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02/21/2019 07:50

Subject: People who change drastically

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:YEs I have noticed flipping one extreme for its opposite!
Also I have my STBX’s example: when we met, married, and up until our child was about 2-3 yo, he was a very agreeable, soft person, which was perfect for me. As I became more and more dependent on him for money and help with the child, he was becoming more and more tyrannical and stubborn and just a jerk. Maybe it was because we weren’t in love anymore, or maybe because I was dependent on him.
I am now back to work, kid is older, we are separating and he is all sensible and fairly agreeable again. So weird.

I don’t think it’s weird. He doesn’t want an adult dependant.

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02/21/2019 07:53

Subject: Re:People who change drastically

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Anonymous

I work with someone who had a nice streak of wins the past few years
This person change and not in a good way.

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02/21/2019 08:21

Subject: People who change drastically

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Anonymous

I have a good friend who gets sucked into whatever religious denomination her man is- from super evangelical talking in tongues and now Catholicism. Shes also into her new guys sports teams now. It's kinda ridiculous

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02/21/2019 09:28

Subject: Re:People who change drastically

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Anonymous

These types of personality changes in people you thought you knew are so weird. It leaves you wondering who they truly were and re-think all the conversations you've had before.

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02/21/2019 09:36

Subject: People who change drastically

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Anonymous

I think you are confusing some sort of drastic personality change (joining a cult, for example) and a process of taking on new interests or maturing that comes with age. Neither of the latter two is drastic.

If someone is constantly reinventing herself, I steer clear. I have no problem with developing new tastes, habits, or viewpoints.

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02/21/2019 15:16

Subject: Re:People who change drastically

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Anonymous

I'm mostly disturbed by people who put on a nice face in public. Only to find out they are cheaters, liars, domestic abusers etc.

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02/21/2019 16:24

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Anonymous

Right - you can’t relate.

I was an underachieving party girl in my twenties and went on to earn a master’s and develop an impressive career in my thirties. The underachieving party girl persona came from unresolved trauma and a lack of aim. Once I had kids and got divorced, I developed a clear sense of direction.