Thoughts on this playdate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious how old DD and her friend are.

They're 6th graders... so 11/12yrs.

Pro-tip: Stop referring to the times when your 6th grader gets together with a friend as a “play date.” Your daughter invited a friend over.

And stop having the whole time the friend is over filled with parent planned activities. Tweens do not need their parents to plan every moment of their free time with friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious how old DD and her friend are.

They're 6th graders... so 11/12yrs.

LOL. No, there was no miscommunication. They totally planned this. I thought you were going to say Sara and your DD were 6.

They were slick! Have a fun time!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, they totally planned that on their own. At that age with that plan, I’d think nothing of it if my kid said it was a sleepover.

Of course they did! All you have to do is check their texts. You need to pull your head out of your ass!

[Anonymous]

Play date or hanging out = kid comes over and plays

Sleepover = dinner then movie, sometimes other activities planned

Somewhere along the way, Sarah or her parents deduced it was a sleepover, and your kid went along with it.

Ask your DD tomorrow what happened.

FYI, you aren’t supposed to plan your kid’s play date/whatever they call it.

[Anonymous]

I have a seven-year-old and do not plan my daughter’s play dates. Part of the fun is that they can decide what to do (within reason).

But yeah, with the sleepover agree with PPs that the kids planned it out.

[Anonymous]

The kids planned it all and you need to address it with your daughter and decide what to do. Next time be very clear with the plans. We will drop off child at 8 PM.

[Anonymous]

Reported for move to tween

[Anonymous]

If my daughter did this at the age of 11, I would let it go and roll with it ONCE. But after Sara left i would tell my daughter "Net time you pull this crap, not only will I tell your friend and her parent you didn't have permission for a sleepover but because you were sneaky about it the fun was now cancelled and I'm sorry but [Sara] has to leave now. I WILL humiliate you in front of your friend if you lie and sneak."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If my daughter did this at the age of 11, I would let it go and roll with it ONCE. But after Sara left i would tell my daughter "Net time you pull this crap, not only will I tell your friend and her parent you didn't have permission for a sleepover but because you were sneaky about it the fun was now cancelled and I'm sorry but [Sara] has to leave now. I WILL humiliate you in front of your friend if you lie and sneak."

Well that escalated quickly.....

[Anonymous]

Why are you even asking us what to do? If you don’t want the kid over, say there was miscommunication and she leaves. If you don’t mind, let her stay. With kids that age, they plan crap together all the time but you are still the adult

[Anonymous]

My kids and their friends plan sleepovers all of the time and try to tell us it’s hapoening. A lot of times it’s fine but sometimes we have conflicts. The parents usually Terry to confirm or if the kids are talking on the phone they hand it to us. Assume this was a miscommunication and they thought the dad’s said it was ok. Talk to your daughter tomorrow. But my DH has half listened to our kids and agreed to sleepovers without realizing it.

[Anonymous]

^text not terry

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If my daughter did this at the age of 11, I would let it go and roll with it ONCE. But after Sara left i would tell my daughter "Net time you pull this crap, not only will I tell your friend and her parent you didn't have permission for a sleepover but because you were sneaky about it the fun was now cancelled and I'm sorry but [Sara] has to leave now. I WILL humiliate you in front of your friend if you lie and sneak."

Well that escalated quickly.....

I don't put up with sneaky crap from my kids. If you want a sleepover, ask for a sleepover.

[Anonymous]

Goodness, that's so stereotypical.

The kids who want a sleepover, the dads who don't communicate correctly, and the mother left doing everything...

I would have reached out to the mother and said that I did not expect a sleepover, but that we could do one. The other family has to get their act together too. And you lecture your kid and husband. Find out who omitted what.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Goodness, that's so stereotypical.

The kids who want a sleepover, the dads who don't communicate correctly, and the mother left doing everything...

I would have reached out to the mother and said that I did not expect a sleepover, but that we could do one. The other family has to get their act together too. And you lecture your kid and husband. Find out who omitted what.

Agree.