Redshirting question (DD with bday 4 days before cutoff)

[Anonymous]

We sent our sep 26 kid on time, no regrets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mcps k teacher: give her another year of preschool. You have the option, why not take it? I have not yet met a parent who took the extra year and regretted it. I have met a number who did regret sending them “on time”.
Every child grows and develops at a different rate. Those who are close to the cut off date (within 60 days, I believe for Mcps) are allowed to waiver for a reason.
Ultimately, you know your child best. Do what your gut tells you is best for her.

Hey MCPS teacher- Im a new poster. Any advice for me? I have a june 18th boy and dont know what to do bc I hear all July boys are being redshirted!

My boy is late July and going on time and I can tell you that I will not regret it. I would regret wasting 20K a year on daycare when I don't have to.

[Anonymous]

My boy is late July, now third grade, and I have no regrets about holding him back. He is thriving, loves school and I'm glad he had the extra year of preschool. (I'm sure I would have had second thoughts if I had to pay 20k on daycare though!) We made the decision based on the recommendation of his fours teacher.

My other children went to K on time.

Each child is different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is also four days before the (DC) cutoff. We sent her on time. Yes, she's less mature than her classmates, but really we haven't had any problems. (She also doesn't like "scary" shows, which is pretty much all of them, in her opinion.) Academically, she was ready, and there wasn't really any concrete reason not to send her.

I was the youngest in my class, too, because I started early. Socially it probably was more challenging, but overall I think it was good. I would have been pretty bored doing the same material at a year older.

If people in your area generally send on time, then she'll be the youngest perhaps, but not by that much. She'll be in the range that the teachers are used to, she'll be in the range of her classmates, etc. Don't make a decision out of fear that doesn't have any grounding in the present reality.

Maybe don't give gratuitous advice if you don't have all the facts. If it works for you and your child- great. But this doesn't address the OP's question... you are just trying to validate your own parenting choices.

OP- as you lonely realize by now, DCUM has some very vocal anti-redshirters. So, this thread will likely take that turn.

[Anonymous]

You have time to figure this out. I wouldn't decide now. If you lose your next year deposit at preschool or whatever, so be it.

I'd start to introduce some reading or letters/sight words - although - we are in FCPS and my daughter wasn't reading at the start of KG and it wasn't an issue. We worked through her sight words and on to books.

Can you emphasize play dates with kids her age?

What's the deal with the mean girl shenanigans?

We ended up having my August bday daughter repeat KG b/c of anxiety issues. In hindsight I would not have sent her, but her cousin and a friend's daughter are almost the same age as her and went to KG without any problems.

Last, there's always the option to start KG and if it's just not working you can pull her mid-year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is also four days before the (DC) cutoff. We sent her on time. Yes, she's less mature than her classmates, but really we haven't had any problems. (She also doesn't like "scary" shows, which is pretty much all of them, in her opinion.) Academically, she was ready, and there wasn't really any concrete reason not to send her.

I was the youngest in my class, too, because I started early. Socially it probably was more challenging, but overall I think it was good. I would have been pretty bored doing the same material at a year older.

If people in your area generally send on time, then she'll be the youngest perhaps, but not by that much. She'll be in the range that the teachers are used to, she'll be in the range of her classmates, etc. Don't make a decision out of fear that doesn't have any grounding in the present reality.

She is not less mature if you are comparing her to kids a year old. She is where she should be developmentally.

We sent our kid and he's doing well. I think holding back would have caused more issues academically as the school K-3 is not very challenging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is also four days before the (DC) cutoff. We sent her on time. Yes, she's less mature than her classmates, but really we haven't had any problems. (She also doesn't like "scary" shows, which is pretty much all of them, in her opinion.) Academically, she was ready, and there wasn't really any concrete reason not to send her.

I was the youngest in my class, too, because I started early. Socially it probably was more challenging, but overall I think it was good. I would have been pretty bored doing the same material at a year older.

If people in your area generally send on time, then she'll be the youngest perhaps, but not by that much. She'll be in the range that the teachers are used to, she'll be in the range of her classmates, etc. Don't make a decision out of fear that doesn't have any grounding in the present reality.

