Would you date a woman who had been divorced twice?

[Anonymous]

Date, sure; marriage or cohabitate? Nope.

[Anonymous]

There are alot of judgemental people on DCUM. You just have to ignore them.

If the person is for you, they are for you.

[Anonymous]

I'd date her, but it wouldn't be with the intention of marrying her one day.

[Anonymous]

Two divorces by mid-50’s and good term with exes and well adjusted grown children I don’t think of as a big red flag. At that point in life, I would expect the person to have lived life and have some sort of circumstances whether it is never been married or widowed or divorced after 20 years and just getting used to dating or maybe having kids that aren’t well adjusted etc. There is no person that will be a blank slate in 50’s and the same as if you met them at 21. - for better and for worse.

Where the two divorces may or may not make a difference is if both people are looking for the same thing long term. I don’t know if I would want to ever remarry if my kids are out the house but other people feel differently about that.

[Anonymous]

Guy here. No absolutely not. Sex? yes maybe... but date/relationship? No thanks.

[Anonymous]

Sure, why not? But if we started developing strong feelings for each other I would really need to understand the Dynamics of why both marriages ended.

[Anonymous]

I would see 2 divorces as a potential red flag but would still be open to dating and finding out more. Could be just bad luck. I think anyone old enough to date a woman who was twice divorced is also probably old enough to know that life doesn't always turn out as planned. We all make mistakes. Some of us even learn from them. A twice-divorced woman could be bitter, angry, and devoid of self-awareness... or she could be someone at peace with herself and aware of the patterns and mistakes she has made, therefore less likely to repeat them. I would want to get to know her and judge for myself.

[Anonymous]

My ex is now married a third time... Inwish her the best, but doubt that will last.

[Anonymous]

My friend was 2x divorced and married for the 3x. They are super happy. I’d be more wary of the 50+ yr old never married.

[Anonymous]

One’s trash is another’s treasure

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One’s trash is another’s treasure

Many times just another trash

[Anonymous]

Of course. My mom was my dad's 3rd wife. They were married for 48 years when he died. 3rd time was the charm.

[Anonymous]

Nope, that's a huge red flag, and too much baggage.

[Anonymous]

I'd also want to know if in addition to the two divorces, they've also had other non-marital long-term relationships that ended in failure. That would give you a better idea of the pattern of behavior.

No matter how she started out at the beginning, I'd have to assume she's a pretty cynical person after going through two divorces. You'd almost have to be regardless of why the divorces occurred.

I'd keep my fingers crossed and my hand on my wallet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she was good in bed I would date her but I would never marry her.

I always get confused by this. Isn’t sexual chemistry a big part of being good in bed?