Secondary Infertility - how far did you go with it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Had an ultrasound and they couldn’t see anything. Nurse practitioner said it could just be too early but I am pretty sure I am right about my dates within a few days. Also I am red bleeding now and cramping. They are doing follow up betas and another ultrasound next week. Beta was 2101 on Monday so they should have seen something right?

If you are absolutely positive about your dates, and the person doing the ultrasound was competent (I’m assuming it was a translational ultrasound at this point), then yes.

Meant transvaginal, not translational.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Had an ultrasound and they couldn’t see anything. Nurse practitioner said it could just be too early but I am pretty sure I am right about my dates within a few days. Also I am red bleeding now and cramping. They are doing follow up betas and another ultrasound next week. Beta was 2101 on Monday so they should have seen something right?

If you are absolutely positive about your dates, and the person doing the ultrasound was competent (I’m assuming it was a translational ultrasound at this point), then yes.

Meant transvaginal, not translational.

I am right by a few days give or take. But the beta hcg was 2101 so I figured you should be able to see something.

[Anonymous]

Thanks! I appreciate it. I just passed a clot jelly like thing (tmi) so I assume that is it for me. I actually am bleeding much less now and not cramping at all. Is that normal?

[Anonymous]

So sorry, OP. That sounds like that is probably it. Good luck to you going forward and hugs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On the thyroid issue, get your tsh number. You want it to be 2.5 or below. Most labs use a much higher number at the top of the normal range.

OP here -yes my tsh was 1.98 so I guess that would be considered within normal.

Np. I thought ideal tsh was best closer to 1? I've had a few friends say they couldnt get pregnant until it was below 1.5.

[Anonymous]

OP, I’m sorry that you’re going through this right now. What a tough weekend.

I’m going to go out on a limb and offer that you may not technically be experiencing infertility. You just might need a little more time. It has not been a year. As you have noted, you CAN get pregnant. That’s huge. And you can sustain a pregnancy as evidenced by your two children.

I’m not sure I would not put the chemical pregnancies in the same category as the current miscarriage. If you weren’t carefully watching with pregnancy tests, you might not have even known that you were technically pregnant for a moment. They are way more common than you know. Most women never even know. It’s just a period a couple of days late.

You’re 35, which is still young. Not “25-young,” but still young. I’d suggest taking a break from this for a month. No decisions. No trying. Just catch your breath.

Hang in there.

[Anonymous]

Unexplained secondary infertility here. Pregnant on the first try at 35, easy pregnancy and delivery. I had a much easier delivery than all of my friends. Started try no. 2 at 37. I am now 42 and have never had a second pregnancy. We did ours and I’ve from 38 to 40 and are now just trying on our own until I go into menopause. Decided not to do do it egg or adoption. Trying to be content with an only child even though I really wanted two children.

[Anonymous]

That was supposed to be IUI and IVF from 38 to 40. Nothing worked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I’m sorry that you’re going through this right now. What a tough weekend.

I’m going to go out on a limb and offer that you may not technically be experiencing infertility. You just might need a little more time. It has not been a year. As you have noted, you CAN get pregnant. That’s huge. And you can sustain a pregnancy as evidenced by your two children.

I’m not sure I would not put the chemical pregnancies in the same category as the current miscarriage. If you weren’t carefully watching with pregnancy tests, you might not have even known that you were technically pregnant for a moment. They are way more common than you know. Most women never even know. It’s just a period a couple of days late.

You’re 35, which is still young. Not “25-young,” but still young. I’d suggest taking a break from this for a month. No decisions. No trying. Just catch your breath.

Hang in there.

OP here - thank you for your response. Yes I agree I can get pregnant, I just can't sustain them now and I just wonder what is so different between now and my last pregnancy 2.5 years ago.

[Anonymous]

If you go down the IVF route you most likely will have another route. When folks have trouble getting pregnant (myself included) the world seems to be ending. Then you get on the IVF train and discover it's just about odds, and sometimes good or bad luck. What I am saying is, the emotions are not always commensurate with the actual situation at hand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you go down the IVF route you most likely will have another route. When folks have trouble getting pregnant (myself included) the world seems to be ending. Then you get on the IVF train and discover it's just about odds, and sometimes good or bad luck. What I am saying is, the emotions are not always commensurate with the actual situation at hand.

*have another child , not another route

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you go down the IVF route you most likely will have another route. When folks have trouble getting pregnant (myself included) the world seems to be ending. Then you get on the IVF train and discover it's just about odds, and sometimes good or bad luck. What I am saying is, the emotions are not always commensurate with the actual situation at hand.

OP here - thanks. I don't think we are going to do IVF. My insurance does not cover anything for IUI or IVF. They only cover diagnostics. Not sure if that counts towards ultrasounds and monitoring or not. We might look at IUI.

[Anonymous]

OP, the difference could be egg quality. Mine TANKED in my early 30's. Three years after having my first, I couldn't have a second. Multiple rounds of IVF never gave me a normal embryo. I was early-mid thirties. That's extreme, but just letting you know it does happen.