a parent at the school were DC was going to rush and he woman was bat-sh*t crazy. Then, I spoke to another parent who was super chill. The first parent made my DC not want to get involved so we dropped it.

When DC got on campus, they decided to give it a shot despite how absolutely insane the one parent was and the ridiculous information they gave me. Also, the Greek website is full of outdated crap where the bottom srats attack the tops. You'll figure this out and if you have a specific house you want, go with their SOP. My DC didn't want any part of the false impressions given before they got on campus and found "their home." Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, take a grain of salt with the advice you get if you use one of these. I spoke to a parent at the school were DC was going to rush and he woman was bat-sh*t crazy. Then, I spoke to another parent who was super chill. The first parent made my DC not want to get involved so we dropped it.

When DC got on campus, they decided to give it a shot despite how absolutely insane the one parent was and the ridiculous information they gave me. Also, the Greek website is full of outdated crap where the bottom srats attack the tops. You'll figure this out and if you have a specific house you want, go with their SOP. My DC didn't want any part of the false impressions given before they got on campus and found "their home." Good luck!

SOP?

[Anonymous]

Useful for out-of-state women going through recruitment at Texas or Ole Miss or many SEC schools or Indiana. Not needed at other places and more harmful than useful at many.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sororities were a huge part of the social life at my school when I was in college 30 years ago. I hadn't known that before I arrived at school but I quickly learned and then I rushed because all the girls on my floor were doing it. I remember being at a distinct disadvantage when I was rushing because I didn't know anything about anything. I wish I had known a little bit more about the process, about the sororities themselves and about what sorority life is like before I had done it. I love my sorority, don't get me wrong, but it all would have been better if I had known more of what to expect ahead of time.

I agree with a PP who says to find a consultant who will help your daughter be herself and to find the best fit. A sorority should enhance a girl's college experience, not make it miserable. I remember one girl in my house and other girls in in other houses who faked it to make it but they were really unhappy. That is a horrible way to live.

+1

Same experience

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What college?

There are campuses where rush is pretty straightforward and this would be massive overkill. And then there are the big southern schools where it may actually be useful.

+1. At a smaller school or a school that is less Greek, it’s not needed. You can find a lot of information on Pinterest/admitted student forums/etc. If the school does formal recruitment in the Spring semester (after they come back from winter break - less common but does happen at some schools), it’s probably not needed there either as your DD will have the whole Fall semester to get acquainted with the chapters on campus.

For a big Greek school though, it might be helpful. But I would still emphasize going into recruitment with a very open mind and not use the the consultant to try to get into one of the three or so top houses. She’ll have an overall better experience if she goes with the best fit house as opposed to gunning for the “top” chapter(s).

OTOH, if the girl is ambitious and really wants a top chapter because she wants that specific experience (social connections and easy access to the “best” guys with the biggest future earning potential), a consultant might be useful.

I say this as someone who knew nothing about Greek Life or how rich people control social networks post college and how disadvantaged you are if you are shut out of those networks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What college?

There are campuses where rush is pretty straightforward and this would be massive overkill. And then there are the big southern schools where it may actually be useful.

+1. At a smaller school or a school that is less Greek, it’s not needed. You can find a lot of information on Pinterest/admitted student forums/etc. If the school does formal recruitment in the Spring semester (after they come back from winter break - less common but does happen at some schools), it’s probably not needed there either as your DD will have the whole Fall semester to get acquainted with the chapters on campus.

For a big Greek school though, it might be helpful. But I would still emphasize going into recruitment with a very open mind and not use the the consultant to try to get into one of the three or so top houses. She’ll have an overall better experience if she goes with the best fit house as opposed to gunning for the “top” chapter(s).

OTOH, if the girl is ambitious and really wants a top chapter because she wants that specific experience (social connections and easy access to the “best” guys with the biggest future earning potential), a consultant might be useful.

I say this as someone who knew nothing about Greek Life or how rich people control social networks post college and how disadvantaged you are if you are shut out of those networks.

+1

Especially since everyone knows that college is your best opportunity to find the most eligible mate you can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What college?

There are campuses where rush is pretty straightforward and this would be massive overkill. And then there are the big southern schools where it may actually be useful.

+1. At a smaller school or a school that is less Greek, it’s not needed. You can find a lot of information on Pinterest/admitted student forums/etc. If the school does formal recruitment in the Spring semester (after they come back from winter break - less common but does happen at some schools), it’s probably not needed there either as your DD will have the whole Fall semester to get acquainted with the chapters on campus.

For a big Greek school though, it might be helpful. But I would still emphasize going into recruitment with a very open mind and not use the the consultant to try to get into one of the three or so top houses. She’ll have an overall better experience if she goes with the best fit house as opposed to gunning for the “top” chapter(s).

OTOH, if the girl is ambitious and really wants a top chapter because she wants that specific experience (social connections and easy access to the “best” guys with the biggest future earning potential), a consultant might be useful.

I say this as someone who knew nothing about Greek Life or how rich people control social networks post college and how disadvantaged you are if you are shut out of those networks.

+1

Especially since everyone knows that college is your best opportunity to find the most eligible mate you can.

+2 for a big Greek school, I’d pay if my DD wanted to join. For a smaller school I might do a consult to get the lay of the land and wardrobe advice.

It’s an interview process.

[Anonymous]

So, as the person who counted votes during sorority rush, as the parliamentarian for the sorority, I was often stunned how my sorority sisters voted. I learned from that experience that you can put your best foot forward, but it can very unpredictable whether you will get into a specific sorority or not. Don’t let it effect your daughter’s self-esteem if she doesn’t get in where she wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, take a grain of salt with the advice you get if you use one of these. I spoke to a parent at the school were DC was going to rush and he woman was bat-sh*t crazy. Then, I spoke to another parent who was super chill. The first parent made my DC not want to get involved so we dropped it.

When DC got on campus, they decided to give it a shot despite how absolutely insane the one parent was and the ridiculous information they gave me. Also, the Greek website is full of outdated crap where the bottom srats attack the tops. You'll figure this out and if you have a specific house you want, go with their SOP. My DC didn't want any part of the false impressions given before they got on campus and found "their home." Good luck!

Greek Rank is a nasty place to be. Greek Chat can be a very helpful website with good advice.

[Anonymous]

Intelligent, STEM women don’t pledge.

[Anonymous]

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