If you never asked for this “favor”...

[Anonymous]

Any time someone has left my house, for any reason, I say thanks for coming/etc... even to the plumber or the cleaning lady. Isn't that basic manners?

[Anonymous]

Wowwwwww.

You either say thank you and make a nice gesture here or there ("I thought you'd like these chocolates!"), or you tell her flat out that you are doing great and you don't need this dynamic to continue unless she wants to keep coming over.

[Anonymous]

Obvious answer here is yes.

[Anonymous]

I think OP is the friend.

[Anonymous]

I can’t begin to understand your thought process here.

[Anonymous]

You can let her know that you don’t need her to come anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:... do you need to say thank you for it?

A friend brings dinner and stays for dinner once a week to help me since DH has been deployed. I think she is bugged that I don’t thank her for it even though I never asked her to do it and she doesn’t have to - we do okay on our own. I mean it is nice having another set of hands at bedtime and my daughter loves it when this friend comes over.

Am I wrong in my thinking? We both eat the dinner she brings.

Why do you put "favor" in quotes. Isn't it a nice favor whether you ask for it or not?

Please thank her!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any time someone has left my house, for any reason, I say thanks for coming/etc... even to the plumber or the cleaning lady. Isn't that basic manners?

Yes! I also have had people do me unasked for favors that weren’t actually helpful, or even created more work, but the intentions were good and I thanked them because I was truly thankful that they thought about me.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a great friend. Yes you should thank her, every time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any time someone has left my house, for any reason, I say thanks for coming/etc... even to the plumber or the cleaning lady. Isn't that basic manners?

Yes! I also have had people do me unasked for favors that weren’t actually helpful, or even created more work, but the intentions were good and I thanked them because I was truly thankful that they thought about me.

In that case the two options are to say "thank you" afterwards, or "no thank you" before.

[Anonymous]

Just because you don’t ask for something in advance, that is not a free pass to ignore your manners.

This should not even be a question in the first place.

Any time someone does a kind thing for you.....
A direct “thank you” is always warranted.

No exceptions!

[Anonymous]

Yes, say thank you. Good grief! I hope you raise your child with manners.

[Anonymous]

I can’t fathom this question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think OP is the friend.

+1

[Anonymous]

Yes, say thank you!