What to tell people who will actually mention your weight gain ?

[Anonymous]

PS- unless it's a GOOD thing and you look better, e.g. were underweight. But still, weird to comment on to the person and to others.

[Anonymous]

Tell them to watch “Shrill” on Hulu.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous]If you gained weight due to health reason but you dont want everybody know your business and the person brings up the weight gain or asks you if you pregnant what would you say ?[/quote]

My mom is like this. I just say, yeah, I have a mirror, thanks for the reminder captain obvious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, whether they mention it or not, they notice it and are probably talking to others about your weight gain. So, it kind of comes with the territory. You gain weight and people will notice. I'd rather them just come up to me and ask instead of talking behind my back (which they will do anyways).

It just is what it is...people notice.

Are you serious? Who would actually bring this up and gossip with other people? Eveyone involved would like like a total jerk. It's almost more outlandish as someone bringing up to your face.

Not OP, but everyone in my entire family would bring weight gain up, gossip about it, and then bring it up to my face. Not outlandish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, whether they mention it or not, they notice it and are probably talking to others about your weight gain. So, it kind of comes with the territory. You gain weight and people will notice. I'd rather them just come up to me and ask instead of talking behind my back (which they will do anyways).

It just is what it is...people notice.

Are you serious? Who would actually bring this up and gossip with other people? Eveyone involved would like like a total jerk. It's almost more outlandish as someone bringing up to your face.

Have you never left your house? Of course people talk about it.

OP - here are a few responses for you if you do not want to mention an illness
- apparently my beer, cheese, and doughnut diet is not workin
- thanks for noticing, it was not easy gaining this much weight, but I hung in there
- just stare.....say nothing, shake your head and walk away

[Anonymous]

If I moved beyond stunned that someone was commenting, I think I'd go in 1 of 2 directions:

"Wow, so you're asking me about my weight gain?"
or
"Why do you ask?"

Either one puts it on them to say something next. The why do you ask version does leave them open to say something well-intentioned, like "my sister was on steroids last year and she gained a lot of weight..."

[Anonymous]

If someone were to ask me “when are you due?” I’d tell them it’s my bread baby.

[Anonymous]

I'm due for highlights in two weeks. Why do you ask?

[Anonymous]

I sympathize with you OP. I have large fibroids that make me look pregnant and with family who comment I am honest and say ‘it’s the fibroids’ but with people who aren’t that close I wouldn’t be comfortable sharing. Fortunately 99% of the time the only people rude enough to comment are family.

[Anonymous]

I gained weight due to a thyroid issue and no one has said anything about it. These days people are wired not to mention weight at all, especially when it increases.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would pause, look confused, and say, wow, that’s rude.

+1

+1 I’m rarely confrontational, but sometimes it’s absolutely called for. This is one of those times.

[Anonymous]

Not OP but: I gained 30 lbs in a year due to fertility treatments and steriods. It was super obvious. I had moon face and was swollen.

Eventually I just said “medication side effects” and left it at that. People are less likely to give you diet tips or nag about what you are eating - that for me was worse than actually taking the meds.

[Anonymous]

"I am not pregnant. Whatever made you think that?" Is the person asking super slim? I wish I told my sister's MIL who commented on my weight gain(of 10lbs!) when she is obese to shove it up hers... But, I didn't want to cause trouble for my sister.

[Anonymous]

I said, "I can't believe you think I'm young enough to be pregnant." Then I grabbed my boobs and said, "who knew these would grow in menopause"

It was quite hilarious.

but if you are not 50 like me I'd say, "prednisone"

You need to find a way to not let other's vision of the right way to look infect your good sense of decency.

[Anonymous]

Thank you, you know there are mirrors, right?