Dense, heavy kids

[Anonymous]

OP, and no she's not 5'3. I didn't state that correctly--I tell *her* she's almost as big as me, but she's not literally that tall. She's always been around 85th-90th percentile for height, and never the tallest in her class, but definitely one of the heaviest.

[Anonymous]

Holy crap. So many issues. 1) stop picking up your child. 2) let her wake herself up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Holy crap. So many issues. 1) stop picking up your child. 2) let her wake herself up

I was kind of wondering this too, and I lean towards the 'treat them as little for as long as you can' mentality.

Kids her age go to sleepovers and overnight camp! She needs to use the bathroom by herself overnight. She's not 3.

[Anonymous]

I have a peanut 7 year old DS who is about 4' tall and 45 lbs. I actually don't think 55-60 lbs is that heavy for that age and there is no way she is 5'3" - she would be emaciated at that weight.

I would believe 70-80 lbs and 4'6". That sounds heavy for that age but reasonably proportional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Holy crap. So many issues. 1) stop picking up your child. 2) let her wake herself up

The only time I carry my 6 year old is from the couch to bed, he asks me to and I figure I still can so why not. We are coming very close to the time when I cannot carry him, he is 60 pounds, but if I can and he wants me to, I am going to enjoy carrying him a little bit longer. I don't carry him outside of the house or in any other way but this has been a part of our bed time routine for ages. I only have a few years of being able to carry him a bit so I am going to enjoy the last few months.

As for waking kids up, some kids need help getting to the bathroom because they are having accidents at night. There are a variety of ways to handle that, one is for the parents to wake the kid before the parents go to bed and get them to go potty again. There is sleeping underwear for kids who are struggling with night time accidents for a reason. You don't know what their pediatrician has told them or how they are handling things. Chill

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holy crap. So many issues. 1) stop picking up your child. 2) let her wake herself up

I was kind of wondering this too, and I lean towards the 'treat them as little for as long as you can' mentality.

Kids her age go to sleepovers and overnight camp! She needs to use the bathroom by herself overnight. She's not 3.

OP here. She's a very heavy sleeper. If we don't wake her up, she pees in bed without waking, and mattress is soaked in the morning. Doesn't matter how much fluid we give her before bed, etc. She had been wearing a pullup at night. Husband wants to try no pullups but waking her up at 11 to pee. He's been carrying her to the bathroom the past few weeks. I'm going to go back to having him do it tonight, because my hip is still out of sorts.

[Anonymous]

Have you tried the alarm? It worked really well for my DD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried the alarm? It worked really well for my DD.

OP, and no, not yet. That would be the next step. I think we got overwhelmed by the choices between all the alarms, and the fact that the data seem to suggest only moderate effectiveness? Husband found one that claimed to be the best ever, but it was like $500-600..

If you have a model you'd suggest, happy to hear!

[Anonymous]

6 yo DS - 43 inches, and 41 pounds. Light as a feather to pick up.

3 yo DD - 38 inches, 35 pounds. OOF. Definitely dense, always has been. She probably takes after me - I'm 5'1/125, but never bigger than a size 2. Heavy but not fat at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It may not be density, but muscle tone. Low tone kids feel heavier because they are not using their own muscles to help you or to balance their own weight in the lift. My DS and his best buddy were same height and weight, but he has low tone and she's a gymnast in the making. The difference in lifting them is stunning. He is dead weight, while you could hold her without using your arms since she clings like she's shinnying up a pole.

Yes! My brother has fraternal twins and one is like a sack of potatoes and one is like a monkey climbing you. They are very similarly sized, but have very different muscle tones.

[Anonymous]

My very skinny average height 7yo boy weighs 50 pounds. My very skinny short 9yo boy weighs 60 pounds.

I’m 5’4”. I haven’t picked them up and carried them in years. DH does carry them in from car like maybe once a year if we stay late at our friends party.

I don’t think your daughter is dense. She is just getting older and heavier.