Maybe don't give gratuitous advice if you don't have all the facts. If it works for you and your child- great. But this doesn't address the OP's question... you are just trying to validate your own parenting choices.

OP- as you lonely realize by now, DCUM has some very vocal anti-redshirters. So, this thread will likely take that turn.

??? The OP said that the only reason she would consider redshirting is because her child would be younger, and that she is not worried about early elementary, but is looking ahead to middle school. It's not gratuitous advice if OP ASKED for it. Her question was LITERALLY whether anyone else had "been there, done that." I have a kid who was in exactly the same situation as OP's, I ALSO was in a similar situation as a child, and this was my experience, and that's my advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is also four days before the (DC) cutoff. We sent her on time. Yes, she's less mature than her classmates, but really we haven't had any problems. (She also doesn't like "scary" shows, which is pretty much all of them, in her opinion.) Academically, she was ready, and there wasn't really any concrete reason not to send her.

I was the youngest in my class, too, because I started early. Socially it probably was more challenging, but overall I think it was good. I would have been pretty bored doing the same material at a year older.

If people in your area generally send on time, then she'll be the youngest perhaps, but not by that much. She'll be in the range that the teachers are used to, she'll be in the range of her classmates, etc. Don't make a decision out of fear that doesn't have any grounding in the present reality.

Maybe don't give gratuitous advice if you don't have all the facts. If it works for you and your child- great. But this doesn't address the OP's question... you are just trying to validate your own parenting choices.

OP- as you lonely realize by now, DCUM has some very vocal anti-redshirters. So, this thread will likely take that turn.

??? The OP said that the only reason she would consider redshirting is because her child would be younger, and that she is not worried about early elementary, but is looking ahead to middle school. It's not gratuitous advice if OP ASKED for it. Her question was LITERALLY whether anyone else had "been there, done that." I have a kid who was in exactly the same situation as OP's, I ALSO was in a similar situation as a child, and this was my experience, and that's my advice.

Apologies. I mixed this thread up with the recurring thread that was right above it. You are right, you were giving a good response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boy is late July, now third grade, and I have no regrets about holding him back. He is thriving, loves school and I'm glad he had the extra year of preschool. (I'm sure I would have had second thoughts if I had to pay 20k on daycare though!) We made the decision based on the recommendation of his fours teacher.

My other children went to K on time.

Each child is different.

If you have to hold a summer kid back, you should get them evaluated and into services. There is absolutely no reason to hold 5 year old back to play. A 4 year old preschool teacher has no way to predict the future and if they say hold back, they failed to prepare your kid properly. Most don't have child development degrees or even a related college degree in teaching.

[Anonymous]

My DD was born 7 databanks before the private school cutoff and we are holding her back for many of the same reason Op describes. I think she will be happier over all being older rather than younger

[Anonymous]

While pre-k teachers spend quite a bit of time with kids, they are not all certified teachers and don't know the specifics of each public school. Talks to the school where you will send your child. Get their take. They will very likely tell you send your child on time. The school is used to getting all types. The pants wetter, the ones that cry every day for a week, chatty-kathy, bully, napper, ones that can only recognize a few letters and their name, geniuses, non-rule followers, etc. They adjust and K teachers are trained to deal with these kids.

[Anonymous]

Pre-K teachers all try to sell an extra year to anyone who will fall for it. Many are pressured to do so by administrators. $$$

[Anonymous]

DD was two days before the cutoff. We sent her on time and academically she struggled at first, settled in through middle school and did very well in high school and now college. Socially she was always on the quieter side and struggled a bit through the teenage years when everyone else was doing things (driving. dating, etc) earlier. She also does an activity that is broken down by age for competition so she was always grouped with the grade below her instead of with her classmates which bugged her a bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Send on time. The curriculum really hasn't changed much since cutoff was moved from dec 31 to sep 1 anyway.

Absolutely DO NOT put any weight on nursery school opinion. They are always trying to sell another year to anyone who will fall for it.

Are you an Mcps teacher who taught both curriculums? Beachwear I am and the expectations for kindergartens has changed dramatically over 20 years.

+1

Night and day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We sent our sep 26 kid on time, no regrets.

The MCPS cutoff is August 31.

How is this relevant?