Co-worker slammed door in my face today

[Anonymous]

Boss's daughter = drop it, since she gave a sort of apology. She sounds like a jerk, but sometimes that's what you get in a coworker. You will not get the satisfaction you are looking for by talking to her boss. Her boss is not going to piss off the owner by siding with you.

[Anonymous]

OP, you will not win in this situation.

Do you work in The White House, by chance?

[Anonymous]

OP here, and now that I have cooled off, I likely won't mention it to her boss. I don't think it would result in my firing, as I'm in a position where my 2-3 predecessors have failed, and I'm performing extremely well (and I'm in a position where my success generates revenue). However, there's no good way to tell the story without making myself look like a drama queen.

My co-worker is full of it if she thinks I believe she didn't do it on purpose and/or wasn't aware that the door had slammed right in my face. However, I'm going to be the bigger person and give her another chance despite her track record. Overall, we work very well together.

(And honestly, I'm not worried about being fired. I like my job and I hope to keep it, but I don't need it -- I can find another job.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, and now that I have cooled off, I likely won't mention it to her boss. I don't think it would result in my firing, as I'm in a position where my 2-3 predecessors have failed, and I'm performing extremely well (and I'm in a position where my success generates revenue). However, there's no good way to tell the story without making myself look like a drama queen.

My co-worker is full of it if she thinks I believe she didn't do it on purpose and/or wasn't aware that the door had slammed right in my face. However, I'm going to be the bigger person and give her another chance despite her track record. Overall, we work very well together.

(And honestly, I'm not worried about being fired. I like my job and I hope to keep it, but I don't need it -- I can find another job.)

NP here.

I'm glad that you've cooled off and have reconsidered your decision to escalate this. It was a petty issue. She was rude, you demanded an apology and she gave you an insincere apology. In all honesty, that's all that you should do. As a relative of someone very senior with a lot of power, she obviously has become very entitled and her father has enabled her. If she has had incidents before being rude and she has not been cautioned, moved or fired, then nothing you say will change that. And just a word from experience, NO one is irreplaceable in business. I have seen far too many people in your position where they are valuable to the company think that this protects them. It will only protect you as long as you are more valuable than the other person. In this case, I can pretty much guarantee you that you are not more valuable than a family member who is employed only due to their family status. You will be gone long before she will be. If you opt to try to force action on her, you will find yourself much more expendable than you are willing to admit to yourself.

Additionally, while you can easily find another job on your skills, be very careful about leaving a job involuntarily, especially due to friction with a family member. If any future employer asks for references or why you left, you will find it difficult to cover this. Most likely you'll have to avoid using this company or anyone associated with it as a reference. And hiring managers often question why your last employer is not one of your references unless you have a good cover story. It won't keep you from getting another job, but it may keep you from getting the best job or the job that you really want.

Never get involved in family politics if you can avoid it. Non-family almost always loses.

[Anonymous]

I have found as a manager that every time an employee apologized for bad conduct, the other side claims the apology is insincere. So I don't put much weight in "insincerity" claims.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, and now that I have cooled off, I likely won't mention it to her boss. I don't think it would result in my firing, as I'm in a position where my 2-3 predecessors have failed, and I'm performing extremely well (and I'm in a position where my success generates revenue). However, there's no good way to tell the story without making myself look like a drama queen.

My co-worker is full of it if she thinks I believe she didn't do it on purpose and/or wasn't aware that the door had slammed right in my face. However, I'm going to be the bigger person and give her another chance despite her track record. Overall, we work very well together.

(And honestly, I'm not worried about being fired. I like my job and I hope to keep it, but I don't need it -- I can find another job.)

??? !!! Oh, boy.

OP, you need to begin your job search now. Your current job is not going to be going well for you if this is your attitude! You need to knock yourself down a couple of pegs if you think you're going to give the owner's daughter "another chance." Either decide to let it go or move on but engaging in a tattle-tale session on the owner's daughter (or any other employee, for that matter) is not a good way to make yourself a valued employee of any company.

LOL!

[Anonymous]

"Mary slammed a door in my face yesterday."

"That's unacceptable. I will talk to her about it and hopefully she will apologize..."

"Oh, she already apologized."

"..."

[Anonymous]

Move on. You aren’t 12.

[Anonymous]

Your work is not your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a real shit stirrer.

Your whole office sounds freakshow horrible - and you’re the queen of the freaks. OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, and now that I have cooled off, I likely won't mention it to her boss. I don't think it would result in my firing, as I'm in a position where my 2-3 predecessors have failed, and I'm performing extremely well (and I'm in a position where my success generates revenue). However, there's no good way to tell the story without making myself look like a drama queen.

My co-worker is full of it if she thinks I believe she didn't do it on purpose and/or wasn't aware that the door had slammed right in my face. However, I'm going to be the bigger person and give her another chance despite her track record. Overall, we work very well together.

(And honestly, I'm not worried about being fired. I like my job and I hope to keep it, but I don't need it -- I can find another job.)

Because you are a drama queen. You're not her boss, she apologized. There is literally nothing to be done.

And the idea that you will "give her another chance" is laughable. You are not as valuable as you think you are. Certainly you are not more valuable than the boss's daughter. And if you go to the boss and complain that she slammed the door, but have to admit that she already apologized, you will look like a lunatic and YOU will be labelled the person who is difficult to work with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good for you for calling her out. She apologized. Accept her apology (even if it's crappy) and move on. As far as you are concerned, she admitted wrongdoing and apologized.

Yep.

+1. Done and done.

Also I think A showed up in this thread

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boss's daughter = drop it, since she gave a sort of apology. She sounds like a jerk, but sometimes that's what you get in a coworker. You will not get the satisfaction you are looking for by talking to her boss. Her boss is not going to piss off the owner by siding with you.

This. Her door slam only makes her look bad! She sounds ridiculous!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you will not win in this situation.

Do you work in The White House, by chance?

LOL!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, and now that I have cooled off, I likely won't mention it to her boss. I don't think it would result in my firing, as I'm in a position where my 2-3 predecessors have failed, and I'm performing extremely well (and I'm in a position where my success generates revenue). However, there's no good way to tell the story without making myself look like a drama queen.

My co-worker is full of it if she thinks I believe she didn't do it on purpose and/or wasn't aware that the door had slammed right in my face. However, I'm going to be the bigger person and give her another chance despite her track record. Overall, we work very well together.

(And honestly, I'm not worried about being fired. I like my job and I hope to keep it, but I don't need it -- I can find another job.)

Good.

And if you want to keep this job, you'll have to live with this unpleasant and entitled person.