"I Love You"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Almost 8 months. I was about to leave him over it. He doesn’t know that. But I had dated soyfor almost 2 years who never said it. And I was afraid I was going to end up in another one of those relationships.

I knew very quickly I loved him, like less than 1 month. But he had gotten divorce a few years prior. And quickly got involved with a unmediated crazy woman which was intense, but unhealthy. And now he just wanted to take it slow.

About month 6.5, we talked about it. He knew how I felt about him (even though I never said it). And he said he was getting there, just not there yet. Give him time.

And he treated me and acted like he loved me. He didn’t play the push-pull game. He was genuine and present. So I waited.

Glad I did. Once he did say it, he never shut up. Probably said it 20-30 times a day for several years. Now we are down to 10 times a day. Words are one of our love languages.

Concur. Love is something you do, not something you "feel."

+1 actions tell me all I need to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Almost 8 months. I was about to leave him over it. He doesn’t know that. But I had dated soyfor almost 2 years who never said it. And I was afraid I was going to end up in another one of those relationships.

I knew very quickly I loved him, like less than 1 month. But he had gotten divorce a few years prior. And quickly got involved with a unmediated crazy woman which was intense, but unhealthy. And now he just wanted to take it slow.

About month 6.5, we talked about it. He knew how I felt about him (even though I never said it). And he said he was getting there, just not there yet. Give him time.

And he treated me and acted like he loved me. He didn’t play the push-pull game. He was genuine and present. So I waited.

Glad I did. Once he did say it, he never shut up. Probably said it 20-30 times a day for several years. Now we are down to 10 times a day. Words are one of our love languages.

Concur. Love is something you do, not something you "feel."

True, but that’s how I ended up with a guy (ex boyfriend) 2 years later who never said I love you. His actions were that he loved me. And he’d talk about weird things about our future like our life insurance or our retirement. But never actually talk about us in the here and now. And heaven forbid I bring up where things were going. I was supposed to be satisfied that he was freaking out about how we were going to pay for our future kids college fund. But would never talk about the future kids, like how many, when, etc. But these imaginary kids has fully funded (in his mind) college funds.

Realized the fact that he never said I Love You, gave him an out. He didn’t have to fully commit to this relationship.

So I learned, words and actions have to match. That’s why I almost left DH after 8 months. His actions said he loved me. But if he couldn’t say it too, I had to go. I’m so glad he finally said it!

[Anonymous]

Just realized I am experiencing limerance.

[Anonymous]

I love you more.