Tying shoes, but can't do it tight enough to stay- 9 year old

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Use rabbit ear method...she will.learn in 5 mins !!

I can't tie a bow that way and I am an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Use rabbit ear method...she will.learn in 5 mins !!

19:09 here. I'm sure you meant well but you should pay attention to what forum the thread you're responding to is in and what the OP actually said. There are many kids who, because of their SNs, don't learn to tie their shoes at the age typical kids learn to tie their shoes. So, your glib response about learning to tie shoes in 5 minutes is not only unhelpful, it's tone-deaf.

Ther eare other kids, like mine and OP's, who DO know how to tie their shoes but they are unable to tie them tightly. May as well not tie them all. In my DS's case, not have firmly laced shoes causes his orthotics to rub blisters on his feet. Lock laces are a great solution. The 'rabbit ear method' is not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Use rabbit ear method...she will.learn in 5 mins !!

19:09 here. I'm sure you meant well but you should pay attention to what forum the thread you're responding to is in and what the OP actually said. There are many kids who, because of their SNs, don't learn to tie their shoes at the age typical kids learn to tie their shoes. So, your glib response about learning to tie shoes in 5 minutes is not only unhelpful, it's tone-deaf.

Ther eare other kids, like mine and OP's, who DO know how to tie their shoes but they are unable to tie them tightly. May as well not tie them all. In my DS's case, not have firmly laced shoes causes his orthotics to rub blisters on his feet. Lock laces are a great solution. The 'rabbit ear method' is not.

Plus the rabbit ear method never stays tied.

[Anonymous]

Double-knotting is what works for my DD. Simple and fast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Double-knotting is what works for my DD. Simple and fast.

That's great to keep them tied. How do you address the 'not getting them tight enough' issue?

[Anonymous]

Is your child in OT? My son had finger weakness and struggled. When he was young we did those curly laces but at some point he really was very motivated to tie like his friends. The OT worked on this with him. I also often replaced the laces that came with the shoes as some laces stayed tied better. At the start I let him tie them and then I followed up and double knotted them. Eventually he was able to tie them tight enough and/or double knot around late 5th grade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is your child in OT? My son had finger weakness and struggled. When he was young we did those curly laces but at some point he really was very motivated to tie like his friends. The OT worked on this with him. I also often replaced the laces that came with the shoes as some laces stayed tied better. At the start I let him tie them and then I followed up and double knotted them. Eventually he was able to tie them tight enough and/or double knot around late 5th grade.

We went to an OT as well and they taught my son a different way to tie his shoes that he still uses. It's not the usual way or the rabbit ear way, but it worked after some practice.

[Anonymous]

OP here again, We tried Lock laces and they were great, but he doesn't want to use them because he says they hurt when he is playing at recess (ie.. kicking balls). Any other solutions? I am thinking about maybe trying an OT over the summer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here again, We tried Lock laces and they were great, but he doesn't want to use them because he says they hurt when he is playing at recess (ie.. kicking balls). Any other solutions? I am thinking about maybe trying an OT over the summer.

I'm one of the PPs that suggested Lock Laces. Did your DS say where/how they hurt when he's playing? Is he pulling them too tight? I, myself, wear them and have seen a number of tri-athletes wear them so they can quickly change shoes during between events. I'm trying to understand how they hurt and how a different product would be different (not being snarky, seriously trying to picture it).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here again, We tried Lock laces and they were great, but he doesn't want to use them because he says they hurt when he is playing at recess (ie.. kicking balls). Any other solutions? I am thinking about maybe trying an OT over the summer.

I'm one of the PPs that suggested Lock Laces. Did your DS say where/how they hurt when he's playing? Is he pulling them too tight? I, myself, wear them and have seen a number of tri-athletes wear them so they can quickly change shoes during between events. I'm trying to understand how they hurt and how a different product would be different (not being snarky, seriously trying to picture it).

NP. I'm guessing maybe when he kicks the ball it makes contact with the plastic clip at the top and he can feel that through his shoe??